tricky
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So. My ex and I decided that we wanted to have sex in front of a stranger (we decided to do this while we were still together). We placed an ad on CL looking for a guy to watch us. A bunch of guys responded and we never followed up. Months later, we broke up and decided we needed to do this sooner than later (because he is moving, and yes we are still having sex). So I picked a guy out of the emails that seemed cute and nice (I'll call him G), emailed him, etc. Then my ex decides he doesnt want to do this afterall. I email G back and tell him I have to cancel. G responds and says maybe we could still fool around (meaning, we'd watch each other get off seperatly). In one email I said you are single, right (I assumed people responding to these ads would be single???)? He said yeah he was single. We went out on a date and got along well, and i thought he was super hot. He told me that for the holidays he was going to Canada with his ex girlfriend, that they had planned the trip, and then broken up, but were still going. He also metioned that one his exgirlfriends and him him had broken up and gotten back together and broken up about 4 times. I don't recall if this was the same exgirlfriend or a different exgirlfriend. So fast forward to the end of the night, so we said goodnight and went our seperate ways. I emailed and told I though he was attractive and that I wanted him to watch me still or that I wanted even more (heavily implying I wanted to haev sex with him). He emailed back and said that he would love to watch me touch myself, he made no mention of having sexing with me, so he asks me when I'm free to do this. I email him back and let him know.
Today on a whim I go on myspace and do a search for his name. It comes up and his status is "in a relationship". He had a girl as his second buddy within his top 8 and this girl was also in a relationship. There were two pics of him and this girl together in his photoalbum.
He had logged in today and she had logged in within the last couple weeks.
He doesn't even know that I know his last name. I googled his email address and one website came up that had his full name on it. That is the only way I was able to find him on myspace because the email address he uses to email me isn't the one that he has registered through myspace.
So... either they broke up really recently and haven't changed their status' (I'm guessing this is very unlikely) or he is NOT single. I'm going with not single. How do I handle the situation now? Just ignore him? Or should I actually say something like, you know, even though we wouldn't technically be having sex, that is still CHEATING. But I guess I can't call him out on it because then he'd know I was internet snooping on him (this might be shady thing for me to do but it's obviously a good thing to do, you can find info about people that way)??? Either way I am not going through with this.
Really, my question here is, call him out on it or ignore him?
Today on a whim I go on myspace and do a search for his name. It comes up and his status is "in a relationship". He had a girl as his second buddy within his top 8 and this girl was also in a relationship. There were two pics of him and this girl together in his photoalbum.
He had logged in today and she had logged in within the last couple weeks.
He doesn't even know that I know his last name. I googled his email address and one website came up that had his full name on it. That is the only way I was able to find him on myspace because the email address he uses to email me isn't the one that he has registered through myspace.
So... either they broke up really recently and haven't changed their status' (I'm guessing this is very unlikely) or he is NOT single. I'm going with not single. How do I handle the situation now? Just ignore him? Or should I actually say something like, you know, even though we wouldn't technically be having sex, that is still CHEATING. But I guess I can't call him out on it because then he'd know I was internet snooping on him (this might be shady thing for me to do but it's obviously a good thing to do, you can find info about people that way)??? Either way I am not going through with this.
Really, my question here is, call him out on it or ignore him?
