I like vanilla pigment and motif, sometimes i use texture as a highlight as well. It seems to be really natural to me and goes well with like bright colors. I use embark as a crease color i have this really pretty blue from smashbox it reminds me of deep truth when i use it wet.
Highlighter - ricepaper, nylon, shroom, vanilla pigment, naked pigment, pink opal, retrospeck, arena, brulee
Crease - swiss chocolate, folie, saddle, texture, embark, beautyburst, i've even used raizin blush in the crease (it's gorgeous), mulch, sketch
Lid - arena, naked pigment, patina, tete a tint, goldmine, soooo many more but you said neutrals, so thats what comes to mind right now. HTH.