friendships last forever? yea right.. help?

[AbovexThexStars]

alright, this is going to be a bit of a ranting post, so bear with me. this girl who claimed to be my 'best friend' since we were 6 years old just completely sold me out on her tumblr and lied throughout the entire thing. the lies were things that she assumed about me and my life instead of knowing...( you know the phrase 'when you assume you make an a** out of you and me'). it really just upsets me a lot to read that someone who said you were her best friend a week ago can completely turn around and say this. she said that i was completely fake and only got things in my life because i had connections and not because i deserved them. and also that i was a skank for having boyfriends ( ive only had 4 my entire life, im only 19..they all last relatively long, so its not like i was sleeping around or something). also, she made a comment about how during our spring breaks she asked to hang out and i didn't answer...if she had further investigated that and cared a little , she would have found out that my mom went into the hospital because of her thyroid...yet she didn't. i dont know, i feel like she could be jealous? because my best friends are guys...and for a while she always was crushing on my best friend..but i have no idea. sometimes i feel like i just don't get along with other girls for some reason...because of the cattiness. i try to keep things as real as it gets, and i guess some people don't appreciate brutal honesty. sometimes i feel completely alone in this world. =/ i dont think i am going to confront her about this, if she doesn't like me , then that is her loss, not mine...blah.

thanks for readings girls and guys ! =]

 

[leenybeeny]

No, friendships do not last forever.. but, they can be mended. I have lost friends over the years and gotten back in touch later on (years and years) and now our bonds are stronger than ever. Sometimes people need space and time to grow. Sometimes, your lives just become so different and you end up in such different places that you can't maintain a friendship. That is okay.

I would talk to her about it, let her know how hurt you are. Find out why she is she saying the things she is. If you don't feel you can continue the friendship, it is okay to move on.

 

[jenee.sum]

^^^ i agree with leenybeeny. there are many factors that contribute to why two people don't click, and it doesn't necessarily mean that person is a BAD person (and i'm not saying you think your friend is a bad person). it could be that your in different places on your lives or had a huge misunderstanding; which i totally see in your situation cuz if she would have just asked about your life and what's up, she would've seen you had something extremely important happening in your personal life that you had to take care of before anything else. whether it's jealousy or what not, yes things can be mended if both parties try. but if one or the other fails to really UNDERSTAND the situation and can't see it with an objective eye, then i'm afraid things will never be the same...
that being said, i'm sorry that has happened, but i hope things work out for the best. people may say "boyfriends come and go"....yes it's true, but if you really think about it, so do friends; whether it ends in a bad note or not. it's reality

 

[X4biddenxLustX]

Totally agree with what the girls had said.

Sometimes friendships last and work out and other times shit just happens and they don't. It's life and the reality of things.

I had a girl who I had consider my "best friend" also since the 2nd grade when we first met. But the past 2 years have been pretty bumpy and finally something happened and we haven't talked in almost 3 months. It's something petty and stupid seriously that we had a disagreement over. I tried to reconcile several times through texting her on her phone to see how she was doing. No reply. I also later on sent her a message on her myspace explaining things to her and how I just don't understand what happened and wanted to get past this. Again no reply. So as sad as it is I had to let it go. Do I miss her? Yes, very much. But what can I do about it ya know? I tried to make things right again it seems as if she's not trying to do that on her end. We just use to be so tight and thought we were practically going to be friends forever literally and inseperable. Things have changed a lot since we've gotten older and were no longer the same people. We just don't mesh as well together anymore.

I've been told by many older people that this happens quite a lot as people go through highschool, graduate and move on into adulthood. You just have to learn to appreciate and remember the good times. Then let it go and move on with life. You'll have new friends and meet many new people on the way.