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post #1 of 166
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Hey all-

 

I was wondering, for those of you who are really into makeup and who own or are busy building up large collections...how do your family and your friends feel about it?  Do you ever get grief for spending "too much money" on it, or does anyone you know not understand why you're so into it?  

Are your friends all into makeup and beauty as well or are you the only one? 

I'm really curious and would like to hear about how you deal with people's reactions to your interest in beauty-related stuff.

 

For me, I don't have any friends that are into makeup at all. I'm hoping that when I go to cosmetology school I'll meet some people who share my obsession ;D  My boyfriend gets it- he's ok with me putting money into it since he saw that I'm not buying makeup in addition to anything else I may want, I'm buying it in place of other things. My mom thinks it's frivolous and will occasionally give me a hard time. She can't comprehend why anyone would need more than a few things to make themselves up each day with the same look. I've gotten some comments/questions from friends about how I can afford so much makeup because they know I'm on a budget. I just explain that they make money in their budgets for their hobbies and interests, like video games, going out to nice restaurants, photography, whatever and that's what makeup is to me- it's not just something I throw on in the morning and don't think about again. It's one of my favorite things.

 

So, I want to hear about how it is for you!  I think this could be a good discussion. 

 

Also, I hope I posted this in the right place since it's a question?

post #2 of 166

my parents dont understand. they sometimes give me a hard time on why i spend so much money on it. i also work my money and paychecks around makeup. im saving up for the mac collection the 28th and also working around the sephora f&f sale friday. im the only 1 of my friends obsessed with it too.

post #3 of 166

I am also the only one from my friends. I mean I have friends who like makeup but not to the extent that I do. Even my co-workers know about my addiction. I just tell them, I don't have kids I'm allowed to splurge on myself. Now the hubby understands and then he doesn't. Sometimes I get the, "more makeup" but he doesn't understand I DON'T HAVE THIS ONE! lol I'm already planning my MAKEUP SHOW trip in LA.

post #4 of 166
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likay2nv-I was torn between A Tartan Tale and Sephora F&F myself and I had to kind of decide between the two as I am strapped for cash the next few weeks. At least if you're supporting yourself no one can tell you what to do with your money though it kinda sucks to get a hard time over it regardless.

 

XicanaQueen-It's lonely being the only one among your friends to be into makeup. It would be like that with anything you're into, it's nice to have people to share it with. The makeup trip- is that IMATS?  So exciting!!

 

It's hard being the only one among the people you know that's into makeup or anything for that matter. Not having people to share interests with can get lonely... so thank goodness for Specktra! lol. At least we can connect with each other through this site. When I tell people I meet that I blog about makeup and beauty-related topics it's like their eyes glaze over and they struggle to say something positive. If I blogged about, say,  politics or even movies I know the people around me would be more interested.

post #5 of 166

Pretty much the only person in my life that understands is my boyfriend and he completely understands it, he just thinks it is pretty expensive.  Which I suppose is the most important person considering I live with him.

 

Other than that I have some friends that think it is outrageous and do not comprehend why someone would want to have that much makeup.  Everyone else just thinks it's my 'thing' and doesn't really care, they just don't get it. 

 

 

And yes, I must agree I love that we can all gather here on Specktra because I would feel VERY lonely without it. Some days (well most) all I want to do is just talk about makeup and when you can't do that in person its soo nice to know at least you can on here!! smiles.gif

post #6 of 166

I'm the only one of my friends who likes makeup as much as I do. I love love it. My parents have absolutely NO problem with it because my mom went to cosmetology school and she loves doing people's hair occasionally on the weekends so she buys tons and tons of hair items. She has a couple of MUA friends so she know's what I'm going through. She just hopes it's not a phase since I'm only seventeen and could grow out of it.

post #7 of 166

Oh gosh well my dad things I'm so silly for dishing out so much money on a few eyeshadows. My mom doesn't really care because she knows I want to be a makeup artist someday.

