Is love possible to find online? Am I crazy? or desperate?

Boasorte

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OKay so here's the thing, I've been talking to this guy online for a few months, coming to a year in Feburary
We actaully 'met' on a random thread on a Facebook group, sharing our love ( insert sarcastic tone here) of customer service jobs, he friend requested me, then we started emailing, then IMing, then SKyping.
Thing is, he doesn't live in this country, he live in England.
We talk and Skype almost every day, and he's planning a trip to come see me soon. He's super nice, fun to talk to, and we have similar personalities. I know this sounds crazy but I'm like super crushing on someone I haven't even met yet. Is this even possible? Or am I too much in love with the idea of being in love?
 

TISH1124

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Well everyone knows how I feel about my husband....as much as I talk about him and I met him online....We always said we would never tell anyone because we thought people would frown about it...But after we started dating seriously we were like screw it...we are not gonna start our life out based on a lie

We chatted for months and talked on the phone...I was pretty smitten by the time we first met...so yes it happens...

I too have been smitten and excited to meet a guy...then met him and was like....
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this is not gonna work...sometimes they send their representative online and over the phone...then when you meet who they really are..you are like wtf...Like why did you fake the funk...don't act like the guy you think I am looking for...be you...it eventually will come out
 

Simply Elegant

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It's possible. It can be easier to learn more about a person over the internet but it's also easier to pretend to be like someone else at the same time. I wouldn't claim anything yet until you meet him because he could be different than what you expected, but I still think it's possible. Does he know you like him?
 

gildedangel

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Well I don't know you so I can't say whether you are in love with the idea of being in love, but I will share this. My uncle 17 years after a VERY nasty divorce found the love of his life online. He got two matches on a dating site and she was one of them. She moved here, then after getting engaged moved in with him. They were engaged for 4 years and have been happily married for 2 years!
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MACATTAK

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My friend recently got married for the 3rd time, and she met him online. Let's hope this time is the charm!
 

Boasorte

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Tish u met ur hubby online? That's sweet, and I understand where ur coming from, I talk about him ALL the time, and just today SKyping him, someone goes " who is that guy with the ENglish accent"? And I'm too ashamed to say I met him online, idk why
He feel the same way about me, and it's funny because he's not even 'my type'
He's like this metalhead, punk, athiest who just like totally different things than I do, but it just WORKS.
He's just a sweet guy, and I am so excited to finally meet him in a few months
I don't think, no I know he's not being a phony person, u know sometimes you just know these things. I can't stop thinking about him, this is so crazy, but I really wanted to know if it's possible, he thinks it is as well
 

TISH1124

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY
Tish u met ur hubby online? That's sweet, and I understand where ur coming from, I talk about him ALL the time, and just today SKyping him, someone goes " who is that guy with the ENglish accent"? And I'm too ashamed to say I met him online, idk why
He feel the same way about me, and it's funny because he's not even 'my type'
He's like this metalhead, punk, athiest who just like totally different things than I do, but it just WORKS.
He's just a sweet guy, and I am so excited to finally meet him in a few months
I don't think, no I know he's not being a phony person, u know sometimes you just know these things. I can't stop thinking about him, this is so crazy, but I really wanted to know if it's possible, he thinks it is as well


My husband was 100% not my normal type....When I told him that he said "Good" because your normal types obvioulsy have not worked out in the past. I learned that my type is a man that is Handsome, Secure, Knows how to treat a woman, One that is Kind, Accepts and loves my son as his own, Protective and loves me more than life itself...That is the man I met online and that is the man I married.
 

malaviKat

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Normal or not.. I've done it. My bf and I have been together for nine years (lived together for two)....and we met online. Mind you, we did not have the barriers of distance that you guys face (we lived on opposite ends of a major city...not in two distinct regions of the world) but geography did keep us separate for a while. That said, I did not fall in love with him online (nor any of other the guys I met online and and subsequently dated). I was attracted to him online and we eventually met to decide whether it was actually going to work.

I agree with TISH's comment about the importance of accurately representing oneself. No point in pretending to be the right person online...in real life if you aren't, it'll be readily apparent.

Oh and as for love... there are some days when we don't seem to like each other... but we still love each other. :p
 

TISH1124

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^^^ That is our line lol...When we're mad...My dh always says...I know you're mad but do you still love me.....and My response is alwyas...Yeah I love you ...But I sure as hell don't like you a whole lot at this moment
 

xxManBeaterxx

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I met my husband on summer break in California when i was 16. I lived in hawaii and he lived in jersey, we exchanged AIM screen names... In high school i was a painfully shy person, and through IM i was able to let down my wall and open my heart to another. If we started dating in real life, i doubt i would be with him.

We dated long distance for 2 years before i was able to go to college in jersey, and were still together almost 8 years later. So it is very possible to find love anywhere...
 

Redz24

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I think it depends on the person, I'm not slating it because I haven't done it.

