Is love possible to find online? Am I crazy? or desperate?

L1LMAMAJ

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yes i think love is possible to find online and anywhere else for that matter. i think it's a bit "riskier" online because you don't see them in person so it's hard to tell if they're lying or keeping a secret from you. in person, you can tell a lot about them from their body language, how they look at you, what they say. i definitely believe in love and that you can find it anywhere. who is to say that you can only find love in certain places? you get my drift? GL dear just stay SAFE and don't give out too much personal info until you reallly feel like you know him and can trust him. ^__^
 

Almond_Eyed

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I really hate to be negative, but when it comes to long-distance and international relationships, I would say don't even bother, it will save you a lot of heartache. There are some success stories, but those are the exceptions. I would say that these kinds of relationships fail 99.99% of the time, especially if you haven't met him in person yet and have only been talking to him through IM.

Nothing can replace being face-to-face, you CANNOT build a relationship over the internet. The chances of this kind of relationship to succeed are slightly better if you see each other on a regular basis and have plans on moving close together. Still, it takes a LOT of patience and commitment on both ends, it's not for the faint of heart. Also, there is the issue of immigration which is a completely different hurdle if you do go all the way.

This is most likely why his friends are trying to talk him out of seeing you, I wish my friends had done the same for me. It's really difficult to see now, but it's not very realistic. I'm sorry! Having gone through it myself, I'm telling you to save yourself the trouble. If you still plan on seeing him, go in with no expectations, go see him as a friend, and see for yourself what happens when you meet in real life.

I met my current boyfriend online, but we live 5 minutes apart! I see him almost every other day, and I can't tell you how much more fuller, richer, and fulfilling a relationship is when you can hold and kiss each other anytime you like. You really have to be okay with long periods of loneliness in a long distance relationship.

Either way, good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you.

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Paramnesia

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I think everybody had different opinions on LDR/online relationships. I don't think it's that impossible if both parties are committed. As mentioned before, I seriously think it's just as dangerous to meet people in person. I have to tell you some of the people I meet in the city made me down right scared for my life. Though if it wasn't for skype I'd be a lot more cautious.

Oh my bf has decided he's coming over within the next 2 weeks, i've had a rough few weeks and suffer from depression so he's been really worried about me. I'm so scared lol, I really thought I had 10 weeks to get myself together lol.
 

sweetbabyblue

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I know that LDRs are hard, 90% of my current relationship is online and long distance. Only the first three months of our relationship were we together before I moved interstate to study. It's hard but we make it work and it's been over three years.
We actually remet online through mutual friends, but we actually went to primary school together years back (which is why I felt comfortable becoming friends with him online to begin with). I know him very well and I know there is no chance of him cheating, we talk whenever he's home and we know we can always call each other at any time of the day to talk.
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Good luck!
 

cupcake_x

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that is so true Cupcake! ( BTW my name is also Kelly
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Well guys, he's coming November 9th! Wooo hoo!! When he does, I will be sure to update this thread, and post pics!!!!

Internet dating FTW! LOL


Woohoo, fellow Kelly! What part of Westchester are you from? I'm from Suffolk on Long Island
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Wow, November will come before you know it! I'm pretty excited for you, good luck
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Boasorte

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Originally Posted by cupcake_x
Woohoo, fellow Kelly! What part of Westchester are you from? I'm from Suffolk on Long Island
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Wow, November will come before you know it! I'm pretty excited for you, good luck
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I'm from Crestwood/Yonkers girl! But born and raised in the Bronx/Bk/S.I ( I move around a lot lol )

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Originally Posted by Paramnesia
I think everybody had different opinions on LDR/online relationships. I don't think it's that impossible if both parties are committed. As mentioned before, I seriously think it's just as dangerous to meet people in person. I have to tell you some of the people I meet in the city made me down right scared for my life. Though if it wasn't for skype I'd be a lot more cautious.

