[HeavenLeiBlu]

Okay, let me say this first, before I go on.
I will take this chance to state how I really don't even like relaxers at all, but this isn't really the time or place to get too high up on a soapbox about it, but I just wanted to put that at there, LOL. I feel like, if you're gonna do it, handle your hair in the gentlest way possible. Having nappy or non- straght hair doesn't mean that its something to beat down and make it cry for help, LOL.
*steps gently down from the soapbox I didn't intend to get on*

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Originally Posted by aziajs

I have to say that I have fine hair and it's not really "coarse", I say nappy, but whatever.

Not picking on you Azia, but I wanted to point something out/piggyback on what Michie said down there, just for future reference for others or whomever missed/might miss it.


If your hair is fine, it's not coarse. This is a common mistake that people make, and one of many reasons why women who relax end up with damaged hair. Coarse is more of a description of hair condition, as opposed to a description of texture and curl pattern, which is what nappy is; and I see how it is easy to confuse the two. My hair is also very fine (very thin and soft strands, very porous) but very nappy ( extremely tight corkscrew girls, varying in diameter from pen springs to pencil size) and THICK ( dense and plentiful all over my head). When my mother relaxed my hair, she made the mistake of confusing the two, so you know she always ended up using SUPER strength as opposed to MILD. No matter what brand she used, went, I ALWAYS ended up with an unsatisfactory result ( over processed hair) because the relaxer was too strong. I was too young to satisfactorily protest and after I was out on my own, I stopped relaxing my hair not too long afterwards, but there was a distinct difference in the results I achieved with the correct relaxer formula and application processing time, and this was across several brands. Now, my daughter on the other hand, have VERY COARSE ( and not porous at all) hair ( like her dad, but his is loosely curled, and like her grandmother, whose hair was bone straight- see the distinction I'm making?) but it is nappy in the crown of her head,and thick like mine, all over. I refuse to put a relaxer in her hair, but her blowouts are dreamy, she should be in a Pantene commercial, LOL. It's because of the coarseness in her hair that it is resistant to chemical alteration and hard to curl, once it's straight.


I say all that to say, just be GENTLE with your hair, ladies, regardless of the condition and texture, and careful even with the styles/styling methods before you mess around looking like a buttahead or forced to a hairline like Susan L. Taylor's( If you don't know her, Google her, baby!).