But statistics for ya (to the best of my ability to remember lol), at the moment there is a advert on TV in the UK, it's for eharmony, a dating site.

According to it 4 million americans get married every year, and 2% of them met on eharmony
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Boasorte

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Originally Posted by gildedangel
Well I don't know you so I can't say whether you are in love with the idea of being in love, but I will share this. My uncle 17 years after a VERY nasty divorce found the love of his life online. He got two matches on a dating site and she was one of them. She moved here, then after getting engaged moved in with him. They were engaged for 4 years and have been happily married for 2 years!
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thats so sweet!
I wish I can move to England, but he wants to move to the USA HAHAHA
 

Boasorte

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Originally Posted by malaviKat
Normal or not.. I've done it. My bf and I have been together for nine years (lived together for two)....and we met online. Mind you, we did not have the barriers of distance that you guys face (we lived on opposite ends of a major city...not in two distinct regions of the world) but geography did keep us separate for a while. That said, I did not fall in love with him online (nor any of other the guys I met online and and subsequently dated). I was attracted to him online and we eventually met to decide whether it was actually going to work.

I agree with TISH's comment about the importance of accurately representing oneself. No point in pretending to be the right person online...in real life if you aren't, it'll be readily apparent.

Oh and as for love... there are some days when we don't seem to like each other... but we still love each other. :p


I have a good feeling when we meet, we will connect. I should have worded myself better, I am attracted to him online, and just hope when he starts making frequent trips here if/when we initaly(spelling?) hit it off, it will lead to something more
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malaviKat

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY
I have a good feeling when we meet, we will connect. I should have worded myself better, I am attracted to him online, and just hope when he starts making frequent trips here if/when we initaly(spelling?) hit it off, it will lead to something more
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I hope it all works out for you.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with meeting people this way, as long as you do it smartly and safely. There are tons of horror stories involving the internet and internet dating (but then again there are tons of horror stories involving dating in general). :p
Be yourself, be cautious and hopefully your online chemistry will translate.
 

LMD84

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i think it's possibvle for people to find love online. i think that alot of people also find some duds online but that's the same in 'real life' right? as long as when you meet him for real he's still the same kind of person you were talking to online i see no issue in it. many of my friends ahve met people and have had long relationships with people they met on forums, dating sites and networking sites. in fact the forum that my hubbys old work used to have actually had a couple meet on there - one in scotland and one in england and they fell in love and got married.
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Boasorte

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Quote:
Originally Posted by Redz24
I think it depends on the person, I'm not slating it because I haven't done it.

But statistics for ya (to the best of my ability to remember lol), at the moment there is a advert on TV in the UK, it's for eharmony, a dating site.

According to it 4 million americans get married every year, and 2% of them met on eharmony
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interesting, and sweet, I love happy endings like that, people marrying online n such
 

ninaxmac

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I met my boyfriend online in 2007 like a month before I graduated high school. I was not on myspace to date because at the time I found it "lame", but we went from leaving each other silly comments to talking on AIM ALL DAY to exchanging phone numbers and talking all night. What's so funny is when we first met online I was living a few states away then my father who is in the military got stationed to a state next to where my bf lives and I was accepted into a school an hour and a half away from him. This all happened a few months before me and my bf even became friends on myspace and when we look back on how it all came into place we don't see it as a coincidence. We always said we would meet once I got to school and received my car, but things happen and I didn't get my car until last semester.....anyways we finally met this summer on July 11th me and my best friend drove down to see him because he didn't want me to come alone to a place I have never been....and I just saw him again last friday. Our first time meeting wasn't awkward at all I mean I was nervous but after we finally saw each other it felt like any other day like we have been seeing each other for the past 2 years. So yes I know online relationships can work as long as both people in the relationship are willing to put the time and effort into making it work. It took me 2 years to finally see him, but I don't regret anything.
 

Boasorte

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Originally Posted by ninaxmac
I met my boyfriend online in 2007 like a month before I graduated high school. I was not on myspace to date because at the time I found it "lame", but we went from leaving each other silly comments to talking on AIM ALL DAY to exchanging phone numbers and talking all night. What's so funny is when we first met online I was living a few states away then my father who is in the military got stationed to a state next to where my bf lives and I was accepted into a school an hour and a half away from him. This all happened a few months before me and my bf even became friends on myspace and when we look back on how it all came into place we don't see it as a coincidence. We always said we would meet once I got to school and received my car, but things happen and I didn't get my car until last semester.....anyways we finally met this summer on July 11th me and my best friend drove down to see him because he didn't want me to come alone to a place I have never been....and I just saw him again last friday. Our first time meeting wasn't awkward at all I mean I was nervous but after we finally saw each other it felt like any other day like we have been seeing each other for the past 2 years. So yes I know online relationships can work as long as both people in the relationship are willing to put the time and effort into making it work. It took me 2 years to finally see him, but I don't regret anything.


....WOW
 

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