metalkitty
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Hi, ladies. I don't post alot here although I frequently look and give thanks daily. Anyhow, there's something I need to deal with and I'm not sure how to go about it exactly and could use some honesty/ help with options....
Basically I think I might have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I hope I don't sound like a hypocontriac but I'm 23 now, I was diagnosed officially with Bipolar disorder when I was around 16 or 17 although I'd been dealing with it for awhile.
Anyhow, I used to be in therapy when I was in my mid teens and I was generally being kinda stupid and melodramatic from feeling isolated for a long time I guess. I even od'ed on meds a couple times since I was miserable and wanted to get away from things.
It all seems so stupid now because when I had just turned 18 my first ex boyfriend and at that time best friend sexually assaulted me. I still feel ridiculous to this day for not seeing it coming, the guy was like dangerous crazy but I promised I'd always be his friend and his dad had just died so I put up with ALOT of mental abuse from him.
After it happened I was in denial about it until one day when I was fighting with my parents and freaking out I blurted it out to my sister and she told them. My parents took me to the hospital for mental help and the nurse told them that if I don't get help things won't get better. My parents are SO weird about sex that they act as if it were a consentual sexual act and not assault.
To this day they act like nothing happened and when I get depressed they just assume that I'm not taking my meds or I'm just being dramatic. My dad even occasionally 'taunts' me about it when I'm going to hang out with a male friend by telling me about my ex bf as if I was stupid enough to forget and pretending to care saying that he doesn't want it to happen again. I know I'm an adult but if he cared he would've at least acknowledged what happened to me and realize how traumatic it is and try to get me help. But no, and he only 'cares' when I'm going to hang out around male friends.
Well, honestly the biggest problems come when a guy tries to date me. I'm usually pretty content but it's like once I get into a relationship things start snowballing out of control my family starts treating me poorly and the guy pretends to care and understand but I know they're angry at me for not being able to trust anyone enough. My last bf acted like he cared and would say how sorry he was but he'd constantly hurt me during sex and pretend to be sorry and keep doing it. After we broke up I told him I was afraid that I was going to be assaulted again, possibly by him because he was acting the same way as the crazy ex and it really seemed like history was going to repeat itself. He said he loved me and he wouldn't do that. I talked to him again a day or two later and he got really angry and seemed to try to 'one up' me by blurting out all of his problems and saying his sister was raped by two guys and had kids by them and I was shocked but stayed calm and tried to talk to him but he hung up and told me to never talk to him again.
He later appologized and I gave him another chance and he fucked up again and I now hate him and don't think he's much better than the crazy first ex. So obviously I don't think I'm going to date for a long long time since I just can't trust anyone and I have bigger problems.
Sorry for the novel, but I think I should get help although I feel okay now I know if I got into a relationship it'd tear me apart again. And I just want to be able to cope with things because I'm turning into a really bitter hateful person. I'm just scared because I don't know how therapy of this sort works and I don't want to have to relive everything again. So if anyone has any advice that can give me the courage to get help that'd help me out alot. It's just a crappy feeling knowing you aren't living but just existing in decay. I'm afraid to post this but I think good might come from it if someone else is dealing with the same issues.
Basically I think I might have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I hope I don't sound like a hypocontriac but I'm 23 now, I was diagnosed officially with Bipolar disorder when I was around 16 or 17 although I'd been dealing with it for awhile.
Anyhow, I used to be in therapy when I was in my mid teens and I was generally being kinda stupid and melodramatic from feeling isolated for a long time I guess. I even od'ed on meds a couple times since I was miserable and wanted to get away from things.
It all seems so stupid now because when I had just turned 18 my first ex boyfriend and at that time best friend sexually assaulted me. I still feel ridiculous to this day for not seeing it coming, the guy was like dangerous crazy but I promised I'd always be his friend and his dad had just died so I put up with ALOT of mental abuse from him.
After it happened I was in denial about it until one day when I was fighting with my parents and freaking out I blurted it out to my sister and she told them. My parents took me to the hospital for mental help and the nurse told them that if I don't get help things won't get better. My parents are SO weird about sex that they act as if it were a consentual sexual act and not assault.
To this day they act like nothing happened and when I get depressed they just assume that I'm not taking my meds or I'm just being dramatic. My dad even occasionally 'taunts' me about it when I'm going to hang out with a male friend by telling me about my ex bf as if I was stupid enough to forget and pretending to care saying that he doesn't want it to happen again. I know I'm an adult but if he cared he would've at least acknowledged what happened to me and realize how traumatic it is and try to get me help. But no, and he only 'cares' when I'm going to hang out around male friends.
Well, honestly the biggest problems come when a guy tries to date me. I'm usually pretty content but it's like once I get into a relationship things start snowballing out of control my family starts treating me poorly and the guy pretends to care and understand but I know they're angry at me for not being able to trust anyone enough. My last bf acted like he cared and would say how sorry he was but he'd constantly hurt me during sex and pretend to be sorry and keep doing it. After we broke up I told him I was afraid that I was going to be assaulted again, possibly by him because he was acting the same way as the crazy ex and it really seemed like history was going to repeat itself. He said he loved me and he wouldn't do that. I talked to him again a day or two later and he got really angry and seemed to try to 'one up' me by blurting out all of his problems and saying his sister was raped by two guys and had kids by them and I was shocked but stayed calm and tried to talk to him but he hung up and told me to never talk to him again.
He later appologized and I gave him another chance and he fucked up again and I now hate him and don't think he's much better than the crazy first ex. So obviously I don't think I'm going to date for a long long time since I just can't trust anyone and I have bigger problems.
Sorry for the novel, but I think I should get help although I feel okay now I know if I got into a relationship it'd tear me apart again. And I just want to be able to cope with things because I'm turning into a really bitter hateful person. I'm just scared because I don't know how therapy of this sort works and I don't want to have to relive everything again. So if anyone has any advice that can give me the courage to get help that'd help me out alot. It's just a crappy feeling knowing you aren't living but just existing in decay. I'm afraid to post this but I think good might come from it if someone else is dealing with the same issues.