Half N Half
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I recently went through a breakup (about a month ago). I was seeing a guy for about a year on and off. We quit seeing each other in November and I honestly thought it was over for good. It took me a really long time to get over him. In March he called me out of the blue, and things started back up. Things really seemed to be going well, we didn't have any serious arguments. We were talking/texting almost every day and seeing each other several times a week.
Then one day I texted him, he replied. I texted him back, and he ignored me. I let it go for about a week and then called him to see what the deal was. I usually have a pretty good sense about things and something just didn't seem right. I asked him if there was something I said or did and he told me no, that he's just been busy. I asked him if that was really it. THEN he tells me he thought he might have jumped back into things with me without really thinking it through and I was basically left thinking HUH?! It didn't seem right to me, so I told him I thought he was seeing someone else and he admitted that he was!
I don't think I was ready for that answer, so I was pretty much shocked. He didn't have anything to say except "I don't know what to tell you" and "you're right, I should have told you sooner" Not once did he say he was sorry, even after I started crying. I was so caught off guard that I just had an emotional meltdown and told him he's a POS and to go F himself and that was it. The NEXT day he started posting pictures of him and this new girl on his facebook and 3 days after that someone asked him if that was his girlfriend and he said "as of today yes". I know I shouldn't have looked at his facebook because it just made the pain 10 times worse, but at the time I just couldn't help myself.
Anyway, this was a month ago. I've been trying to find ways to stop thinking about him & this new woman. I've just had her face in my head the whole time. I came across an article online that said to write your ex a letter, but of course not to send it. At first I thought this would be kind of a waste of time, but this morning I finally decided to do it, since I'm still having a hard time with feeling rejected.
So I wrote a 3 page letter, wrote everything I felt about him, all his flaws and how he made me feel. I think it kind of helped. I read over it several times and it's making me realize that maybe I'm better off without him.
Sorry for the super long post! My question is: Have any of you written a letter (that you didn't send) to your ex? Did it help you? Any other advice?
Then one day I texted him, he replied. I texted him back, and he ignored me. I let it go for about a week and then called him to see what the deal was. I usually have a pretty good sense about things and something just didn't seem right. I asked him if there was something I said or did and he told me no, that he's just been busy. I asked him if that was really it. THEN he tells me he thought he might have jumped back into things with me without really thinking it through and I was basically left thinking HUH?! It didn't seem right to me, so I told him I thought he was seeing someone else and he admitted that he was!
I don't think I was ready for that answer, so I was pretty much shocked. He didn't have anything to say except "I don't know what to tell you" and "you're right, I should have told you sooner" Not once did he say he was sorry, even after I started crying. I was so caught off guard that I just had an emotional meltdown and told him he's a POS and to go F himself and that was it. The NEXT day he started posting pictures of him and this new girl on his facebook and 3 days after that someone asked him if that was his girlfriend and he said "as of today yes". I know I shouldn't have looked at his facebook because it just made the pain 10 times worse, but at the time I just couldn't help myself.
Anyway, this was a month ago. I've been trying to find ways to stop thinking about him & this new woman. I've just had her face in my head the whole time. I came across an article online that said to write your ex a letter, but of course not to send it. At first I thought this would be kind of a waste of time, but this morning I finally decided to do it, since I'm still having a hard time with feeling rejected.
So I wrote a 3 page letter, wrote everything I felt about him, all his flaws and how he made me feel. I think it kind of helped. I read over it several times and it's making me realize that maybe I'm better off without him.
Sorry for the super long post! My question is: Have any of you written a letter (that you didn't send) to your ex? Did it help you? Any other advice?