MACForME
Well-known member
Hi Ladies..
I'm writing this here, because frankly, you guys have always been honest, yet kind at the same time. I'm upset over something that happened, it might sound juvenile at first.. but once you read it..Maybe you'll be able to either A) tell me what i did wrong or B) reassure me that I'm ok in feeling this way or C) something else.
2 weeks ago, I extended an invitation to my friend Sandy to go to the beach with me and a few friends on 9-2. She gladly accepted and said that she needed the day away. Frankly, so do I.. there is ALOT going on in my life and nothing would be more rejuvenating.. A few days go by, we chattered daily about the plans and all. I had invited 3 other girls but was waiting on them to confirm or not.. By friday, it was only Sandy and I that were confirmed. 2 girls couldn't get the day after Labor Day off.. 1 was having major crisis at home. Friday afternoon (literally, this past friday 8-29) Sandy sends me a text message informing me this "i've asked George to go with us, unless its a girly day".. So, she's invited him, extending my invitation without a simple phone call BEFORE inviting him? yep, she did! I texted her back with a reply it was girls only.. she answered with an "ok, plan for just me then, it wasn't definate with him anyway".. uh? I get home friday afternoon and get another text which said "sorry.. tuesday off.. i'm going with G instead, he's in a funk and maybe this will be good for him".. yep, just like that. I texted back "fine, whatever". i think i have a RIGHT to pissed so far! she texts me again "are you ok, you seem mad".. YA THINK? So, i'm trying to calm down, eat my dinner and she calls.. We talk for a few minutes and all she yaps about is this sorta boyfriend, who, I might add, will NOT commit and refuses to call her his girlfriend. I tell her fine, do whatever you want. Whatever..
To make a long story short, she then posts in her LiveJournal that "tuesday's plans fell thru, so i asked my BF to go to the beach" that was a flat out lie and i called her out on it in an LJ comment and told her to either be honest or don't say anything..she ignores me. I try to talk to her on AIM and explain why I'm angry.. it was more the icy text and lack of total consideration on her part. She knew it was us girls only, which is why she even mentioned in in the first text. Then she says that if she knew it was girls only, and it was only she and i so far, that she woudn't have invited him. I told her that she had no right to extend my invite to him anyway! I make a post in my LJ, expressing my disappointment. This is my first real summer in 2 years. Last year, I was relagated to the house recovering from major surgery. I went nowhere for 14 weeks. She knew how important this day was..
so after some time goes by.. she makes another LJ post on how "she wasn't going to say anything,but' and goes on about the beach cancellation, again totally leaving out her responsibility and blaming me. I told her in a comment, to stop lyiing as this is pissing me off, and if she keeps doing it, she can lose my number.. of course we then get another post on how she's INSULTED and bawled all night..
Then i find out she and G (the BF) broke up on Sunday.. so all this was for nothing. I try to be a decent person, and even though I've done nothin really wrong.. I offer an olive branch.. which went ignored.. Monday night, i make a normal LJ post and a small bit on how said peace offering went ignored. She comments and says "i'm not ignoring, i'm considering".. WHAT?? CONSIDERING?? She's the one that f'd this all up.. lied about it x 2 and treated me like a juvenile because I was annoyed. the comments went back and forth, i again explained my frustration with the lack of consideration and respect for my day and my plans. her answer? i should have provided her with a "guest list"!! Refusing to acknowledge what she did was wrong on 3 counts. she then said fine, she accepts my truce.. and that she apologized and what did i expect, that this is over either by dropping it or unfriending.... My answer was simple, I didn't see any apology and that i expected the same respect that she would want for herself from any of her friends.. and not to accept a truce if she didn't want one, but unfriending was not a choice in my head.. I figured we could have worked this out..
This morning, she unfriended me.
Now, I'm upset for al the above reasons as well as i opened my home to her when she was broke and hungry. i wrote referral letters and helped her find a job, which she subsequently REFUSED.. I even handed out her resume to anyone that was in a position to hire her.. I've been a good friend.. and she's treated me like CRAP...I don't get it.. and I think its for the best.. but seriously.. am I wrong for being upset?
