Chikky
Well-known member
I need advice.
Short story is: My only/best friend (kinda more than friends, though that in itself is a LONG story. We've cooled off since a big blowup in October) has come out to me that he suffers from depression. I had thought as much for a long time, but it wasn't really my place to ask or assume.
He's not on medication for a few reasons. They don't need to be listed, but they are valid. But anyway, that's not the point.
What can I do? I mean, I want to help him. And yes, I just try and 'be there' for him all the time. But I feel like I can do more. I've gotten past the point of thinking that being with me should make him happy. I know it doesn't work that way. But every time he gets into a funk I feel... Lost or abandoned.
He had a death in the family this past week, and while it was expected, it's just hitting him now. He said he feels good mentally but he is just physically affected. He doesn't want to DO anything but sleep. He's out of it. He has no interests. So, our normal plans are going out the window. And that's ok, I told him that I just want him to feel better. To sleep, to do whatever he needs to do. I back off. I don't know what else to do!
I actually feel sort of selfish... feeling so alone and abandoned when he gets like this. I just wish I could help.
Does anyone have any experience or advice with this? It would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
Short story is: My only/best friend (kinda more than friends, though that in itself is a LONG story. We've cooled off since a big blowup in October) has come out to me that he suffers from depression. I had thought as much for a long time, but it wasn't really my place to ask or assume.
He's not on medication for a few reasons. They don't need to be listed, but they are valid. But anyway, that's not the point.
What can I do? I mean, I want to help him. And yes, I just try and 'be there' for him all the time. But I feel like I can do more. I've gotten past the point of thinking that being with me should make him happy. I know it doesn't work that way. But every time he gets into a funk I feel... Lost or abandoned.
He had a death in the family this past week, and while it was expected, it's just hitting him now. He said he feels good mentally but he is just physically affected. He doesn't want to DO anything but sleep. He's out of it. He has no interests. So, our normal plans are going out the window. And that's ok, I told him that I just want him to feel better. To sleep, to do whatever he needs to do. I back off. I don't know what else to do!
I actually feel sort of selfish... feeling so alone and abandoned when he gets like this. I just wish I could help.
Does anyone have any experience or advice with this? It would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.