Oh my bf has decided he's coming over within the next 2 weeks, i've had a rough few weeks and suffer from depression so he's been really worried about me. I'm so scared lol, I really thought I had 10 weeks to get myself together lol.


awww I'm so sorry to hear you're going thru that, I know how you feel though, although it's kind of the otherway around, if you catch my drift

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Originally Posted by Almond_Eyed
I really hate to be negative, but when it comes to long-distance and international relationships, I would say don't even bother, it will save you a lot of heartache. There are some success stories, but those are the exceptions. I would say that these kinds of relationships fail 99.99% of the time, especially if you haven't met him in person yet and have only been talking to him through IM.

Nothing can replace being face-to-face, you CANNOT build a relationship over the internet. The chances of this kind of relationship to succeed are slightly better if you see each other on a regular basis and have plans on moving close together. Still, it takes a LOT of patience and commitment on both ends, it's not for the faint of heart. Also, there is the issue of immigration which is a completely different hurdle if you do go all the way.

This is most likely why his friends are trying to talk him out of seeing you, I wish my friends had done the same for me. It's really difficult to see now, but it's not very realistic. I'm sorry! Having gone through it myself, I'm telling you to save yourself the trouble. If you still plan on seeing him, go in with no expectations, go see him as a friend, and see for yourself what happens when you meet in real life.

I met my current boyfriend online, but we live 5 minutes apart! I see him almost every other day, and I can't tell you how much more fuller, richer, and fulfilling a relationship is when you can hold and kiss each other anytime you like. You really have to be okay with long periods of loneliness in a long distance relationship.

Either way, good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you.

<3 A


I thank you so much for your honesty, and I value every opinion thrown my way. But we have to agreee to disagree on the face to face part. I've had some boyfriends who were pretty crappy, and gave me heartache, and they lived in my neighbourhood
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We are friends now, we aren't jumping into anything, and yes I would be okay to be alone, but I won't be lonely
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And after reading all these success stories that ppl replied to in the thread, hmmm there are a lot of exceptions on Specktra don't you think? LOL

OT but I can't beleive i figured out how to multi quote, wow im slow
 

Paramnesia

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Hey,
How has things turned out? Is he there?

Sadly things with my bf have gone sour, supposedly his mother died, he didn't end up coming here early, he disappeared for 10days then i got to talk to him for 30minutes before my internet crashed and he has now disappeared again for 3 weeks. I'm gunna have to assume he's not coming back and move on
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ThePowderPuff

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I met this really nice guy online 4 years ago.

He is sitting right next to me at the moment, we got married two years ago, and our 1 year old son is sleeping in his bed right now.

So yes, you can definitely find love online
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Boasorte

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Originally Posted by Paramnesia
Hey,
How has things turned out? Is he there?

Sadly things with my bf have gone sour, supposedly his mother died, he didn't end up coming here early, he disappeared for 10days then i got to talk to him for 30minutes before my internet crashed and he has now disappeared again for 3 weeks. I'm gunna have to assume he's not coming back and move on
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Para I am so sorry to hear that. Some people withdraw when a loved one dies, I know I did when my granny passed, and that was when I was 14, and I'm 20 now, and sometimes I still do. Write him an email and give him another week to reply, if not, then yes move on, there is plenty of love in the world

omg YES he's here, actually he's alseep next to me right now as I type this. He has been here since last Tuesday, and we've been having such a blast.
I decided to stay with him in his hotel in Queens, since I live too far
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He's such a sweetie, and just the same online as in person, here's a pic
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and us looking a hot ass mess on my webcam
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He's coming back in Feburary, I would go to visit him in England, but I'm sooo scared of dying on a plane, it's not even funny, I told him I won't go unless it's by a boat, but he doesn't mind coming to America...
We've been sightseeing all over NYC, been pretty fun
 

