Pink_minx
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Would you still be friends with your friends' ex? Some people think Im being cold and mean that I dont want to hang out with my friends' ex gf. I know my friend (lets call him Joe) through my bf and they known eachother since highschool. I havent heard from Joe's ex since they broke up and all of a sudden Joes friends girlfriends has been messaging her and want us all to hang out. See my bf has a circle of friends and all their gfs and I hang out once in awhile but mostly as couples and ever since Joe's ex left we havent heard from her at all.
One of the girlfriends texted me telling me that she has been messaging Joe's ex and asked if I wanted to go hang out with them. I said "No I'll pass you guys go ahead" then she goes on saying "do you not like her?" and I said "No thats not it at all, I think she was a sweet and nice person but thats Joe's ex, I would feel awkard hanging out with her." Then she goes on saying that she misses Joe's ex and that she doesnt have anything against her...and that even though her bf doesnt approve of her hanging out with Joe's ex she is still going to do it and hopes that I am still her friend if she ever breaks up with her bf.
Then my bf's other friend was saying that I shouldnt be cutting a friend off like that. And I was just baffled! like wth?? first of all I wasnt even that close with Joe's ex. And its not like Joe and her are in good terms. When they were together we did hang out a few times more so than the other girls but it wasnt like we were close best friends. I dont know why everyone is making a bid deal out of it and making me out to be a cold person. Its not like Joe's ex has been talking to me or anything.
Am I wrong to feel this way? I mean it was sad that they broke up because she was a cool and sweet person but I never considered her as a friend in that way. And it wasnt like these other girlfriends was that close to her. If I broke up with my bf I wouldnt be hanging out with the girlfriends because it would be weird for me and just make me miss my ex. Thats just how I am, I would move on and make my own friends and hang out with the friends that I already have not through my ex bf. Idk im so confused i dont what Im suppose to say or do. I dont mean to be "cold" but thats just how I feel. I hate feeling pressured and bad about the situation. What do you guys think?
One of the girlfriends texted me telling me that she has been messaging Joe's ex and asked if I wanted to go hang out with them. I said "No I'll pass you guys go ahead" then she goes on saying "do you not like her?" and I said "No thats not it at all, I think she was a sweet and nice person but thats Joe's ex, I would feel awkard hanging out with her." Then she goes on saying that she misses Joe's ex and that she doesnt have anything against her...and that even though her bf doesnt approve of her hanging out with Joe's ex she is still going to do it and hopes that I am still her friend if she ever breaks up with her bf.
Then my bf's other friend was saying that I shouldnt be cutting a friend off like that. And I was just baffled! like wth?? first of all I wasnt even that close with Joe's ex. And its not like Joe and her are in good terms. When they were together we did hang out a few times more so than the other girls but it wasnt like we were close best friends. I dont know why everyone is making a bid deal out of it and making me out to be a cold person. Its not like Joe's ex has been talking to me or anything.
Am I wrong to feel this way? I mean it was sad that they broke up because she was a cool and sweet person but I never considered her as a friend in that way. And it wasnt like these other girlfriends was that close to her. If I broke up with my bf I wouldnt be hanging out with the girlfriends because it would be weird for me and just make me miss my ex. Thats just how I am, I would move on and make my own friends and hang out with the friends that I already have not through my ex bf. Idk im so confused i dont what Im suppose to say or do. I dont mean to be "cold" but thats just how I feel. I hate feeling pressured and bad about the situation. What do you guys think?