i'm so broken........

[entyce08]

Hey ladies....i need to vent and could use some friends right now.....

My fiance and i broke up about 2 months ago and im so broken without him....

back story: he cheated 3 years ago and i said i forgave him and we could move on, but i just stayed angry and treated him like shit even though i know he wasn't fu*king around anymore. 2 mothes ago he finally said that he couldnt take it anymore anymore and if i didn't want to start over from scratch with him then he was leaving. me being the diva that i am didnt take to kindly to the ultimatum so he left......

but now i cant eat or sleep or do anything without him .......i miss him so much! Our 3 year old soon is also suffering with out his dad because we live about a hour and 20min away......

i just want my life back but now he has some new bit*h all up under him and he keeps telling that he misses me and loved me but he thinks if we get back together it gonna be the same ish over again.......

i swear i'm done with the bull ish and the games i just want my man back, my family back, my heart back.......

 

[malaviKat]

Sorry to hear about what you're going through. I hope you feel better.

 

[randeezi00]

Aw, I'm sorry to hear that you're hurting

. I know exactly where you're coming from, I've been in(sorta still am in) your situation. Don't beat yourself up about playing 'BS and games', after you were so hurt its natural to be angry and totally understandable.. Since he loves and misses you it may be that its only a matter of time before he realizes where he needs to be. I really hope everything works out for you.

Hugs from Oregon

 

[gildedangel]

I'm sorry hun. Be strong, you will get through this!

 

[TISH1124]

I am not sure...I mean I know he was wrong for cheating...but you chose to stay with him after that so I agree you should have let it go if you were going to stay with him...But I know being hurt is a hard thing...you either forgive it and let it go or leave the realtionship...No one ever forgets but you do have to let it go...And they always say when a woman's fed up it's bad...well trust me when a man's fed up it's worse...No more means No more when it comes to a man...they don't think with their heart they think with their head and they walk....I hope you get through this and I hope you find a way to find happiness for you and your baby. it's probaby best at this point that you move on and find someone who will love and respect you and your child

 

[kaliraksha]

The only thing that bugs me is the timeline... you said he cheated on you 3 years ago and your baby is 3 years old? Either he cheated on you when you were pregnant or you guys had a newborn in the house. That's kind of irrelevant, but I think understanding why that happened then takes some serious consideration.

I totally understand feeling hurt and taking it out on your guy... or throwing it in his face all the time.

Blerg, I wish I had advice to give you... it's just such a tough situation and if you want it to work then I hope it works out for you. If you guys get a third shot at it, you guys should do whatever it takes to fix your family... counseling, books, whatever. It's time to let go of that pain, hopefully before you get married. I see that my mother stayed in a relationship where my dad cheated on her and she is miserable... she always feels like he doesn't deserve her and then she feels cheated out of a better life she could have had.

 

[BeccalovesMAC]

hey i think you all should get back together and get into some counseling. This helps wonders! Me and my man were fighting a lot and we tried it out. It helped us out so much. When you go see the therapists, you will be able to get your point across to him and the doctor. Girl, I think that if you forgiven him, you should let the cheating argument go. You and your man will not be benefiting from you bring it up or throwing it in his face.

 

[Kalico]

It sounds like you gave it a shot. Even if you don't feel you did your best to get over it, I believe you did the best you could at the time. I believe very few people truly get over infidelity. If you were still bitter and angry over it three years later, I doubt it would ever settle within you. Even if you want to get over it, you can't force yourself to do it. Instead the resentment just acts like a poison and eats away at you every day. It sounds like you never trusted him after that, and after three years he should have made ample success in making you believe in him.

What do you miss, exactly? Do you miss *him* or do you miss the feeling of comfort, being loved, security, always having someone there?

After the feelings of sadness and misery go away, the peacefulness is worth so much more than all the turmoil and drama that goes on within a bad relationship. Unhappy relationships are so much drama... high highs, low lows. It's amazing what it feels like once you let the dust settle. I promise, you will feel better.

 

[MaskedBeauty]

I know what you're going through. except I wasn't with the person for so long. I cheated on an ex, with an ex. BIG mistake, i know it was. I told my bf at the time about it a few days after it happened. he still wanted to make things work. things were fine until about a year or so later he started acting different and treating me like shit. We were on and off for 3 1/2 years. I wanted to make it work so bad, more than anything in the world and I still do. He still tells me he wants to be with me but he said that "hate" will always be there from what happened. Even though it happened years ago. What I didn't get was that everything was fine until a year or so later, then just all of a sudden he changed. So i know what you're going through, its just that my story is the other way around. And I always tell him "if you wanted to be with me then you'd be with me right now. You'd give me a chance to show i'm not that person anymore."

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this. and i hope everything works out for you. Everything happens for a reason. maybe this little seperation will bring you two closer together in the end.