gildedangel
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So my boyfriend has had night terrors since he was a small child. Sometimes it is screaming bloody murder, sometimes it is muttering gibberish, and sometimes it is patting my face while I sleep. When he spends the night at my place he once in a great while has one, and it has only ever been patting my face or talking gibberish in his sleep. Normally I nudge him awake and we go back to sleep.
So the other night at about 1 in the morning he started patting my face and talking gibberish like usual; and he sounded really scared. I rolled over to wake him up to find him staring at me. He then put his hands around my neck as though he was going to strangle me (he is still asleep). I put my hands in the front of my neck between his hands and my neck to give me time to wake him up. He DIDN'T squeeze, his hands were just around my neck as though he was going to choke me. I was about to knee him in the chest to wake him up but he woke up first, and he was really freaked out and he told me he was sorry and started to cry. This all happened within about 5-10 seconds. I told him that I wasn't mad and that he didn't hurt me; but he still feels really bad. He doesn't remember what he was dreaming about. He talked to his mother (a highly respected general physician) about it. She thinks that it was a one-time thing and won't refer him to a sleep therapist (basically she doesn't want to spend the money on a sleep therapist, he has had terrible night terrors for years), but I am scared that it is going to happen again. I am not going to talk to her because she isn't a big fan of me and she won't change her mind. Thoughts or suggestions?
So the other night at about 1 in the morning he started patting my face and talking gibberish like usual; and he sounded really scared. I rolled over to wake him up to find him staring at me. He then put his hands around my neck as though he was going to strangle me (he is still asleep). I put my hands in the front of my neck between his hands and my neck to give me time to wake him up. He DIDN'T squeeze, his hands were just around my neck as though he was going to choke me. I was about to knee him in the chest to wake him up but he woke up first, and he was really freaked out and he told me he was sorry and started to cry. This all happened within about 5-10 seconds. I told him that I wasn't mad and that he didn't hurt me; but he still feels really bad. He doesn't remember what he was dreaming about. He talked to his mother (a highly respected general physician) about it. She thinks that it was a one-time thing and won't refer him to a sleep therapist (basically she doesn't want to spend the money on a sleep therapist, he has had terrible night terrors for years), but I am scared that it is going to happen again. I am not going to talk to her because she isn't a big fan of me and she won't change her mind. Thoughts or suggestions?