Awkward Sexual Encounter...What Do I Do?


New member I had a pretty awkward sexual experience and I'm not sure how to proceed with the guy after it. (I'll try not to be too explicit).

I have been talking to this guy that I've always had a little crush on for about a month or so. He is unbelievably attractive...nice body, nice's ridiculous how handsome he is! Anyways, we met up for drinks one night and he mentioned to me that he wanted to basically f--- the s--- out of me LOL. I hadn't had sex in a while and he was leaving to go overseas in a few weeks so I was thinking at least I'll have some good sex to remember him by.

Well, it totally didn't work out that way.

He came over the next week and we talked for a little bit. When it came time to do it, it was going well at first. He was pleasuring me orally and I wanted to return the favor, so I make my way down there...and it's not hard at all.I was so surprised that I froze and had a look on my face like WTF, which I think embarassed him. We could not get it up. We tried for like ten minutes! After a while, it got semi-hard and I tried to get on top. but it didn't stay up so I got off and laid next to him. He was like I can't believe this is happening, I'm so sorry. I felt bad because I felt like I could've done more to make him feel more comfortable, but I was having slow moments and couldn't believe what was going on.

He was soooo embarrassed!! For like 15 minutes he was talking in disbelief and saying how sorry he was and how he'll redeem himself. I told him it was ok and he left. But I haven't talk to him since it happened. This was about three days ago. When I think about it, it really was awkward. I feel like I should call him, because I still like him and I think it was an one time thing and that he'll perform better the next time. What do I say to him? What should I do? It's that awkward...


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I'm sorry thsi happened and i can only imagine how upset and embarrassed he must feel. I knew a guy who had a similar issue and according to his gf, he never did manage to get it up. if you still like him then maybe you can just send him a text asking him out for a drink (non alcoholic!) and see what he says. i hope it doesn't stop him contacting you. these things happen and fingers crossed it was a one off for him


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Give him a call or send him a txt. Don't talk about it. Pretend it didn't even happen.
Contacting him will let him know it wasnt a big deal to you, and you don't think any less of him.


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I wouldn't worry about it too much unless he can never get it up. In which case, he has a problem. But maybe it will end up being something you guys find funny later (although I would wait until he brings it up to ever speak about it again...)

If you continue hooking up and he simply can't, then he needs to take care of it --- go to a doctor, and if that doesn't work, a shrink. If it's a long-term problem, it's either physical or emotional.


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Well guys, I'm gonna go ahead and say that it's most likely ended before it started. :(

If I would've known that this would going to happen, I would've never done it. We've been texting back and forth, but Im the one that always initiates it. I kind of feel like if I don't text, he won't text me. I asked him if we were good and he said we're good but I'm not sure I believe him. I'm starting to believe it might be me...I'm really trying to show him and let know that I still like him but a part of me wants to just leave it alone.

This is the time in life I wish I had a rewind button. This really sucks LOL


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Babe, you're better off finding someone who wants you as much as you want them. You have CLEARLY shown your interest by initiating convos w/ him, and it seems like he isn't receptive. What's done is done, don't wish for a rewind button - just don't waste any more of your time & energy trying to get with someone who isn't spending that same energy on you. You deserve more! Good luck :)