euphrosyne_rose
Well-known member
Long story short b/c I can be long winded
, it's been almost 2 years since I broke up with my last b/f. I'm 31 right now. It was something that was right for me and I haven't ever regretted that decision. I had a few other relationships before him but he was one of my longer ones, lasting almost a year and a half. I won't go into details b/c I've posted about it before, but it's been a major relief to not have him on my shoulders, so to speak.
Up until about 2 months or so ago, I was really enjoying being single and part of it was b/c of the cynic in me who thinks that relationships can be overrated. I was enjoying not having to deal with anyone's bullshit, not having worries over whether the person I was with really cared for me or worrying that he would cheat, leave, etc. I enjoyed the "alone" time that I even went on a trip to Scotland alone for a week.
I think now I'm ready to get back to dating again. It's been long enough and I think that I've been single this long b/c I needed time to figure out what it is I really want. At the same time, I feel like that's sort of a cop out answer b/c what I want now might not be what I want later on. I also was joking to my best friend (who is a gay guy) that maybe I had said too often I enjoyed being single and now the single gods were taking me at my word and he said something that I've been mulling over alot lately. He said, "Well, I wasn't putting myself out there either but I finally did and I met someone." I'm not sure what to think of the phrase, "put yourself out there" b/c really, I feel like it's hard for me to do that. Where I live it's sort of a small town and most of my friends here are either coworkers or neighbors. I work at a small private school so most of the guys I come in contact with are married men with families. I try to go out and do things with friends but usually on girls' night out, we don't get approached alot and I think some of the reason is b/c almost all of my girlfriends are married and guys take note of that. I come across guys all the time that I think are cute in the course of everyday life but I guess I just expect the guy to come to ME and say something to me about being interested. Is that too crazy or do other people feel the same way? I'm just looking for some advice b/c honestly, I am getting lonely in the guy department. And horny.
Any suggestions or advice is appreciated!
Up until about 2 months or so ago, I was really enjoying being single and part of it was b/c of the cynic in me who thinks that relationships can be overrated. I was enjoying not having to deal with anyone's bullshit, not having worries over whether the person I was with really cared for me or worrying that he would cheat, leave, etc. I enjoyed the "alone" time that I even went on a trip to Scotland alone for a week.
I think now I'm ready to get back to dating again. It's been long enough and I think that I've been single this long b/c I needed time to figure out what it is I really want. At the same time, I feel like that's sort of a cop out answer b/c what I want now might not be what I want later on. I also was joking to my best friend (who is a gay guy) that maybe I had said too often I enjoyed being single and now the single gods were taking me at my word and he said something that I've been mulling over alot lately. He said, "Well, I wasn't putting myself out there either but I finally did and I met someone." I'm not sure what to think of the phrase, "put yourself out there" b/c really, I feel like it's hard for me to do that. Where I live it's sort of a small town and most of my friends here are either coworkers or neighbors. I work at a small private school so most of the guys I come in contact with are married men with families. I try to go out and do things with friends but usually on girls' night out, we don't get approached alot and I think some of the reason is b/c almost all of my girlfriends are married and guys take note of that. I come across guys all the time that I think are cute in the course of everyday life but I guess I just expect the guy to come to ME and say something to me about being interested. Is that too crazy or do other people feel the same way? I'm just looking for some advice b/c honestly, I am getting lonely in the guy department. And horny.
