dulcekitty
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So, I have no idea if anyone on here has had experience with this, but I'm curious. I'm 100% Dominican. No, I'm not mixed. Yes, I'm sure. I popped out of my mom super super porcelain. My skin is almost borderline Irish with the way I get burned within 10 minutes of being in the sun. Funnily enough, I am the ONLY super white person in my family. In family pictures, I'm always the "white" sheep. And I don't mean that lightly. My mother's side is not even deep, they are BLACK. I grew up getting absolutely no love from any ethnicity because I was odd. I couldn't relate to the white girls because of my kinky curly hair and thick thighs, I couldn't relate to other latinas who would give me the cold shoulder because I was so light. I often get talked to in Russian. When I go into a beauty supply store and ask for relaxer, I get looked at like I'm an alien.
When I was growing up I found it really hard to fit in with anybody and the only people who sort of felt the same emotions were mixed, except I wasn't even mixed so I was out of there too. Now I'm a lot more confident in myself and love my heritage and my skin color, although sometimes I trip up and feel out of place, especially when I tell someone that I'm Dominican and they laugh and tell me I need to get a tan.
Even though I love my heritage, I almost never mention it to anyone because of the questions that follow, and it's always the same. "Where is your family from? REALLY? Are you mixed?? Are you SURE???" or even "You better make sure you weren't adopted!" I just want to pull out pictures of my mom and dad and go "I have my father's face and my mother's eyes and big fat booty. What do you think???"
Are there any others like me on this board? I've met maybe 2 other in all my 22.5 years and I'd love to know. Or even if you've ever felt left out.
ETA: I should also add that I did NOT grow up in racially diverse neighborhoods nor did I go to racially diverse schools. I was born and raised in Harlem in the late 80s-early 90s and lived in Coney Island the rest, and went to a predominantly black/latino high school, which is why it hit me a lot harder than it should have. It was not easy! I've been called "that white b*tch" more times than I can count by people I've never even spoken to. Now it's much better since I left that bubble and now realize I'm not as weird as I was made to believe! lol...
When I was growing up I found it really hard to fit in with anybody and the only people who sort of felt the same emotions were mixed, except I wasn't even mixed so I was out of there too. Now I'm a lot more confident in myself and love my heritage and my skin color, although sometimes I trip up and feel out of place, especially when I tell someone that I'm Dominican and they laugh and tell me I need to get a tan.
Even though I love my heritage, I almost never mention it to anyone because of the questions that follow, and it's always the same. "Where is your family from? REALLY? Are you mixed?? Are you SURE???" or even "You better make sure you weren't adopted!" I just want to pull out pictures of my mom and dad and go "I have my father's face and my mother's eyes and big fat booty. What do you think???"
Are there any others like me on this board? I've met maybe 2 other in all my 22.5 years and I'd love to know. Or even if you've ever felt left out.
ETA: I should also add that I did NOT grow up in racially diverse neighborhoods nor did I go to racially diverse schools. I was born and raised in Harlem in the late 80s-early 90s and lived in Coney Island the rest, and went to a predominantly black/latino high school, which is why it hit me a lot harder than it should have. It was not easy! I've been called "that white b*tch" more times than I can count by people I've never even spoken to. Now it's much better since I left that bubble and now realize I'm not as weird as I was made to believe! lol...
