msburgundy
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so, I just need to vent. If anyone wants to listen and give advice, I welcome it. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 years, we have lived together for most of that. He's always sort of been on his own planet and done things in his own way. He is spoiled and rather self centered. All things I've put up with and been ok with until recently. I know everyone has their own issues. He has been so depressed, unhappy, grumpy and easily frustrated for a several months now. Yet, he does nothing to change his situation. He told me about a month ago that he wanted to live on his own for awhile, but stay together with me.
at first, I thought it might be a good idea. Then, the more I thought about it, it started to make less sense. I mean, he's already self centered, wouldn't living on his own make him more self centered? He has pushed me away more and more. He doesn't talk to me much, kiss me or anything. I've told him over and over again that I love him and I am willing to work things out with him but I can't deal with being ignored any longer. Still, no change. things only have gotten worse.
So, last night I told him I think it's time to break up. He took it as a total surprise. ??? He thinks I am being extreme. He is really pissed and said, fine you can have all our stuff I'll be completely moved out by tommorrow night.
I told him I think that's a rash decision and that we should take it step by step. He's leaving for vacation in a few days and will be gone for three weeks, so I thought it would be a good time for him to think about things and look online for a new place to rent. I just don't like how he hates me now, like I've ruined his life.
I feel so bad, I really did want everything to work out for us. But, how can I have a relationship with someone like this? It's so confusing. He doesn't listen to everything I say, he only hears what he wants to hear.
I understand he's upset, but was hoping he would either be mature about the whole thing or beg for me to stay. I think I am doing what's best for both of us and am trying to keep that in mind.
Thanks girls, I feel better already.
at first, I thought it might be a good idea. Then, the more I thought about it, it started to make less sense. I mean, he's already self centered, wouldn't living on his own make him more self centered? He has pushed me away more and more. He doesn't talk to me much, kiss me or anything. I've told him over and over again that I love him and I am willing to work things out with him but I can't deal with being ignored any longer. Still, no change. things only have gotten worse.
So, last night I told him I think it's time to break up. He took it as a total surprise. ??? He thinks I am being extreme. He is really pissed and said, fine you can have all our stuff I'll be completely moved out by tommorrow night.
I told him I think that's a rash decision and that we should take it step by step. He's leaving for vacation in a few days and will be gone for three weeks, so I thought it would be a good time for him to think about things and look online for a new place to rent. I just don't like how he hates me now, like I've ruined his life.
I feel so bad, I really did want everything to work out for us. But, how can I have a relationship with someone like this? It's so confusing. He doesn't listen to everything I say, he only hears what he wants to hear.
I understand he's upset, but was hoping he would either be mature about the whole thing or beg for me to stay. I think I am doing what's best for both of us and am trying to keep that in mind.
Thanks girls, I feel better already.