I wish I had friends who loved makeup as much as me! They think i'm weird for saving up money for makeup rather than clothes or going out.

post #8 of 166

I keep it to myself mostly, since I know they wouldn't get it. I have let my younger sister in on my addiction, but only because she has expressed an interest.

post #9 of 166

I am the only person in my family thats wear makeup, let alone be obsessed with it. I think my love first came from playing in a friend's makeup stash. No one in my family is bothered by it, in fact they encourage my talent because they know I want to be a MUA one day. My boyfriend has been very supportive, he even gave me the entire spare room of our apartment to store my makeup in, and I also use it as my "studio" when I am doing someone's makeup.

post #10 of 166
Thread Starter 

Thanks for all the replies! It's interesting to hear about and I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way and I'm extra glad we have Specktra so we can obsess with each other!

post #11 of 166

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Well, my hubby enables it, & none of my other sisters are into makeup. I have one friend who loves it almost as much as I do - all the rest,  it doesn't matter what they think.

 

Thats why we are all here greengrin.gif we get each others obsession with all things makeup

post #12 of 166

My mother rolls her eyes at me sometimes and tells me I'm crazy. When I told her I'd like her to ship some of my lipsticks to me (I moved 1000 miles away from home this summer), she got a bit uffy and said, "You don't need all of that!" She also makes comments about some of my makeup and laughs afterwards, which is her "polite" way of saying she doesn't like something. She really doesn't wear makeup anymore...I think she thinks of herself as "old" now, which is a shame, because my mother is the most beautiful woman in the world.

 

My dad has always stood up for me, strangely enough, and was really perplexed when I told him I wasn't taking all of it to grad school right away.

 

My brother doesn't think too much of it and actually helps me pick out nail polishes and eyeshadows (purple is his favorite color, so I don't even try to ask him "which one" if there's a purple :P).

 

My sister kind of likes makeup herself, but God, her application...LOL! She doesn't have the patience to actually sit down and learn how to do things, so she usually just calls me in to do it for her.

 

Strangely, when I announced to my family that I plan on getting rid of at least 25% of my stash over Christmas break, they resisted. O_o

 

I have a few friends who are in to makeup, but only one who is close to as interested/obsessed as I am. My two best friends from undergrad used to always let me paint on their faces, LOL!

post #13 of 166

My mom can't imagine how I can have more than one eyeshadow. She doesn't get that I need variety. It takes at least 3 colors for one look! And then different looks through out the week. I have different shades of nude lipsticks and that drives her nuts. However for my birthday this month she got me a 50 dollars gift certificate. So she must be somewhat okay with it. I mean I'm an adult and spend my own money lol

post #14 of 166

lol.. my mother never realized that after two degrees and a corp life I would be working with MU.. and now she thinks it's a blast.. relax and just do your thing

post #15 of 166

Good advice! I'm in a similar situation. I'm trying to make the transition from a corporate job to becoming a makeup artist. My family doesn't understand why I would want to ever leave a comfy, desk job but I have dreams of making it in the industry and working for myself one day. I know they'll come around soon...I'm starting to realize that you can't make everyone happy and you just have to do what makes you happy most of all!!

 

 

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post #16 of 166

Hubby complains a little bit.  He doesn't get it but I don't expect him to.  What really bugs him is that my Mom and I can talk daily - for hours - about makeup! 

post #17 of 166
Thread Starter 

"I have a few friends who are in to makeup, but only one who is close to as interested/obsessed as I am. My two best friends from undergrad used to always let me paint on their faces, LOL!"

 

That's one perk I forgot about being the only one among your friends...you get lots of opportunities to practice on willing models! lol.  I love doing my friends makeup and hair. The more I care about someone the more I love to do it honestly. I give my other half painstaking blowouts..he has shoulder length crazy-curly hair and loves when it's straight. I have a couple friends who are always asking me to do their hair or makeup for when we go out. It's so fun to see the boost it can give someone's mood when they love how they look!

 

post #18 of 166
My mom loved MAC before I did so she totally supports my obsession. My dad is mostly amused but is used to it because of my mom. See she looooves make up. My mom wears makeup and falsies everyday. Love her!

My husband is okay with it and understands that I'm a collector as well.

None of my friends or co workers are into makeup unfortunately. Wish I had a mu obsessed bff to haul with though :/
post #19 of 166

My mom finally saw my entire collection (not that I've a lot) a few months ago and she didn't think I'm crazy! When she was younger, she had a lot of them too!  She wears makeup to work everyday. That explains why both my sisters and I are into cosmetics.

