I know how you feel, hun, and it is tough and tempting. The thing is, with the new guy...the flirt and chase is fun and exciting, but he hasn't know you for 11 years. Would he stick with you after 11 years? Like it or not, you have a history with your husband and if someone has been with you that long, you owe it to them to END your relationship first before moving on. If you are really unhappy with your husband and you think this guy is a sure fire replacement, then end your marriage. But if you just need a thrill, don't do it. Don't cheat. You are better than that. Everything comes back to get you and you'll end up unhappier.