I think Lady Danger is a hard red for very fair-skinned ladies to pull off because our skin is already so light, so we don't have much "contrast" with our teeth. (If that makes sense...?) Bright reds look especially awesome on super-fair skin, IMO, because our skin is practically a sheet of paper...the bolder the color, the better the contrast, the more dramatic and awesome the look!
Some of my favorites:
Revlon Cherries in the Snow -- blue-based red with a slight pink tinge.
NYX Doll -- plummy-red color; one of my faves, especially in fall/winter!
MAC Dubonnet/NYX Snow WHite -- same color. My favorite red for a looong time, especially as seen here (with a brighter gloss on top).
MAC Kanga-rouge -- my current favorite red! (My face looks unusually red in these pictures on some comps...no clue why.)
NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in Monte Carlo -- Couldn't get a very good picture of it, but trust me, this is GORGEOUS.
Some bright red lippies!
Also, I always recommend that pale ladies who are interested in bold colors give hot pink and/or fuchsia a try. Two of my absolute faves!
As for having your face "taken over": the trick with bright lip colors is to keep the rest of your face relatively neutral. With a bright red lip, I do a neutral or soft pink blush, some pearly highlighter, and usually just a neutral eyeshadow wash (Wet n' Wild Brulee is my fave) with black eyeliner on the top lashes. This isn't a set rule--I've done different things with bold colors--but if you're worried about looking "overdone," keeping everything else simple can REALLY help.