Raerae
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I think thats the part that stops a lot of friends from going out. IMHO it does change everything. I've turned down guy friends b4, and sometimes it does make things really wierd. Just because I also wonder if I'm around him if he's still secretly likes me, even though he says he's over it and knows I'm not into him. Or is he just hanging out so he can be around me and hope that it will turn around.
Honestly for me, once I've turned someone down i usually dont ever want to see that person again. Thats why I rarely ever date friends and the few guys friends I have know this. Not to mention all the drama it brings by dating someone in your friends circle if the couple involved breaks up. Especially if it's a bad breakup, who's people end up being forced to choose sides, who they wanna hang out with, etc etc etc. Especially for me since all my relationships thus far have ended in breakup, thats more drama than I want to deal with.
So i generally stick to dating people i dont know before, or only know very casually (as in we see each other at something we attend, but we dont hang out anywhere else). This way if something goes wrong, it doesn't have much of an impact on the rest of my life. I think it's important to keep some parts of your life seperate, this way if one part falls apart (relationship) you still have another stable part to fall back on for support (friends that you have seperate from your "couple friends").
I already learned from my mistakes and from friends mistakes when we were all dating each others friends. Drama alert LOL. I even dated a roomates EX (well they were never oficially a couple but you get the drift) once, and omg did that create drama (was fun though for a moment LOL)
| Originally Posted by LisaR You'll still be friends though it might be a little weird at first...but it will more than likely work itself out. |
I think thats the part that stops a lot of friends from going out. IMHO it does change everything. I've turned down guy friends b4, and sometimes it does make things really wierd. Just because I also wonder if I'm around him if he's still secretly likes me, even though he says he's over it and knows I'm not into him. Or is he just hanging out so he can be around me and hope that it will turn around.
Honestly for me, once I've turned someone down i usually dont ever want to see that person again. Thats why I rarely ever date friends and the few guys friends I have know this. Not to mention all the drama it brings by dating someone in your friends circle if the couple involved breaks up. Especially if it's a bad breakup, who's people end up being forced to choose sides, who they wanna hang out with, etc etc etc. Especially for me since all my relationships thus far have ended in breakup, thats more drama than I want to deal with.
So i generally stick to dating people i dont know before, or only know very casually (as in we see each other at something we attend, but we dont hang out anywhere else). This way if something goes wrong, it doesn't have much of an impact on the rest of my life. I think it's important to keep some parts of your life seperate, this way if one part falls apart (relationship) you still have another stable part to fall back on for support (friends that you have seperate from your "couple friends").
I already learned from my mistakes and from friends mistakes when we were all dating each others friends. Drama alert LOL. I even dated a roomates EX (well they were never oficially a couple but you get the drift) once, and omg did that create drama (was fun though for a moment LOL)
