Too Young for love?

[HalfsizeGirl]

So, I've been dating the same person for about 2 years now. Yeah we've broken up before but we got back together, as you can clearly see. Anyway, my friends the other day (older friends) were like "Aren't you too young for love?" So I've been wondering about ever since.

What do you girls think?



Oh I'm 15 by the way.

 

[little teaser]

you know i dont think so only cause a friend of mine dated this guy in high school for a year they broke up for two years then got back together later got married and are still together it's been over ten years still going strong they didnt end up married untill both finish college though

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

Mmmm.. I dont think your nessisarly TOO young for love.
I had my first b.f at 14. I didnt LOVE him but I definitly LIked him.. for about a year . I didnt know what LOVE really was untill I met my current boyfriend.

Who really decides what age is too young for love? and what age is it OK for love? Its up to you . Do yo love him? Then you love him no one can really tell you . its all a matter of opinion anyways right?

Yeah .. sorry I wasnt much help

 

[YvetteJeannine]

Well....IMO, you're NEVER too young to feel what you feel!!!! But, if you're 15 yrs. old, you have A LOT of time to take things s-l-o-w-l-y

You have your whole life ahead of you, and it's fun to date, and have someone with whom you 'connect'....but I would say not to pin your choices down to one strict person! I was there...when I was 16 I hooked up w/ someone (an 'older' guy)...and I was with him for six years...oh how I wish I'd done things differently. I missed out on many of the things that I should've done. Things may be different with you...I don't know if this guy is your age; but if he is, then it's a diff. situation; you're both in the "school and friends" mode now. If he IS older...you should consider thinking about taking a lil' break from the situation...just to assess your feelings. I know it feels like the end of the world, and it hurts SO badly. It won't be like that forever. The pain dulls....fast.

I just think that 15 is too young to limit yourself. And, this is my opinion, and my opinion only (and many may disagree), but USUALLY an intense relationship involves sex (I say usually..not always...some people decide to wait...'specially when they're young)...and *I* think 15yrs. is TOO YOUNG to be sexually active...

If you are writing for advice, that means you're most likely having doubts. Usually when a friend expresses an opinion of this nature, they're right. So listen to your HEAD. NOT your HEART!!! If you two love each other, that's great! No one can tell you otherwise. Is 15 too young for love? No. Just be careful of your choices....and don't think with your hormones! And try to experience everything a young girl SHOULD experience...don't let a relationship take ANY of that away from you!

 

[Shimmer]

There's a LOT of life to experience when you're fifteen.

Too young for love?
Perhaps not.
Too inexperienced for love?
Perhaps.

 

[kimmy]

i agree with Shimmer and YvetteJeannine. at 15, you've still got alot of life ahead of you.

the thing where most people get into age limits and love is because relationships often get into rough patches and they can be really emotionally draining which can be overwhelming for younger people as they generally don't have as much life experience as older people.

i didn't have my first (which is my current) boyfriend until i was 17, i'm 18 now and i know that being with him, i have missed out on some things. but you being only 15 shouldn't be missing out on much! there's nothing wrong with having a relationship at your age IMO, but like YvetteJeannine said, don't let that keep you from experiencing the things you should be experiencing

and also remember that you're 15, if something goes wrong (which, it may not, i'm not trying to jinx anything, but things happen) don't let it bother you entirely too much. you're young with alot of life and love still ahead of you

bottom line, if you love him then you love him. no one can change that. but don't make any rash decisions (especially sexual ones) based on that alone and don't let your relationship get in the way of you having fun with your friends and living your teenage years to their fullest

 

[HalfsizeGirl]

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Originally Posted by YvetteJeannine Well....IMO, you're NEVER too young to feel what you feel!!!! But, if you're 15 yrs. old, you have A LOT of time to take things s-l-o-w-l-y You have your whole life ahead of you, and it's fun to date, and have someone with whom you 'connect'....but I would say not to pin your choices down to one strict person! I was there...when I was 16 I hooked up w/ someone (an 'older' guy)...and I was with him for six years...oh how I wish I'd done things differently. I missed out on many of the things that I should've done. Things may be different with you...I don't know if this guy is your age; but if he is, then it's a diff. situation; you're both in the "school and friends" mode now. If he IS older...you should consider thinking about taking a lil' break from the situation...just to assess your feelings. I know it feels like the end of the world, and it hurts SO badly. It won't be like that forever. The pain dulls....fast. I just think that 15 is too young to limit yourself. And, this is my opinion, and my opinion only (and many may disagree), but USUALLY an intense relationship involves sex (I say usually..not always...some people decide to wait...'specially when they're young)...and *I* think 15yrs. is TOO YOUNG to be sexually active... If you are writing for advice, that means you're most likely having doubts. Usually when a friend expresses an opinion of this nature, they're right. So listen to your HEAD. NOT your HEART!!! If you two love each other, that's great! No one can tell you otherwise. Is 15 too young for love? No. Just be careful of your choices....and don't think with your hormones! And try to experience everything a young girl SHOULD experience...don't let a relationship take ANY of that away from you!

no, I am not sexually active. It's only been until recently that I've realized that I love this person, and if things do come to the worst I don't think I'll be that heart broken over it. I am a strong person. We are the same age so I don't really miss out on anything. Oh and I wasn't writing for advice, I was just wondering what other people think about young love or whatever.

