SingFrAbsoltion
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xIxSkyDancerxIx
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I think you're being a little harsh on him. If he doesn't have a car or no means of transportation, then maybe this is his way of passing time and such, not to mention that anime is pretty addicting. My boyfriend and I can watch episode and episode for the whole day and do nothing else. Maybe you can try to watch it with him? But if you really don't like it that much then how about trying to take him out for dates and just to get out of the house in general?
If you told me that watching anime is a waste of time and that you hate it, I wouldn't really get it either. To me it's very fun and entertaining and passes lots of time when I have nothing else to really do. Does he work? Go to school? Have other hobbies or friends? What else would you want him to do? If you're just hanging up on him for watching it without any suggestions/other options then that kind of sucks. But if you are suggesting things to do and he's blowing you off for anime then yah, he needs to do something about it.
*huggs I hope things work out. I'm the type of girl that gets into my boyfriend's hobbies so I can't give you too much advice, but I can feel where you're coming from.
I suggest stealing his TV away in the middle of the night. lol!
If you told me that watching anime is a waste of time and that you hate it, I wouldn't really get it either. To me it's very fun and entertaining and passes lots of time when I have nothing else to really do. Does he work? Go to school? Have other hobbies or friends? What else would you want him to do? If you're just hanging up on him for watching it without any suggestions/other options then that kind of sucks. But if you are suggesting things to do and he's blowing you off for anime then yah, he needs to do something about it.
*huggs I hope things work out. I'm the type of girl that gets into my boyfriend's hobbies so I can't give you too much advice, but I can feel where you're coming from.
I suggest stealing his TV away in the middle of the night. lol!
SingFrAbsoltion
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deadSAVVY
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lol wow. I probably have no words to say to that because I'm just the same! gosh I hate it, but I love anime! I've learned to balance my time now because I actually do have a life and too much work to do..besides that my episode isn't released yet haha! I'm horrible I watched probably like 20+ episodes a day until there wasn't anymore to watch.. He'll get out of it..maybe u should pay attention to other things yourself. Hopefully he'll notice you've kind of been ignoring him and will look for your attention rather than his darn anime!
Seriously, after awhile watching all day does get old..but maybe that's the thing he's really into. Like (assuming because you're on specktra) you like makeup! My bf loves cars so I'm fighting for his attention all the time just like he is looking for mine because I sleep, dream and live makeup!
yikes sorry for rambling here but I totally understand where you are coming from!
Seriously, after awhile watching all day does get old..but maybe that's the thing he's really into. Like (assuming because you're on specktra) you like makeup! My bf loves cars so I'm fighting for his attention all the time just like he is looking for mine because I sleep, dream and live makeup!
yikes sorry for rambling here but I totally understand where you are coming from!
Shimmer
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I don't agree with you at all.
The anime thing has started interfering with his life, precluding sleep and social activities. Now it's affecting his relationship.
And, to say "Well, what's he supposed to do? Why don't you suggest something?" is just...it sloughs the responsibility for not being addicted to a damned TV/Computer screen off on the non interested party.
Do SOMETHING. Clean the house, rake the leaves, play with the dogs, go for a jog, get a job, go rock climbing, draw, exercise your body and mind instead of letting something spoon feed you. (not you you obviously)
Originally Posted by xIxSkyDancerxIx
I think you're being a little harsh on him. If he doesn't have a car or no means of transportation, then maybe this is his way of passing time and such, not to mention that anime is pretty addicting. My boyfriend and I can watch episode and episode for the whole day and do nothing else. Maybe you can try to watch it with him? But if you really don't like it that much then how about trying to take him out for dates and just to get out of the house in general? If you told me that watching anime is a waste of time and that you hate it, I wouldn't really get it either. To me it's very fun and entertaining and passes lots of time when I have nothing else to really do. Does he work? Go to school? Have other hobbies or friends? What else would you want him to do? If you're just hanging up on him for watching it without any suggestions/other options then that kind of sucks. But if you are suggesting things to do and he's blowing you off for anime then yah, he needs to do something about it. *huggs I hope things work out. I'm the type of girl that gets into my boyfriend's hobbies so I can't give you too much advice, but I can feel where you're coming from. I suggest stealing his TV away in the middle of the night. lol! |
I don't agree with you at all.
The anime thing has started interfering with his life, precluding sleep and social activities. Now it's affecting his relationship.
And, to say "Well, what's he supposed to do? Why don't you suggest something?" is just...it sloughs the responsibility for not being addicted to a damned TV/Computer screen off on the non interested party.
Do SOMETHING. Clean the house, rake the leaves, play with the dogs, go for a jog, get a job, go rock climbing, draw, exercise your body and mind instead of letting something spoon feed you. (not you you obviously)
newagetomatoz
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When you said that your boyfriend is "addicted," I really think he is. Agreeing with Shimmer, anime is affecting his life and is altering him and everything he does from pre-anime. Addiction is not just drugs and alcohol. Addiction runs very strong on both sides of my family and I've seen other members take a more passive and justifying attitude towards it. It seems like it has gone to a point of intervention. He is clearly not able to help himself at this point, so you need to help him. I have a somewhat-similar problem with food where I can literally eat non-stop an entire day, and think only of food and everything about it. If it wasn't for my momma yanking the Cheetos bag out of my hand and telling me to go walk the dog, I would still be eating.
