Re: Long distance relationship advice
I know where you're coming from.. I look at it like this: when you're young and you want to start up your career and have a decent future, you don't have a choice but to put that as a #1 priority in your list. At that age it's normal that career/education comes first. If you make him miss a good opportunity to go to a good school, and he ends up pigeon-holed in a job that he doesn't like, he'll hate you, and you'll feel guilty.
That being said, I think that if you truly love and trust each other, if you have realistically established that your futures are compatible (have you discussed long-term goals with him?), then you might want to give the LDR a shot. You really have to go with common sense and your gut feeling here. I don't think anybody is qualified to tell you whether it's worth pursuing this or not.
LDR is really, REALLY hard. Make sure that you communicate your expectations beforehand. Agree on how much you're going to visit each other, agree on a calling schedule, make sure he understands that the key to keeping the two of you together is communicating about what's going on in your daily lives, no matter the distance. Prepare yourself for becoming paranoid about his whereabouts as well, so try to remind yourself that you have faith in the relationship (but keep your eyes open nevertheless).
And I've heard horror LDR stories too.. Ones where they were "together" for a number of years, visiting each other every summer, more or less frequent phone calls.. But in the end the guy decided that he couldn't restrain himself from cheating on her. I do believe that he loved her though, but ultimately I think it was a matter of whether their future goals were compatible.. I guess he just didn't see them living together anytime soon, so he said what the hell...
Anyway you never know with these things, but hopefully it will work out for you! Just try to focus on your future together if you are going to go with the LDR, it will give you hope and maybe it won't be that bad in the end.. Good luck.