Shimmer
Well-known member
"Treat me like a princess!"
"I deserve to be treated like a queen!!!"
What...in GOD's name...entitles a woman to be treated like a princess merely by virtue of being in a relationship?
Men can't read our minds y'all. There's absolutely no reason for this inflated sense of entitlement.
Is it reasonable to expect to be respected, treated well, loved, etc. in a relationship? Absolutely. Is it reasonable that men would expect the same thing? YES.
Those things don't encompass:
- Expecting him to read your mind when you're pissed off. If you're angry, say so.
- Expecting him to drop everything because you're upset the shoes you wanted aren't on sale anymore. He doesn't care. They're shoes. They go on your feet, and, truth be told, if you'd bought them you'd have bitched about how uncomfortable they are anyway, because you'd've been silly enough to wear 4 inch strappy stilettos out for a night dancing.
- Expecting him to endorse or understand why you need to have a 'talk' because you texted him THREE TIMES and he didn't respond within a fifteen minute window.
- Expecting him to always be the one to give. And compromise. And relent.
Some of that is somewhat superficial, other parts are not so much.
Ladies truth be told, you want a relationship with a man that's healthy, whole, and real you're going to have to work for it. Lay aside the 'princess' expectations because guess what...very few of us really ARE princesses. You're going to have to communicate. You're going to have to be realistic about your expectations. You're going to have to be willing to stand up for yourself while maintaining an honest and reasonable perspective. Stop looking for a man who's going to shower you with roses, jewelry, and gifts, because yeah you can find that man and 9 times out of 10 you know what that makes you? A hooker.
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"I deserve to be treated like a queen!!!"
What...in GOD's name...entitles a woman to be treated like a princess merely by virtue of being in a relationship?
Men can't read our minds y'all. There's absolutely no reason for this inflated sense of entitlement.
Is it reasonable to expect to be respected, treated well, loved, etc. in a relationship? Absolutely. Is it reasonable that men would expect the same thing? YES.
Those things don't encompass:
- Expecting him to read your mind when you're pissed off. If you're angry, say so.
- Expecting him to drop everything because you're upset the shoes you wanted aren't on sale anymore. He doesn't care. They're shoes. They go on your feet, and, truth be told, if you'd bought them you'd have bitched about how uncomfortable they are anyway, because you'd've been silly enough to wear 4 inch strappy stilettos out for a night dancing.
- Expecting him to endorse or understand why you need to have a 'talk' because you texted him THREE TIMES and he didn't respond within a fifteen minute window.
- Expecting him to always be the one to give. And compromise. And relent.
Some of that is somewhat superficial, other parts are not so much.
Ladies truth be told, you want a relationship with a man that's healthy, whole, and real you're going to have to work for it. Lay aside the 'princess' expectations because guess what...very few of us really ARE princesses. You're going to have to communicate. You're going to have to be realistic about your expectations. You're going to have to be willing to stand up for yourself while maintaining an honest and reasonable perspective. Stop looking for a man who's going to shower you with roses, jewelry, and gifts, because yeah you can find that man and 9 times out of 10 you know what that makes you? A hooker.
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