You need to sit down with him and talk about it, or just make him do something. If other people are aware of his addiction, get them to help. Or maybe try to occupy him to break the addiction, like doing the groceries or "raking the leaves," or just running stupid errands for you.
But as my addiction-ridden family has taught me, if he doesn't want help, you can't force him...but you can sure as hell try.
Best of luck with this; hopefully everything will work out for you, even if he ends up not being a part of it.
You need to sit down with him and talk about it, or just make him do something. If other people are aware of his addiction, get them to help. Or maybe try to occupy him to break the addiction, like doing the groceries or "raking the leaves," or just running stupid errands for you.
But as my addiction-ridden family has taught me, if he doesn't want help, you can't force him...but you can sure as hell try.
Best of luck with this; hopefully everything will work out for you, even if he ends up not being a part of it.
xIxSkyDancerxIx
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Sadly not everyone things to actually DO things nowadays with all the technology and easy access stuff around you. I'm not saying that he's not addicted and that it's a good thing in any way, but if the OP is just getting upset without doing anything about it (not saying that she hasnt tried or anything) then i dunno.. doesn't seem fair to get upset.
It does sound like he's addicted to it, so I was merely suggesting that the OP drag her bf out and show him that hey, anime isn't the only thing exciting here.
Go give him some porn and tell him to watch that instead. haha sorry sorry.. I'm jus high on junk food and chem
| I don't agree with you at all. The anime thing has started interfering with his life, precluding sleep and social activities. Now it's affecting his relationship. And, to say "Well, what's he supposed to do? Why don't you suggest something?" is just...it sloughs the responsibility for not being addicted to a damned TV/Computer screen off on the non interested party. Do SOMETHING. Clean the house, rake the leaves, play with the dogs, go for a jog, get a job, go rock climbing, draw, exercise your body and mind instead of letting something spoon feed you. (not you you obviously) |
Sadly not everyone things to actually DO things nowadays with all the technology and easy access stuff around you. I'm not saying that he's not addicted and that it's a good thing in any way, but if the OP is just getting upset without doing anything about it (not saying that she hasnt tried or anything) then i dunno.. doesn't seem fair to get upset.
It does sound like he's addicted to it, so I was merely suggesting that the OP drag her bf out and show him that hey, anime isn't the only thing exciting here.
Go give him some porn and tell him to watch that instead. haha sorry sorry.. I'm jus high on junk food and chem
Kuuipo
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The point is-its an addiction. Anything that overtakes a life to the extent where a person drops out of all other activities is more than a preoccupation. He's neglecting other facets of his life. It's also a very passive activity. The brain is actually more active during the dream phase of sleep than watching something on a screen.
| Originally Posted by SingFrAbsoltion
For several months now, my boyfriend has been addicted to anime and that's the only thing on his mind now. He watches it every day, sometimes he doesn't even go to sleep until 7am because he can't stop. It pisses me off so much because he can just sit home all day and watch 20 episodes a day and only get up to eat and go to the bathroom! I was away on vacation for 3 weeks and since he doesn't have his car right now and this was all he was doing every fucking day. I can't take it anymore, I hate when he talks to me about it, I don't give a shit what episode came out and what happened in it. I hate when he calls me and it's on in the background and I can hear it, it got to the point when I hang up on him if I hear that he's watching it. I can over and I see that he was watching it because it's still on the screen, I told him to never watch it when I'm there. For the first month or two I didn't care, I thought he would calm down, I even listen to him talk about it. Now, I can't stand it, I fucking hate how he's wasting his time like this with nothing better to do. I tried talking to him but he doesn't get it. I don't know what to do about this anymore, help? |
The point is-its an addiction. Anything that overtakes a life to the extent where a person drops out of all other activities is more than a preoccupation. He's neglecting other facets of his life. It's also a very passive activity. The brain is actually more active during the dream phase of sleep than watching something on a screen.
*Stargazer*
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How old is he? Does he do anything? How does he get by in life if all he does is watch anime?
Personally, if I were in your situation, I'd kick his rear to the curb. But then I don't have time in my life to babysit someone who wants to watch tv all day. I'm just a no-BS person. You may have more patience than I. If that's the case, I think you need to have a serious intervention with him. He has an addiction, like others have said.
Personally, if I were in your situation, I'd kick his rear to the curb. But then I don't have time in my life to babysit someone who wants to watch tv all day. I'm just a no-BS person. You may have more patience than I. If that's the case, I think you need to have a serious intervention with him. He has an addiction, like others have said.
Honey B. Fly
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theres nothing wrong with having hobbies but that does sound annoying. i know a few people who are WAY into anime like that too though, i dont get it either. i have fav shows too but i could never watch 20 in a row.
good luck. im not trying to stereotypeat all but the few i know who are like that are lazy idiots.
good luck. im not trying to stereotypeat all but the few i know who are like that are lazy idiots.
alien21xx
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There was a time when I was like your boyfriend. Fortunately, I didn't have an SO who can be so annoyed with me. I think that type of addiction to TV can lead to a very lonely life in the future, once you're over it. I hope you're able to help him out of this. Maybe even doing boring everyday stuff can help to take his mind out of this? If it doesn't, I hope you'll reevaluate your situation. I know if I were my boyfriend at the time I was addicted to anime, I wouldn't even waste time with myself.
