I know this is after the fact, but I just recently joined an online dating site after being persuaded by some friends. They kind of just told me that there's no harm in it and it would be a great way to meet people and the least I could do, especially since sometimes it's hard to meet people. They told me that if I found I wasn't into it, to just cancel the subscription after a month. I joined right before Christmas, probably around the 15th and already I'm talking to about 3 guys. Bachelor 1 was the first one to email me and we did the usual "you seem nice, your profile sounded interesting" dance and since then, we've been texting almost every day, have met for coffee (just this past weekend), have talked on the phone a few times (usually for about 2 hours or more) and we have plans to go to the movies on Saturday. We have alot in common and I'm very interested in seeing how things go. He's not really much of a "texter" I've found, but when we are in person or on the phone, we pretty much don't stop talking. I'm 32 and he's 39.
Bachelor 2 is 26 and I do feel a little strange talking to someone younger than me. He "winked" at me first, then I winked back and then he emailed me. We exchanged a few emails and then on NYE, he gave me his number and asked if I was free the next weekend (which is this weekend) and we started texting back and forth almost immediately. We have not spoken on the phone but I'm supposed to have dinner with him on Sunday. So far from his pictures, I think he's immensely attractive but that's not to say I'm not attracted to #1. The more I talk to 1, the more I feel like I need to maybe concentrate on one person.
Bachelor 3 and I have been chatting back and forth for just a couple of days but he wants to go to dinner soon as well and frankly, I'm getting a little overwhelmed. He's around the same age as I am. I know that I have no committment to any of them and I'm perfectly free to talk to all 3, but part of me feels guilty for it. My best friend has been trying to get me to see that this is a great opportunity and I should take it for what it is and get to know all of them and then of course "eliminate" as time goes on and I know she's right, especially since technically I've only been on one date so far and haven't made it to the other 2 dates yet. I think part of it too is that this has never happened to me before. I've never in my entire life had THREE guys interested in me at the same time. Usually it's always been one guy and I stick with that til it either does or doesn't work out so I think that's what's a bit overwhelming for me. My bestie even pointed out that if we're all on the same site, then it follows we are all doing the same thing and I'm probably not the only one they are talking to or dating either. I know this is true and yet I still feel a bit out of my element. She's pointed out too that just b/c I'm talking to all of them, doesn't mean it'll work out with any of them and I know this too but I don't want to overextend myself either.
Has anyone with experience with online dating had a situation similar that they can give me some feedback or advice on before I go nuts? I know I need to relax and just go with it, but I'm finding it hard to just "let it be" for now. I don't want to hurt any feelings and I'd love to have as little drama as possible. HELP!! LOL.
