cno64
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Some excellent points!
If your aunt were making a sincere effort to get help and turn things around, it would be an entirely different ball game. However, I don't get the feeling that's the case.
People who don't know any better may tell you, "Well, if you would be really careful to always do and say the right thing, everything would be fine."
Not.
Certainly, you should not abuse your aunt (and it doesn't sound like you do), but any attempt to "make her well" by wearing yourself out trying to always do and say the exact "right thing" will just make you a nervous wreck, and your aunt will still have the same problems she's always had.
She has some *very* hard work to do, to get to the real root of her troubles, if things are ever really going to change.
I really feel for all of you.
Originally Posted by X4biddenxLustX
There are people out there who have different types of problems going on and maybe aren't thinking clearly but do WANT to get help and get better. Your aunt just doesn't seem to be one of those people. It seems as if she just wants the attention, and everything to be focused and catered to her. I feel that letting her into your own home and maybe even life once your independent would be like allowing poison into your life. You obviously am not having a good situation with her living with you right now and it's probably not going to change later on in the future. Sometimes you have to think of yourself and what's best for yourself above others especially if the relationship between you and the other person is toxic. But I really do hope that you are able to move out soon and get away from all this mess. It would be a lot healthier and less stressful for you. And don't let your family "guilt" you into feeling bad about this whole thing with you and your aunt. There's a good reason why you feel this way and actually feel glad that you are able to see through your aunt's manipulative behavior and actions and not be willing to go along with them. |
Some excellent points!
If your aunt were making a sincere effort to get help and turn things around, it would be an entirely different ball game. However, I don't get the feeling that's the case.
People who don't know any better may tell you, "Well, if you would be really careful to always do and say the right thing, everything would be fine."
Not.
Certainly, you should not abuse your aunt (and it doesn't sound like you do), but any attempt to "make her well" by wearing yourself out trying to always do and say the exact "right thing" will just make you a nervous wreck, and your aunt will still have the same problems she's always had.
She has some *very* hard work to do, to get to the real root of her troubles, if things are ever really going to change.
I really feel for all of you.
