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Been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Before this relationship I was in a 8 year relationship with the father of my son. I left him because I got tired of the financial issues. He went from job to job and never was really stable meaning I had to pick up the slack a lot of the time. Now dont get me wrong, I understand that when someone is down you help them. ESPECIALLY when they are your significant other. But in the end the money issues never stopped and it eventually effected other departments in our relationship....
So fast forward, I left him and got into another relationship really fast. I didnt want to but you cant help who you fall in love with. One thing I wanted to make sure was that he had a job and was able to take care of himself. For some reason..once we started dating...he lost his job and just hasnt been able to be stable ever since. At first it just waved red flags, and he told me if I wanted to stop seeing him because this issue was all too familiar from my last relationship, he understood. But I felt wrong leaving him just because of money. I said I'd see it through but now its starting to feel like its never going to get better. I find myself fixing his resume and applying for him online...but I dont see him making time to look for a better job. Hes currently is working a compension based job and its been so bad that hes late on rent. We dont live together but I just feel stressed out for him.
I feel like I have already invested 2 years with this man. Im 28 and I'm looking to settle down. I love this man so much, but I worry. I worry about money being an issue, I just dont want to go through that. Spending years with someone and feeling like things will always depend on me to fix or do.
I dont know what to do....I feel like if we want to do anything fun, it comes out my pocket. I have found myself paying some of his bills because i feel bad. We talk about the future but then think...HOW is this going to work out? under my paycheck only? I have a child and I have my own responsibilities...I cant afford to take care of a man too. HELP.... :-(
So fast forward, I left him and got into another relationship really fast. I didnt want to but you cant help who you fall in love with. One thing I wanted to make sure was that he had a job and was able to take care of himself. For some reason..once we started dating...he lost his job and just hasnt been able to be stable ever since. At first it just waved red flags, and he told me if I wanted to stop seeing him because this issue was all too familiar from my last relationship, he understood. But I felt wrong leaving him just because of money. I said I'd see it through but now its starting to feel like its never going to get better. I find myself fixing his resume and applying for him online...but I dont see him making time to look for a better job. Hes currently is working a compension based job and its been so bad that hes late on rent. We dont live together but I just feel stressed out for him.
I feel like I have already invested 2 years with this man. Im 28 and I'm looking to settle down. I love this man so much, but I worry. I worry about money being an issue, I just dont want to go through that. Spending years with someone and feeling like things will always depend on me to fix or do.
I dont know what to do....I feel like if we want to do anything fun, it comes out my pocket. I have found myself paying some of his bills because i feel bad. We talk about the future but then think...HOW is this going to work out? under my paycheck only? I have a child and I have my own responsibilities...I cant afford to take care of a man too. HELP.... :-(