Chastity
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Kris and I were best friends for over 6 years. The past two years or so we haven't been as close, because of new friends, new experiences, school, things like that. But I have always been in touch and tried to hang out when I could, but I always felt like she didn't want to. This semester we had a class together and just started talking more and I felt like I was getting my best friend back.
Her mom, Sharon, is a drama queen and thinks that she always has the answer to everything and always tries to influence people to her way of thinking, which has rubbed off on Kris, she and her mom are a lot alike.
Anyways, her mom visits my boyfriend at work, texts him, brings him lunch, and has a picture of him on her desk at her work. She never visits me or texts me. My boyfriend and Kris aren't even close friends! My boyfriend has always felt weird when Sharon did things like that and always told me about it.
I mentioned, in a half-joking way, to Kris that her mom has a thing for my boyfriend. I told her about the texts and everything, and she didn't seem pissed off so I didn't think she was! Turns out she was.
Two days later I get a text from Kris saying that her mom found out what I said and that she was really upset with me. Later on, I sign in to Myspace to see that Kris has removed me from her top friends and has a nice little quote about her "real friends" and she referred to me as an asshole. I mean, its Myspace, not a big deal, but still, lets grow up, k?
I sent her a message saying that if she was going to be like that about something that I didn't even mean to upset anyone about, then I didn't want to associate with her anymore. I told her to get with me and try to work it out and I apologized for upsetting her mom. And I asked her why she didn't tell me that what I said made her mad(which she took as me trying to blame her for the whole thing).
She calls me and leaves me some pretty mean voicemails saying that what I did was "tacky" and that she was "over me a long time ago". (Would have been nice to know when I was wondering when you always canceled plans and never wanted to hang out...)
So I call her back and she brings up stuff that happened years ago. No, I haven't been the perfect friend. She hasn't either! She basically turned the whole thing into what I've done in the past to upset her, things I thought she had forgiven me for!
We haven't really spoken since then. I really want to talk to her about it and get things cleared up, even if we decide not to be friends. I feel like she is just going to turn everything around on me.
Did I do anything wrong? I should have kept that comment about her mom to myself, but I really think they overreacted!
Her mom, Sharon, is a drama queen and thinks that she always has the answer to everything and always tries to influence people to her way of thinking, which has rubbed off on Kris, she and her mom are a lot alike.
Anyways, her mom visits my boyfriend at work, texts him, brings him lunch, and has a picture of him on her desk at her work. She never visits me or texts me. My boyfriend and Kris aren't even close friends! My boyfriend has always felt weird when Sharon did things like that and always told me about it.
I mentioned, in a half-joking way, to Kris that her mom has a thing for my boyfriend. I told her about the texts and everything, and she didn't seem pissed off so I didn't think she was! Turns out she was.
Two days later I get a text from Kris saying that her mom found out what I said and that she was really upset with me. Later on, I sign in to Myspace to see that Kris has removed me from her top friends and has a nice little quote about her "real friends" and she referred to me as an asshole. I mean, its Myspace, not a big deal, but still, lets grow up, k?
I sent her a message saying that if she was going to be like that about something that I didn't even mean to upset anyone about, then I didn't want to associate with her anymore. I told her to get with me and try to work it out and I apologized for upsetting her mom. And I asked her why she didn't tell me that what I said made her mad(which she took as me trying to blame her for the whole thing).
She calls me and leaves me some pretty mean voicemails saying that what I did was "tacky" and that she was "over me a long time ago". (Would have been nice to know when I was wondering when you always canceled plans and never wanted to hang out...)
So I call her back and she brings up stuff that happened years ago. No, I haven't been the perfect friend. She hasn't either! She basically turned the whole thing into what I've done in the past to upset her, things I thought she had forgiven me for!
We haven't really spoken since then. I really want to talk to her about it and get things cleared up, even if we decide not to be friends. I feel like she is just going to turn everything around on me.
Did I do anything wrong? I should have kept that comment about her mom to myself, but I really think they overreacted!