ahhh help please

Tinkerbell9245

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Okay so I need help with understanding something about a guy. So a little backstory to get to my problem. I hope this isn't to long and someone of you can help me!

So I dated this one guy when I was still in highschool for about 7 months and it was good and everything, and then he just started acting differently so I broke up with him. I had liked one of his friends, but didn't do anything about it since I was still with someone at the time.

So I graduated highschool and then no longer saw him or his friends anymore, about six months later his friend (that I really liked) ended up getting a job where I work. I know the whole you shouldn't date people you work with, but figured it was different since I knew him before he starting working there.

So I was really happy and in the winter months we would hardly be busy so we would talk all the time, and take our breaks together and all that stuff. We started hanging out alot and then ended up dating for about 3-4 months, and then one day I went to see him since he hadn't called (and there wasn't anything wrong in the relationship at the time) and he told me that he was going back to his ex-girlfriend and he couldn't see me anymore. So I was crushed since I didn't think anything was wrong, and this was coming out of nowhere.

So then I still had work with him for about 5 months after that, and it was horrible, he treated me horrible and would flip out at me at me when I wouldn't be doing anything wrong.

So then he got fired then, and I was happy I wouldn't have to see him anymore. About one month later, I got a phone call asking if I wanted to came over so I did and he ended up telling me about how he made a big mistake, I was the best thing that ever happened to me blah blah blah. I ended staying the weekend with him, and he kept saying about how he still wanted to be with me. So then after that I never heard from him again

I saw him a few times after that, and everytime he'd just ignore me and just making me uncomfortable.

I got asked by a guy to homecoming, so I figured I'd go, and hope I didn't see him (since he was still in highschool). I saw him at homecoming, and it was of course horrible.

So now my problem, I was coming home from my college which is like an hour away so I was trying to get home so I could get to the bank before it closed. So I got there like 10 minutes before they closed and were like awesome theres only one other car in the parking lot. I walk in and he's the only other customer there. So I'm standing there, and it's taking longer then normal cause they can't find my account. And he like looks over, and I guess realizes who it is and keeps looking over and smirking. I kept just thinking look straight ahead act like its not bothering you. So I can see out of the corner of my eye, that he's like smirking the entire time. So then that made me really uncomfortable because I wanted to be like what are you smirking about, you haven't even talked to me for like 9 months. So I become really uncomfortable and like nervous, and I was going to say something but then I felt like I was going to start crying so I didn't want to start talking. But seriously what's like his problem, because I dont' know why he acts like this every time I see him.
 

xbeatofangelx

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What a jerk! I would just stay away from him, and not worry anymore. That was a past part of your life, and though you can't change what you did, you can always learn from it! Avoid guys like that like they're the plague (sp?) They think girls are just a booty call...

But stay strong and find someone that really cares about you =]
 

Beauty Mark

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It sounds like he enjoys treating you badly and gets kick out of it. People like that are pathetic.

Just ignore his actions and try to forget. It really is him and not you. If he does that again, just smile back, like "Yeah, I know I'm too good for you. Look all you like, because you aren't getting this again."
 

IslandGirl77

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Sounds like he is just plain ol' immature. You shouldn't let him get to you. Especially if he's in highschool.
 

Hawkeye

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Wanna know the honest to god truth?
He knows he can call you to get a booty call anytime so he'll treat you like shit then he'll call you up and say all the things you want to hear and you'll forgive him and stay with him then after the sex etc is over he'll treat you like shit again. The thing is- he KNOWS he can do it and in HIS mind it is perfectly acceptable.

This is phenomenon I call Jerk.

Seriously, Just ignore him, he knows he can treat you badly but you know what- at some point you have to realize- hey you're in college, he's still in highschool. Whose gonna be the grownup around here? It's hard - I really know how hard it can be but at the same time you have just ignore him and become very mature and secure in yourself and the moment he realizes that he can't treat you like that he's going to try - but don't let him. You have more important things to do and better guys to meet.
 

MxAxC-_ATTACK

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youbeabitch is right.

guys LOVE this . They get a girl they know they can get to come back to them asap, whenever they feel the need. sorta like having a backup girl . just in case this girl doesn't work out, hes got a quick booty call and things are a-ok in his mind.
steer clear of him. as hard as it seems. forget about him. theres a whole mess of dudes out there that would probably love to be with you and treat you well..
you just have to find it .. and it will come eventually
 

Tinkerbell9245

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Thanks for all the help and advice, I think I feel this way just because I haven't find the right guy to make me forget about him. I know that I deserve better then him, and that he doesn't deserve me. Thanks for all the advice though
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