sasse142
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My sister in-law (she's my husband's brother's girlfriend...Does that make her my sister in-law? Anyways....) just called me and told me that her and my brother in-law went to city hall today and got their liscense to get married. I wasn't happy and tried to show otherwise but I think she noticed my true feeling in the tone of my voice. They've been together 17 yrs and have 4 children (all girls)...oldest is 16 and the youngest is 5 (they're all 3 yrs apart), she had her first child at 15 (sad but true). My BIL is a complete asshole, he's very macho and believes that women have to cater to men...he got that from my father in-law. Worse of all my BIL and FIL are very abusive men (should I mention that my BIL works for the police department). Its so bad that if my mother in-law or sister in-law so much as look the wrong way that'll almost always guarantee them a smack in the face (thanx god hubby didnt' turn out like them). Oh yea and I should mention that my SIL knows that my BIL is out in the street having affairs, her attitude is that if she doesn't see it with her own eyes then its not real, despite the fact that people have told her he's doing his dirt and she her self has heard messages on his voicemail from other women. Anyways, just 2 days ago my BIL and SIL got into it really bad, t'was scary, I was there with her while she cried like a little child. My 16 yr old niece somehow got smacked in the face really hard in the midst of all that drama. I've tried for so many years to give her advice, I also tried to make her realize that her daughters are really suffering (they all get hit as well). I told my SIL that she's teaching her daughters that its ok to be treated that way by a man and its not right. They have the right to fall in love in the future and be truly happy.....LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT. Now she's getting married Thursday and she's estatic, I really feel that my BIL is doing it just to shut her up since thats what she really wants. If nothing changed in 17 yrs I doubt a piece of paper is going to. I'm mad at her cause I know she can do better, she deserves to be truly happy and her daughters shouldn't live in fear in their own house. Yesterday when I spoke to her and told her some stuff and a bit of how I feel she said that she really really loves him and plans to stay with him.
I'm really upset and not happy at all. Its my nieces I'm really concerned about. I feel helpless and wish that I could knock some damn sense into her.
I'm really upset and not happy at all. Its my nieces I'm really concerned about. I feel helpless and wish that I could knock some damn sense into her.