 

[HalfsizeGirl]

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Originally Posted by THE ANTHEM i agree with Shimmer and YvetteJeannine. at 15, you've still got alot of life ahead of you. the thing where most people get into age limits and love is because relationships often get into rough patches and they can be really emotionally draining which can be overwhelming for younger people as they generally don't have as much life experience as older people. i didn't have my first (which is my current) boyfriend until i was 17, i'm 18 now and i know that being with him, i have missed out on some things. but you being only 15 shouldn't be missing out on much! there's nothing wrong with having a relationship at your age IMO, but like YvetteJeannine said, don't let that keep you from experiencing the things you should be experiencing and also remember that you're 15, if something goes wrong (which, it may not, i'm not trying to jinx anything, but things happen) don't let it bother you entirely too much. you're young with alot of life and love still ahead of you bottom line, if you love him then you love him. no one can change that. but don't make any rash decisions (especially sexual ones) based on that alone and don't let your relationship get in the way of you having fun with your friends and living your teenage years to their fullest

Oh definitely I don't let him get in the way of my fuuun!

hehe. I have time to hang out with friends and so does he. It's not like if we are with each other 24/7.

 

[HalfsizeGirl]

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Originally Posted by little teaser you know i dont think so only cause a friend of mine dated this guy in high school for a year they broke up for two years then got back together later got married and are still together it's been over ten years still going strong they didnt end up married untill both finish college though

thats crazy yo! I guess some things are just meant to be.

 

[kimmy]

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Originally Posted by HalfsizeGirl Oh definitely I don't let him get in the way of my fuuun! hehe. I have time to hang out with friends and so does he. It's not like if we are with each other 24/7.

then i say, go for it

and fuck what other people say. if they don't like it, then tough. the big problem with teenage relationships is that both parties usually get really clingy and want to spend every waking moment with each other, but sicne you've got that under control, i say it sounds good

 

[YvetteJeannine]

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Originally Posted by HalfsizeGirl no, I am not sexually active. It's only been until recently that I've realized that I love this person, and if things do come to the worst I don't think I'll be that heart broken over it. I am a strong person. We are the same age so I don't really miss out on anything. Oh and I wasn't writing for advice, I was just wondering what other people think about young love or whatever.

Whatever.

 

[spencoh]

you cant control love, if you love someone thats how it is no matter how old or young you are.

 

[Shimmer]

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Originally Posted by HalfsizeGirl no, I am not sexually active. It's only been until recently that I've realized that I love this person, and if things do come to the worst I don't think I'll be that heart broken over it. I am a strong person. We are the same age so I don't really miss out on anything. Oh and I wasn't writing for advice, I was just wondering what other people think about young love or whatever.

Interesting.


By the very nature of your original post, the request for advice and opinions is quite apparent, at least to most people who read it.

Perhaps in the future when posting on this subject you may consider specifying exactly what the nature of your question is?

 

[DanaB]

k. i might get ripped on here, but i personally think that 15 is too young to REALLY be IN love. sure, you probably love the guy, but to really truely be in love with him, you have to have gone thru more experiences in your life to really know that. I think so, anyway. i was "IN LOVE" twice before my current guy. and it wasn't until i found this guy that i realized that i wasn't really in love with my previous boyfriends. and i live with each of them for a couple of years each! i guess what i mean is, that when you are young, you love differently than you do as you get older. the love i have now is much more involved and intense than it was with the others. which is probably why we chose to have a baby together!

but stuff like that you don't learn until you are older. so enjoy your youth while you have it!

oh, and when you are REALLY in love, you will never have to question it. you won't be asking yourself if you really are, or if others think you are too young to feel it. you will just KNOW. and that will be all that matters.

 

[litlaur]

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Originally Posted by DanaB oh, and when you are REALLY in love, you will never have to question it. you won't be asking yourself if you really are, or if others think you are too young to feel it. you will just KNOW. and that will be all that matters.

Exactly

I don't think 15 is neccessarily "too young" for love, but most children/teens don't really understand what romantic love is. I agree with Shimmer, you've got a lot ahead of you; the future will bring you some interesting lessons and experiences.

If you are in love, that's great. I think young relationships are mostly about having fun together, so don't stress out too much about what other people think.

 

[KJam]

I started dating my husband at 15 - we dated for 4 years, and we've been married for over 18 years now. We never broke up, not once in all of that time. No one (and I truly mean no one) thought it would last, and we've now been together for 22 years, with 2 kids - the oldest is your age (and I hope he doesn't fall in love for a few years!).

Sometimes love just shows up, regardless of age. Only time (and I mean probably years) will give some perspective as to whether it is really love, or not. As long as you're not rushing things and cherish and respect each other, the label doesn't really matter.

That aside, I agree with the above about taking things slow. There are a lot of life experiences and people coming up for you to experience. It is most important to get to know and always love yourself and to grow; you can miss an awful lot if you rush through it all!

 

[Kiwi Girlie]

I don't think you can be too young for love, it just happens, Nobody can time it. I met my boyfriend when I was 15 im now 19 and we are still together

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[prinzessin784]

I don't think age has anything to do with it - it's all about your mental state and maturity. I dated a guy when I was your age and I felt then and still believe that I loved him back then! Love changes and means different things at different stages in your life but that doesn't make it any less real or meaningful when you're young!