Wow. I'm glad that I came across this thread. Hair boards, can sometimes be overwhelming. I'm only 7 months post relaxer, and I've been wearing sew-in weaves. My hair is about APL and very thick. I'm definitely a 4c, 4d, and 5a textured person, and my hair has issues retaining moisture.
I'm at a crossroads as to what to do with my hair. I like to wear my hair straight, but I'd like the freedom to wear wash and gos. However, I have a very round, big cheeked face that I don't think looks as nice with short hair (yes, I somewhat hide behind my hair).
Also, I don't know how to braid or twist hair- which is a problem since it severely limits my styling options. But, my hair is so textured that I don't know how realistic it is for me to expect my hair to have any real health, in a relaxed and/or constantly heat straightened state.
So, I don't know if I'm going to continue to not relax, and be addicted to flat irons, blow outs, and/or sew in weaves for the rest of my life. Or, if I'm going to just bite the bullet and wear my natural hair- which I know will require a lot of patience and styling time.
Anyone with 4c, 4d hair have any suggestions?