AlarmAgent
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If he's a young guy, and he doesn't have a whole lot of responsibilities he should or needs to be engaging in, I don't necessarily think him wiling his time away with television is really a bad thing. He's just wasting time in his own way, you can't fault him for not having a bunch of various hobbies and interests. Sure, he'd probably be a more well-rounded person if he did engage in other things, but if he doesn't, you really can't force him to. Lead a horse to water, and all that.
However, the key word in your situation is balance. If you've expressed obvious displeasure with his newfound hobby/obsession, he should at least make an effort to curb the anime a bit. If he doesn't make any motions to do so, and only half listens to you on the phone, that's pretty disrespectful to you.
So, I guess what I am saying is, someone having a pointless hobby that they're pretty focused on isn't always a bad thing (see : makeup
), but the second it started effecting you two's relationship he should've taken a step back, and listened to you. If my interest in makeup ever made someone I cared for feel uncomfortable, I'd take their feelings into consideration and do a little reflecting on my actions.
Maybe, the next time you see him face-to-face, tell him how you feel, very calmly. Hanging up on him is probably just making him feel like he's being the rational one, it almost never works. Just explain that you are sick of hearing about anime, and that you feel you're being disrespected...or you know, however YOU actually feel, not just some internet forum reader's words in your mouth!
However, the key word in your situation is balance. If you've expressed obvious displeasure with his newfound hobby/obsession, he should at least make an effort to curb the anime a bit. If he doesn't make any motions to do so, and only half listens to you on the phone, that's pretty disrespectful to you.
So, I guess what I am saying is, someone having a pointless hobby that they're pretty focused on isn't always a bad thing (see : makeup
), but the second it started effecting you two's relationship he should've taken a step back, and listened to you. If my interest in makeup ever made someone I cared for feel uncomfortable, I'd take their feelings into consideration and do a little reflecting on my actions.Maybe, the next time you see him face-to-face, tell him how you feel, very calmly. Hanging up on him is probably just making him feel like he's being the rational one, it almost never works. Just explain that you are sick of hearing about anime, and that you feel you're being disrespected...or you know, however YOU actually feel, not just some internet forum reader's words in your mouth!
_trimm_trabb
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Have you ever seen those creepy, slightly overweight, balding 45 year old men pondering the anime section of Best Buy for hours on end? Don't let your boyfriend turn into one of those.
SingFrAbsoltion
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Okay, so we had a talk and I think it actually worked this time! I think I explained myself better this time and he finally got it...We've been together for over a year and he wasn't always like this, it's a fairly new problem, so hopefully things can get back to normal. I don't see a problem with him watching it every once in a while, but the fact that he's such a smart guy made it that much more frustrating that he was wasting his time like that.
Thanks for your help girls! =]
Thanks for your help girls! =]
Kuuipo
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I thought that was Britney Spears original target audience/////////////
| Originally Posted by _trimm_trabb
Have you ever seen those creepy, slightly overweight, balding 45 year old men pondering the anime section of Best Buy for hours on end? Don't let your boyfriend turn into one of those. |
I thought that was Britney Spears original target audience/////////////
Babylard
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oh god. I can totally understand his addiction. I used to be super super addicted to games and anime. I would wake up, play online rpgs for as long as i can stay awake and go back to bed. Whenever I start an anime series, I'll try to watch as many as I can and finish the series because I am so darn into it! i had a pretty huge addiction with lineage2. honestly, i am glad I overcame that. i had friends telling me to play world of warcraft, and i was so afraid and avoided that game at all costs. i did not want to revert back to that addiction lifestyle. these things can seriously ruin lives, no joke.
honestly, it can definitely be hard to break away from. you may really need to help him get back into life and help him "moderate" the amount of episodes he watches. perhaps he's lost interested in real life, so you gotta help him get out there! You really need to force him out of the house. it's one of those times where you need to put your foot down and make him realize the reality of all the time he is wasting away and what he could be acomplishing.
You should maybe tell him that he doesn't need to watch it all at once. it is obvious, but some people don't know this. when you leave and you come back, the episodes will still be there for you to watch. addiction is a major problem and can really screw your life. I speak from experience because it ruined my chances of getting into the good schools back in my hometown.
honestly, it can definitely be hard to break away from. you may really need to help him get back into life and help him "moderate" the amount of episodes he watches. perhaps he's lost interested in real life, so you gotta help him get out there! You really need to force him out of the house. it's one of those times where you need to put your foot down and make him realize the reality of all the time he is wasting away and what he could be acomplishing.
You should maybe tell him that he doesn't need to watch it all at once. it is obvious, but some people don't know this. when you leave and you come back, the episodes will still be there for you to watch. addiction is a major problem and can really screw your life. I speak from experience because it ruined my chances of getting into the good schools back in my hometown.
