Emotional Abuse from Partner can't take it no more.

[macface]

I'm currently living with my daughters dad at the moment. I'm a 24 yrs old stay at home mom/college student. my boyfriend and I are always fighting over and over about his stupid addiction to being in the computer 24/7 He has serious problem he wont pay attention to my daughter or to me. Every time i tried to talk to him in ends up in a bight fight he would call me stupid and always blames for everything. My other problem is I have anxiety and chest pain when I stress he knows about this but does not care at all.

I'm trying to move back to my moms house but she really does not want to take me in because like I said I'm a stay at home mom and I don't have a job.My youngest sister who is an adult already still lives with my mom and shes does not have a job. I understand that I need to help her with the house but I can't take what I'm going through anymore.

 

[Sexya(TM)?Princess]

i'd stay and try to work it out with him.

id unplug the computer and stick the freaking modem in my car trunk or somewhere else away from him if it was that bad.he might even need serious help too, i hope its not porn hes addicted to. i hate the internet so much for that stuff.

 

[SkylarV217]

honey I'm so sorry , I know exactly what you are going through.... Does he mistreat you in any other way besides not paying attention . ( that is bad enough on its own) But if there is anything more than That I say GET OUT. Your daughter is old enough to know what a fight is and that her daddy is mistreating her mommy. Children especially girls that watch their mothers being treated that way end up in the same kind of relationships when they grow up. I saw it in my best friend growing up ... Her mother was my mom's best friend and we were born a month apart. Her father abused her mother terribly and when she married a real SOB that did the same thing to her.

I commend you for going to school and taking care of your daughter, but no mater what your situation is. You deserve to be treated with respect. If there is anything less than that for your health and sanity you need to do whatever you can to move on. If you won't do it for you , do it for your daughter. Maybe with your mom and sister in the same house , if they would be willing to help with your daughter... you could get a part time job. Just talk to your mom and tell her the situation and ask her if she would be willing to help so that you can get a job. I know its hard but possible. I worked full time went to school full time and kept my son .... It sucked but was worth it to make our lives better in the end . good luck

 

[Beauty Mark]

If things are truly that awful, GET OUT. It's not healthy for you or your daughter.

You may have to make sacrifices, like get a job and go to school part-time. Other than your family, do you have anyone else who can help?

 

[hhunt2]

I went thru a similar situation (my ex and I didn't live together and we don't have kids). But he would call me a "bitch" all the time & he would call me "fat" (he wouldn't say that word exactly, but he would give the hints, even though I was 5'5 130 lbs- and I looked pretty good). I recall one time that he dragged me out of his car and my head hit the cement. He would spend hours on the internet chatting with girls in chatrooms or Myspace... basically he didn't treat me liked he loved me (he didn't want me around).

I had to deal with this for a year and a half. There was so much emotional pain, and it lead to me trying to committ suicide 5 times (but it never worked). After I heard the All American Rejects song "Move Along"... that song made me realized to get out of that relationship.

For you and your daughter, leave that relationship.
If your daughter see's and hear's the both of you fighting alot, when she grows up she will think that is the way of a "normal" relationship. Plus stress can cause more health issues. Your mom should understand your situation. My mom has always pushed me to finish school and she would help me, but I decided to move out and have a real job. If anything, tell your mom you'll clean the house then help financially when you get a job (compromise). Do whatever you can to save the life of you and your daughter.

 

[melliquor]

I would get out of the relationship. He will never change no matter what you do. You don't know if it will escalate to other forms of abuse. I went through a emotionally and physically abusive relationship for years. He never changed but I always told myself that he would or that is what happens when somebody loves you.

My father beat my mother everday. I still remember it to this day. I let me daughter's father do the same thing to me for 7 years. Now, I am with somebody that loves me and would never touch me or hurt me. I told him in the beginning... if you ever lay a hand on me, I will kill you. It was harsh but that is what I needed to say. I will never be a victim again.

You are better than that and deserve alot better. Talk to your mom and like somebody said... try to reach a compromise with her. She is your mother and will help you if she knows what you are going through.

Good luck and take care of yourself.