L1LMAMAJ

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Originally Posted by MsWestchesterNY
Para I am so sorry to hear that. Some people withdraw when a loved one dies, I know I did when my granny passed, and that was when I was 14, and I'm 20 now, and sometimes I still do. Write him an email and give him another week to reply, if not, then yes move on, there is plenty of love in the world

omg YES he's here, actually he's alseep next to me right now as I type this. He has been here since last Tuesday, and we've been having such a blast.
I decided to stay with him in his hotel in Queens, since I live too far
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He's such a sweetie, and just the same online as in person, here's a pic
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2qx7vxz.jpg

and us looking a hot ass mess on my webcam
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2dcbjpc.jpg

He's coming back in Feburary, I would go to visit him in England, but I'm sooo scared of dying on a plane, it's not even funny, I told him I won't go unless it's by a boat, but he doesn't mind coming to America...
We've been sightseeing all over NYC, been pretty fun


you look sooo happy!
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cute!
 

FiestyFemme

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So glad things are working out for you!!
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I know these things can be such hit or miss (dating in general) so woohoo!
 

kimmy

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like most of these girls have said, it's possible. my dad met his girlfriend online, i met my boyfriend online. my dad supports online dating because he says you can kind of get a feel for their personality before ever having to meet them so generally, you can "weed out" the ones who don't have a chance.

last year, i was going through a really rough time at work and at home. one of my best friends was dying, and i couldn't seem to get anything together. she suggested that having a good man in my life might help me through the rough stuff, but i wasn't in the mood or mindset to go find one; nor was i convinced that a relationship would make anything easier.

she took it upon herself to set me up a profile on match.com and get one of those free three-day trials. the first day, she found a guy who was from the same city as me and had similar interests. she convinced me to send him a message (i was really hesitant, even with the success others have had with online dating.)

we started talking on myspace quite regularly, and i learned that he works in the same career field as me. he was also deployed in iraq for six more months when we started talking. we talked more and more over myspace, and finally one day when my work schedule was adjusted, we got a chance to talk on aim. hit it off real well. i started getting up at two in the morning to talk to him (that damn time difference killed me!) and after a few months, he managed to get access to a phone every two weeks and we talked for thirty minutes each time. got to the point where i was always thinking about him, and he said he was doing the same.

by the time he returned in february of this year, we had fought like a married couple several times. he stuck with me through a few dramas, and some of the most ridiculous moodswings i'd ever had. i stayed by him despite the fact that he had a stalker who threatened to hunt me down and "take care of me." needless to say, it was an intense six months.

when he came home, he picked me up at around eight at night (turned out that he lived two doors down from me, how's that?!
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) and we came back to my house around eleven, he didn't go home until three. we spent that entire time talking and laughing, like we'd been together for years.

we're now talking moving in, and someday getting married and having a family. i dare anyone to tell me it's impossible to find love online.
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KeishaG14

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Add me to the list of people who met their man online. Mine lives 45 minutes away so that's not too bad. Mine too is NOTHING like any guy I would ever have dated normally, but he's always been my biggest supporter from day one and he takes care of my daughter like she was his own. We've been together for 3.5 years now. I can't imagine dating someone from so far away. I'd be too nervous that they "sent their representative" and they are not who they say they are, but if it's working out for you, I think that's WONDERFUL!
 

persephonewillo

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i'm so glad things are working out for you
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you guys look adorable together
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i think it's possible to find love online
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why not? people find it everywhere else
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i'm currently dating another guy i met online and things are working out really well so far. *crossing fingers*.
 

BoriiQua

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Love comes from ANYWHERE, doll.. You can meet a guy in the grocery store that can be your King, or a total creep...same goes for a man/woman online! I met my "HE" almost a year ago from an online FREE dating site lol and it's been LOVELY!!
 

joygasm

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I don't think so. I met my boyfriend of two years online and he has to be the most amazing person I ever met
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It's not desperate, don't think about what other people say. As long as you are happy
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