JULIA
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months, fyi.
So my boyfriend is an absolute sweet-heart and head-over-heels in love with me. When we started seeing each other/dating things were fantastic and going great. However, in the last two months we've been bickering like crazy and that's mostly because he takes things too personally and gets worked up over nothing. Last night was the final straw for him and I'm certain he's going to end things.
I have been feeling lower than low lately. No energy, completely emotionless, lacking affection and just generally feeling down and out. Last night I opened up to him and told him that for the past week and a bit I've been feeling sad and just so empty inside. He understood and we talked about what could be the cause of this for a bit and then I went home. I checked my emails and I read one from him where he went on a bit more about wanting to make sure I get back to my old self as soon as possible and I replied with, "I hope so! I just want to be happy again. I'm done with putting so much effort into a smile or a laugh lately." He then replied with a hurtful email about how relationships shouldn't take effort and how we've been coming from different places and now it seems to him like we're at a crossroads. And then he says he does everything he can to make me happy but he noticed that the more time we spend together the more unhappy I become...All that came from me saying I've been feeling down lately and that I need to put more effort into a smile/laughter...in general.
It's so completely unrelated to him and he just went off and made my problem out to be something involving him when that isn't the case. I have told him time and time again that he takes things too personally and he just doesn't seem to make an effort to work on that.
Last night, though I don't remember the context, he said he was pretty much infatuated with me. I told him that was somewhat bothersome...I mean, if we don't work out I don't want him to go hurt himself. He said that he was going to but I didn't have to worry about it. Him taking his life should not be a concern of mine. I told him that was terrible and that regardless of what happens between us both, he shouldn't go and kill himself. He's dead-set on it and I'm so hurt considering my dad killed himself 6 years ago and he knows how hellish is was for me. If you truly care for someone how can you even talk like that? It's so unfair. It's such a burden for me. I'll forever be scared of leaving because I don't want him to do anything stupid.
I went to his place today to sort this out but he refused to talk and sent me home. It's the most horrible feeling sitting around waiting for someone to tell you whether they want to be with you or not.
My mind is just...exhausted.
So my boyfriend is an absolute sweet-heart and head-over-heels in love with me. When we started seeing each other/dating things were fantastic and going great. However, in the last two months we've been bickering like crazy and that's mostly because he takes things too personally and gets worked up over nothing. Last night was the final straw for him and I'm certain he's going to end things.
I have been feeling lower than low lately. No energy, completely emotionless, lacking affection and just generally feeling down and out. Last night I opened up to him and told him that for the past week and a bit I've been feeling sad and just so empty inside. He understood and we talked about what could be the cause of this for a bit and then I went home. I checked my emails and I read one from him where he went on a bit more about wanting to make sure I get back to my old self as soon as possible and I replied with, "I hope so! I just want to be happy again. I'm done with putting so much effort into a smile or a laugh lately." He then replied with a hurtful email about how relationships shouldn't take effort and how we've been coming from different places and now it seems to him like we're at a crossroads. And then he says he does everything he can to make me happy but he noticed that the more time we spend together the more unhappy I become...All that came from me saying I've been feeling down lately and that I need to put more effort into a smile/laughter...in general.
It's so completely unrelated to him and he just went off and made my problem out to be something involving him when that isn't the case. I have told him time and time again that he takes things too personally and he just doesn't seem to make an effort to work on that.
Last night, though I don't remember the context, he said he was pretty much infatuated with me. I told him that was somewhat bothersome...I mean, if we don't work out I don't want him to go hurt himself. He said that he was going to but I didn't have to worry about it. Him taking his life should not be a concern of mine. I told him that was terrible and that regardless of what happens between us both, he shouldn't go and kill himself. He's dead-set on it and I'm so hurt considering my dad killed himself 6 years ago and he knows how hellish is was for me. If you truly care for someone how can you even talk like that? It's so unfair. It's such a burden for me. I'll forever be scared of leaving because I don't want him to do anything stupid.
I went to his place today to sort this out but he refused to talk and sent me home. It's the most horrible feeling sitting around waiting for someone to tell you whether they want to be with you or not.
My mind is just...exhausted.