 

My husband's very supportive but I've never asked for money from him to buy MAC. My mother-in-law thinks he should at least pay half of my makeup bill *lol* 

 

I've a few close friends who are into makeup as well but they live on the other side of the world... 

post #20 of 166

my boyfriend doenst really get it, but he's a bloke, i dont expect him too, but he knows i get excited about it, and tells me i look 'pretty' whenever i do something nice. he hasnt seen the 'collection' yet, its so organised that i dont think he dares open my desk drawers to see. its all tucked away in palettes and organised in drawers so i dont think to anyone wandering through my bedroom it looks like a lot. unless i was to leave my desk drawers open! he does groan and complain when i make him go to mac with me though!

 

my dad asked me the other day if i want to do make up as a career, he's so cute, i was like hell yeah! i went to art college though, so i think he sees it as a creative outlet

 

my mum is jealous! she asks me to do her make up, so cute, i also give her things i dont want, like things that were good, but i dont really use

same goes for my sis, she reaps the benefits of my purging sessions where i go nuts and give her and my mum a load of stuff i dont use anymore.  like i gave my sister my soft and gentle msf when i got shimpagne, because they are so unbelievably similar. i also gave her some pigment samples and mes!

post #21 of 166

My mother doesn't get it...she thinks its a vain activity and 'just for play'. I just just wish that she could see it as a way to express myself and be artistic! My BF doesn't really care, and is very supportive though so it balances out. My friends are into makeup, but not as much as I am.

post #22 of 166

Not a lot of the people who are close to me know how obsessed I am with makeup. My mom definitely knows, and a few of my best friends, but otherwise... no one, really. Specktra is where I go on and on about makeup, and outside of it, I have lots of other interests. A lot of the people I go to school with don't see me as makeup obsessed but music obsessed, for example.

 

The people who do know don't really get it. Of course, I give my mom anything I don't want or don't like, but I think she does get frustrated with how much time and money I put into it. But, she knows it makes me happy, and since I've found it as an outlet, I've been a much happier person, so I think she's okay with it.

 

I am the only one amongst my friends who is this obsessed, for sure. A lot of my friends don't bother with makeup actually. They support me and let me do theirs if we're going out or something, but I'm so thankful for Specktra because I don't think they'd put up with me talking about it all the time.

 

Also, it's not like my collection is super huge. Yet. sneaky.gif Jk, jk. But, I don't just buy something to have it. I think that's why they're more supportive of it. I buy something because I genuinely want it- not because it's on sale or trending.

 

Actually, I lied. I do have one friend who's pretty into makeup, but I never discuss it with her. She's one of those people that takes makeup-related suggestions very harshly, and she wears the wrong color of foundation and it drives me crazy. I don't know why she does that since she does know a lot about it, but to each their own I guess. winkiss.gif

post #23 of 166

This is such a good topic!

 

I dont have any makeup addict friends, Im all alone!

My family really didnt know how much I love makeup until my ma, grandma, and myself went to a CCO and I spent 100. My mom flipped at the register but I was trying to tell her that I only spend 100 because I wanted to buy some boots and I would have spent much more. At that point, they knew I spend alot but they still dont know how much.

 

My boyfriend (who I live with) know how much I love makeup by the packages that comes to our house and going to macys every week. He doesnt like how much I spend but he likes the fact that I found such a hobby that makes me happy.

 

I learned not to talk about makeup around my friends or family because I dont want to get asked about how much I spend. No one understands ssad.gif

post #24 of 166

Ahhh I like this topic! greengrin.gif Thanks for starting it! smiles.gif 
 

Well mum was kinda like telling me to stop spending on makeup! Haha like my mum & sis do use makeup but they have a collection for a normal human, while I don't. Mine can last generations! tong.gif haha  My mum doesn't really know exactly how much I spend, but she knows it quite abit.

