DidiS
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This is very long, so please bear with me here. Thanks for reading.
I’ve been talking to a man online who's a couple years older than me for about a month. He lives about 330 miles away from me. It was just casual fun flirting in the beginning and I didn’t think much of it. He usually sent me texts that sounded quite cheesy and I assumed that he also sent that to other women, but I sometimes played along just for the fun of it. Then he sent me a shirtless picture of himself wearing his boxers so low that if it’d been 2 inches lower, it would’ve been porn. I told him that we looked for different things and said my goodbye. He seemed quite apologetic about the picture and I let it slide because I did find him attractive. Fast forward a couple weeks after, we still talked to each other and he jokingly mentioned that he had a small penis, which made me really curious to know if that was true. I asked him to send me a picture of his penis and he sent me three photos. It looked normal and I assured him that it was fine. I thought that could have been his ruse to get me to look at them, but he never mentioned or sent me any photos after that, so we still continued to text.
I was in his area last week and asked him if he wanted to meet up since I was very curious and quite attracted to him. We went to a bar and stayed there for about two hours. It started out somewhat awkward because we misunderstood each other in the beginning, but things went ok after that. The meeting was not superb, but nice enough. We sat across each other and he did not try to touch me inappropriately, except for one time that I told him to sit next to me and he did touch my leg. I slapped his hand away and he remained respectful for the rest of the date. I received his text saying that he had a good time and wanted to see me again. I didn’t think much of it since we lived so far away from each other and I just wanted to see who he was.
He continued to say hi the next day and on the day after, he asked me if I wanted him to come see me. I told him that I just graduated last week and it would take me a couple months to find a real job and move out of my mom’s house. He said that he wouldn’t mind staying in my room, as long as my family is ok with that. He asked me to let him know when it’d be convenient and he could stay for two days. He also told me that he wanted to be intimate with me and if I was just looking for a friend, he wouldn’t come. He said that he did not have any business in my area and he would just come here for me.
I like him, but this is moving too fast and things do scream shady to me. I am fully aware that he wants to shag me, but why would he travel that far for sex while I assume that he could get it where he lives? He’s a handsome athletic guy who knows his ways around women. If he does indeed want something more than a hookup with me, how come he didn’t really make an effort to know more about me through our texting and conversation? These two things really contradict each other. He did say that he might want to move to my area; could this be that he’s looking for a potential fwb in the future? From what I know, he’s got a job right now, so I don’t think his intention is to move into my mom’s house if he ever decides to live here.
What is he after?
I’ve been talking to a man online who's a couple years older than me for about a month. He lives about 330 miles away from me. It was just casual fun flirting in the beginning and I didn’t think much of it. He usually sent me texts that sounded quite cheesy and I assumed that he also sent that to other women, but I sometimes played along just for the fun of it. Then he sent me a shirtless picture of himself wearing his boxers so low that if it’d been 2 inches lower, it would’ve been porn. I told him that we looked for different things and said my goodbye. He seemed quite apologetic about the picture and I let it slide because I did find him attractive. Fast forward a couple weeks after, we still talked to each other and he jokingly mentioned that he had a small penis, which made me really curious to know if that was true. I asked him to send me a picture of his penis and he sent me three photos. It looked normal and I assured him that it was fine. I thought that could have been his ruse to get me to look at them, but he never mentioned or sent me any photos after that, so we still continued to text.
I was in his area last week and asked him if he wanted to meet up since I was very curious and quite attracted to him. We went to a bar and stayed there for about two hours. It started out somewhat awkward because we misunderstood each other in the beginning, but things went ok after that. The meeting was not superb, but nice enough. We sat across each other and he did not try to touch me inappropriately, except for one time that I told him to sit next to me and he did touch my leg. I slapped his hand away and he remained respectful for the rest of the date. I received his text saying that he had a good time and wanted to see me again. I didn’t think much of it since we lived so far away from each other and I just wanted to see who he was.
He continued to say hi the next day and on the day after, he asked me if I wanted him to come see me. I told him that I just graduated last week and it would take me a couple months to find a real job and move out of my mom’s house. He said that he wouldn’t mind staying in my room, as long as my family is ok with that. He asked me to let him know when it’d be convenient and he could stay for two days. He also told me that he wanted to be intimate with me and if I was just looking for a friend, he wouldn’t come. He said that he did not have any business in my area and he would just come here for me.
I like him, but this is moving too fast and things do scream shady to me. I am fully aware that he wants to shag me, but why would he travel that far for sex while I assume that he could get it where he lives? He’s a handsome athletic guy who knows his ways around women. If he does indeed want something more than a hookup with me, how come he didn’t really make an effort to know more about me through our texting and conversation? These two things really contradict each other. He did say that he might want to move to my area; could this be that he’s looking for a potential fwb in the future? From what I know, he’s got a job right now, so I don’t think his intention is to move into my mom’s house if he ever decides to live here.
What is he after?