VV 5 is always a great MLBB. If you want a more "raspberry" stained look, you could try "On Hold" in the creamsheen formula (which I bought a few months ago). I dab it on though, because it's quite pigmented (it'll last forever). The result is a bright-berry flush on the lips (as the dabbings wear off, I get a stained-effect like as if I ate a bowl of raspberries). If you layer it more, you could get away with going out at night with it. It's quite versatile for summer days and nights (though I would wear it year-round cuz I love it so much). =] It's on the warmer-undertones though. But since it's a pinked warm color, I think it might look nice with your hair coloring and fair skin (I'm a brunette with fair skin, for comparison).
As for the bad customer service at MAC...I completely understand. I always just say "Oh, I'm just browsing but is it OK to try on some lipsticks and run outside in the natural light with your mirror to see if it works on me?" hahaha They look at me funny but always agree. In the end, I get my perfect color and once some MUA's know what colors you've picked out for yourself, they automatically choose a complementing eyeshadow or blush or similar lipstick tone without you trying to coax it out of them. I find that I've made some good MUA relationships this way.
Good luck with the hunt!