So my bf is going on vacay with me and the 'rents this weekend...

[MAC_Pixie04]

but my mom has adamantly put her foot down that we will NOT be sleeping near each other. she's already planning on packing an air mattress for him to sleep on. and i understand where she's coming from, but does she honestly think we're foolish enough to try and like fool around or get it on while we're in a bed 5 feet away from her and my dad?

where the hell is the trust?!

 

[professionaltart]

Call me old fashioned but I agree with your mom. I dont know if it has to do with trust so much as its just a way for your mom to "remind" you how to act.

I have no problem not sleeping in a 20ft range of my bf if I am visiting his parents only because I know my dad would surely kick his ass right out of the house if we slept in the same room.

Then again I said i was old fashioned

 

[giz2000]

I'm a little old-fashioned as well...just be glad they're letting your BF come along!

 

[Shimmer]

^^^what they said.

 

[asnbrb]

I agree with your mother.

Sure, some parents may be okay with it (like my parents or boyfriend's mom), but for other parents- it's one thing to know that it's happening and a whole different story to see it in front of your face. If my mom didn't come out and say that it was all right for him to sleep over (she actually did and it was very very embaressing), I would not let my boyfriend spend the night out of courtesy to her feelings.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

i forgot to mention; she never treated my brother that way. and i kinda resent it lol. i see her POV and can semi-agree, but she was really weird in telling me about it. it was almost accusatory.

 

[mzcelaneous]

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Originally Posted by giz2000 I'm a little old-fashioned as well...just be glad they're letting your BF come along!

I think she wants him on another bed out of courtesy....and because she might be old fashioned. Not out of trust. Plus, if she's like my parents....she's probably gotta protect her girl (you know...since double standards still exist unfortunately)

 

[professionaltart]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 i forgot to mention; she never treated my brother that way. and i kinda resent it lol. i see her POV and can semi-agree, but she was really weird in telling me about it. it was almost accusatory.

double standards go fig *shrug*

 

[ben]

your brother can't get pregnant!

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by ben your brother can't get pregnant!

no but he did get someone pregnant; and i haven't done half the bad things he did at my age.

and she's designated me two pairs of extreme modest almost victorian looking pajamas. i usually sleep in a camisole and pj pants, but she wants me mummified into virginity. but we're going to the friggin desert, the high temp for the weekend is 107, i'm not wearing those long ass pajamas lol

 

[Brianne]

My parents did the same thing, until I had moved out of the house and in with my SO. Now, I guess she figures that since we sleep in the same bed all the time anyway, it's fine on vacation.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

lol well, she took the air matress and he slept on it. it was okay because he was on the floor and i was on the couch, so we were still close enough to small talk and watch tv. but then the next night she put him in a separate room four doors down the hall. what a loving spazz i have lol

 

[ben]

no but he did get someone pregnant; and i haven't done half the bad things he did at my age.

i did not mean to imply that your brother was not capable of this, but when a man gets a woman pregnant his life is not as greatly impacted as the womans.....

i find a lot of parents protect their daughters more than their sons for this reason.

if a young, unmarried girl gets pregnant she most likely will stuggle a lot more in life than a young man who gets a girl pregnant.

 

[Jaim]

My boyfriend lives with me and my family and we sleep in separate beds in my room! It's cute.

 

[Beauty Mark]

It's just an uncomfortable situation for some people. You may not be making out or having sex, but people sometimes find themselves naturally in compromising positions when they wake up or do- interesting things while they sleep.

I assume your brother is older, right? Maybe they're learning from the mistakes he made. Parents often do hold their daughters to a different, often harsher standard. Sad to say that there ain't much you can do about that.

 

[user79]

I think it's all how your were raised. I met my bf's parents the first time I visited their house - and stayed the weekend and slept in his bed! lol

It would be weird here to not allow a bf & gf to sleep together, people wouldn't think of it. Just a diff culture I guess.

 

[Jacq-i]

When my mom said my [ex]BF could spend the night (when we were together) she said he'd sleep downstairs, while I was upstairs. It never happened, but I thought it was a cute/funny idea.