I'm writing this here, because frankly, you guys have always been honest, yet kind at the same time. I'm upset over something that happened, it might sound juvenile at first.. but once you read it..Maybe you'll be able to either A) tell me what i did wrong or B) reassure me that I'm ok in feeling this way or C) something else.
2 weeks ago, I extended an invitation to my friend Sandy to go to the beach with me and a few friends on 9-2. She gladly accepted and said that she needed the day away. Frankly, so do I.. there is ALOT going on in my life and nothing would be more rejuvenating.. A few days go by, we chattered daily about the plans and all. I had invited 3 other girls but was waiting on them to confirm or not.. By friday, it was only Sandy and I that were confirmed. 2 girls couldn't get the day after Labor Day off.. 1 was having major crisis at home. Friday afternoon (literally, this past friday 8-29) Sandy sends me a text message informing me this "i've asked George to go with us, unless its a girly day".. So, she's invited him, extending my invitation without a simple phone call BEFORE inviting him? yep, she did! I texted her back with a reply it was girls only.. she answered with an "ok, plan for just me then, it wasn't definate with him anyway".. uh? I get home friday afternoon and get another text which said "sorry.. tuesday off.. i'm going with G instead, he's in a funk and maybe this will be good for him".. yep, just like that. I texted back "fine, whatever". i think i have a RIGHT to pissed so far! she texts me again "are you ok, you seem mad".. YA THINK? So, i'm trying to calm down, eat my dinner and she calls.. We talk for a few minutes and all she yaps about is this sorta boyfriend, who, I might add, will NOT commit and refuses to call her his girlfriend. I tell her fine, do whatever you want. Whatever..
To make a long story short, she then posts in her LiveJournal that "tuesday's plans fell thru, so i asked my BF to go to the beach" that was a flat out lie and i called her out on it in an LJ comment and told her to either be honest or don't say anything..she ignores me. I try to talk to her on AIM and explain why I'm angry.. it was more the icy text and lack of total consideration on her part. She knew it was us girls only, which is why she even mentioned in in the first text. Then she says that if she knew it was girls only, and it was only she and i so far, that she woudn't have invited him. I told her that she had no right to extend my invite to him anyway! I make a post in my LJ, expressing my disappointment. This is my first real summer in 2 years. Last year, I was relagated to the house recovering from major surgery. I went nowhere for 14 weeks. She knew how important this day was..
so after some time goes by.. she makes another LJ post on how "she wasn't going to say anything,but' and goes on about the beach cancellation, again totally leaving out her responsibility and blaming me. I told her in a comment, to stop lyiing as this is pissing me off, and if she keeps doing it, she can lose my number.. of course we then get another post on how she's INSULTED and bawled all night..
Then i find out she and G (the BF) broke up on Sunday.. so all this was for nothing. I try to be a decent person, and even though I've done nothin really wrong.. I offer an olive branch.. which went ignored.. Monday night, i make a normal LJ post and a small bit on how said peace offering went ignored. She comments and says "i'm not ignoring, i'm considering".. WHAT?? CONSIDERING?? She's the one that f'd this all up.. lied about it x 2 and treated me like a juvenile because I was annoyed. the comments went back and forth, i again explained my frustration with the lack of consideration and respect for my day and my plans. her answer? i should have provided her with a "guest list"!! Refusing to acknowledge what she did was wrong on 3 counts. she then said fine, she accepts my truce.. and that she apologized and what did i expect, that this is over either by dropping it or unfriending.... My answer was simple, I didn't see any apology and that i expected the same respect that she would want for herself from any of her friends.. and not to accept a truce if she didn't want one, but unfriending was not a choice in my head.. I figured we could have worked this out..
This morning, she unfriended me.
Now, I'm upset for al the above reasons as well as i opened my home to her when she was broke and hungry. i wrote referral letters and helped her find a job, which she subsequently REFUSED.. I even handed out her resume to anyone that was in a position to hire her.. I've been a good friend.. and she's treated me like CRAP...I don't get it.. and I think its for the best.. but seriously.. am I wrong for being upset?
