thelimabean
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--I know it's long, but I tried shortening it as much as possible--
Last year, I met a boy, let's call him B. When B and I met, I initially thought he liked one of my close girl friends. But after a while him and I began to strike up a friendship, and I began to like him. I asked both parties involved, my girlfriend "C" and B wether or not there was anything between them. Both said no, so I felt I could "officially" like him then. After half a year I thought maybe he felt the same way about me, we were getting closer and he seemed to be liking me. So I told him. He didn't feel the same way, and told me that he actually did have feelings for my friend C, but never acted on them because he knew she didn't reciprocate that. We stayed friends, even though I still had feelings for him. Over the past summer I lost weight because I thought that might give me confidence and perhaps cast myself in a different light to him. Then he told me how he was developing feelings for my other friend "J", and part of me was heart broken and the other part wanted to persevere, so I did the latter. We saw each other at school, B said he thought I looked nicer and I was absolutely giddy! It seemed like my work had payed off, but then he went on to me about how he thought he had no chance with "J" and how sad his whole situation was. It was too much for me to go on hearing it, so after a few weeks I flat out told him that I had liked him for a year and that all the other guys that I had "liked" were merely distractions so that I wouldn't be so preoccupied with him. He, again, apologized and said how he felt bad. At this point I just felt empty of emotion. Having that all out seemed to be surreal, but it happened. I told him that I needed to take a break from talking to him for a month. He seemed hurt and asked why I don't just block him (On AIM) which hurt me because he was saying it like I didn't want to be friends at all. But I knew if I just kept talking to him, i'd just start liking him again. It's been about 3 weeks now, and I have to wonder if it's worth it to become friends again. I really love talking to him and being his friend. But I don't want to suffer being "The friend" for his whole life. I don't want to be having these feelings for him, while watching him like girl after girl and getting hurt over and over. I just don't know what to do. I'm getting over him slowly, but I wonder if I can be friends with him and NOT be having these feelings.
Last year, I met a boy, let's call him B. When B and I met, I initially thought he liked one of my close girl friends. But after a while him and I began to strike up a friendship, and I began to like him. I asked both parties involved, my girlfriend "C" and B wether or not there was anything between them. Both said no, so I felt I could "officially" like him then. After half a year I thought maybe he felt the same way about me, we were getting closer and he seemed to be liking me. So I told him. He didn't feel the same way, and told me that he actually did have feelings for my friend C, but never acted on them because he knew she didn't reciprocate that. We stayed friends, even though I still had feelings for him. Over the past summer I lost weight because I thought that might give me confidence and perhaps cast myself in a different light to him. Then he told me how he was developing feelings for my other friend "J", and part of me was heart broken and the other part wanted to persevere, so I did the latter. We saw each other at school, B said he thought I looked nicer and I was absolutely giddy! It seemed like my work had payed off, but then he went on to me about how he thought he had no chance with "J" and how sad his whole situation was. It was too much for me to go on hearing it, so after a few weeks I flat out told him that I had liked him for a year and that all the other guys that I had "liked" were merely distractions so that I wouldn't be so preoccupied with him. He, again, apologized and said how he felt bad. At this point I just felt empty of emotion. Having that all out seemed to be surreal, but it happened. I told him that I needed to take a break from talking to him for a month. He seemed hurt and asked why I don't just block him (On AIM) which hurt me because he was saying it like I didn't want to be friends at all. But I knew if I just kept talking to him, i'd just start liking him again. It's been about 3 weeks now, and I have to wonder if it's worth it to become friends again. I really love talking to him and being his friend. But I don't want to suffer being "The friend" for his whole life. I don't want to be having these feelings for him, while watching him like girl after girl and getting hurt over and over. I just don't know what to do. I'm getting over him slowly, but I wonder if I can be friends with him and NOT be having these feelings.