 

My friends were alright with it & some of them are more into makeup now (because of my influence tong.gif ) Same thing with my youtube channel, one of my best friend is really really supportive about my channel & so is my mum but I feel SO awkward letting her watch my videos! tong.gif 

post #25 of 166

I have by no means a big collection of makeup, but my family do all make comments, especially when my monthly MAC order gets delivered. To be honest though, I buy it all with my own money and I don't go out drinking numerous times a week so in that sense I don't see an issue with it. Having low self-esteem, wearing makeup makes me feel more confident and if I'm wearing what I'd consider a 'pretty' product, that's going to make ME feel pretty. 

post #26 of 166
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I have by no means a big collection of makeup, but my family do all make comments, especially when my monthly MAC order gets delivered. To be honest though, I buy it all with my own money and I don't go out drinking numerous times a week so in that sense I don't see an issue with it. Having low self-esteem, wearing makeup makes me feel more confident and if I'm wearing what I'd consider a 'pretty' product, that's going to make ME feel pretty. 

 

 

I think it's normal to feel that way. You know that feeling after you've been to the salon and had something you love done to your hair, or when you have on a new outfit, or killer makeup? I think lots of us enjoy the way those things make us feel  ;D   (As long as you don't depend on outside factors to feel good about yourself all the time)  That's why I have such respect for makeup artists and hair stylists because it's their talented hands that help make that happen. The main reason I love makeup is just because it's fun for me and it lets me be creative... but feeling pretty when I wear it doesn't hurt!

post #27 of 166

I am the only one out of my friends/family who is passionate about makeup. But those who know me love me for it and know that it's just me expressing myself smiles.gif

post #28 of 166

Even though I'm very into learning application techniques, watching videos, surfing blogs/forums and ogling makeup, I don't buy a whole lot. I'm not a serious collector; I only want things I will use and only want an things that I will be able to use in a reasonable amount of time.

 

My husband is very supportive and happy about my interest, as he's into F/X makeup, photo shoots and character creation. It complements his interests. He often encourages me to "treat" myself with makeup, although I rarely do because we're on a pretty tight budget at the moment. He seems to like the more daring looks and loves bright lips.

 

My Mom has always been fastidiously groomed. We don't share the same taste in clothes or beauty (she's conservative; I'm not), but we both like to be well put together.

 

The only people who have ever been discouraging or rude were either people who were cranky and looking for something to pick at, those who pride themselves on terrible grooming habits as if it was a sign of higher intelligence (as if grooming and smarts were mutually exclusive), or the kind of woman who feels threatened by other women and tends to gripe if anyone else looks nice. Those people all suck (and some of them smelled, too), so I never pay attention to them.

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I think it's normal to feel that way. You know that feeling after you've been to the salon and had something you love done to your hair, or when you have on a new outfit, or killer makeup? I think lots of us enjoy the way those things make us feel  ;D   (As long as you don't depend on outside factors to feel good about yourself all the time)  That's why I have such respect for makeup artists and hair stylists because it's their talented hands that help make that happen. The main reason I love makeup is just because it's fun for me and it lets me be creative... but feeling pretty when I wear it doesn't hurt!

 

 

I completely agree! It's not so much about looking 'pretty' for me, it's just plain fun and I enjoy it! winks.gif
 

post #30 of 166

Sadly, I'm the only one. There's only one (1) person that gets it and I love her dearly for it <3 She always says when I'm justifying myself and others my another splurge : "So what, if they can spend on DVDs, games, shoes, going out, clothes, you can too on two lipsticks to make you this pretty'' And it's simple as that. I earn my own money (which is no way near being enough ) but hey, what I have, I like to spend on stuff my face loves smiles.gif My mom has two lipsticks, an eyeliner and a mascara in her purse and thats all she needs. When she runs out of a product, she goes out and replaces it and still ends up having  2 lipsticks. Sometimes she makes a comment on how nice my makeup looks and then I say: ''You think it's possible to look like this having one blush?'' (she insists that one blush is more than enough) What I love about all this obsession is helping out my friends (they always come to me when they want to buy new foundation, new hair product, new face moisturizer) and ask my advice. But, they want me to say ''Buy this and that'' but I go on and on and on...

Love writing wish lists, crossing things off when I finally get it, saving money for next order, swaping... Oh, joy!!

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