Help Needed! This guy is so confusing, what's going on!

shellygrrl

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I think you need to find out where you two stand. You need to talk to him, find out what he thinks of you, if he's a swinger or polyamorous, or just a womanizer. Then go from there.
 

Barbie1

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He doesnt sound interested hes probably the type who flirts with everyone like you said. I know guys like that too who are super flirty and touchy feely but they act like that with every girl you just dont see it .I would bring it up have the talk and ask him but chances are if you were a thing you would know about it .I have guy friends who flirt with me and touch me sometimes hell one even touched my boob but they are like that with every girl it sounds bad but thats just how some guys act with women you shouldnt take it personal most of the time it doesnt mean anything to them they just view it as harmless flirting.I once had a guy who I thought was into me he said I was cute little did I know he would say every girl was cute and I mean EVERY girl lol so sometimes they just say things and are super touchy feely but they are not romantically interested in you it can get confusing.For an example I have a guy friend and we hungout and when I was talking I didnt stare at him in the car . I looked straight as I was speaking and the whole time he was looking at me with this like mischevious smile on his face with his eyes squinted like flirting almost but again sometimes guys dont make sense they just do weird things.A lot of the time it ends up not meaning anything.

You know deep down hes not interested you wouldnt have to ask people if he was sorry hun.
 

Rebellefleur

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Ive actually been in this situation.. last year it turns out I was one of many. He never once made the move to sleep with me it was just all flirty, late nights and what not When I brought up the fact that I did have an interest in him.. convos, texts, even hanging out would him would be less and less up till we eventually stopped talking all together.
If a guy is into you he will make the move.
 

Barbie1

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Mhm they will start to ignore you for months after you tell them your interested in them especially if they dont feel the same way you do they will cut all ties with you from calls to texts to seeing you ever again because they are scared of confrontation and avoid it like the plague .They dont have a conversation with you about it they kinda just expect you to know whats going on they just assume. I hate how guys just assume you know how they feel such a jerk move but its what all men do .I once really liked this one guy we were like friends for years and one day he like mentioned it or brought it up I forget how he said it but he was the one who started the topic apparently he knew I liked him for years and years and never said anything to me before this.So I finally told him I liked him after he kinda forced me into confessing it over the phone.He said he didnt feel the same way apparently he didnt like me he went down like a list of all the things he didnt like about me he said he was attracted to me though lol so I guess thats why he always flirted / was touching me all the time.Oh but he still wanted to be friends even after he told me all of this lol like why I dont know.Things changed dramatically after that I couldnt even look the guy in the eye we went out once after that a hangout months later and it wasnt so much ackward I just felt like terrible about myself because this guy didnt like me even though he was stupid and would regret his decision later it still did bother me seeing him after that.It brought up a lot of emotions he really hurt me and til this day I still dont think he knows how badly he hurt me he is a boy they will never know things like that though.Just be prepared for things to go badly if you do tell him you like him especially since he sounds shady like the experience I had with a guy once.I couldnt ever see that guy again after what he said to me so this may be the last time you speak to this guy.I was in love with the guy it crushed my world at the time I couldnt even think about him without crying for months it was pretty bad.I would of done anything for that guy too.
 

Barbie1

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Well thats what you need to confront him on.Maybe he just sees you as a friend and thats why he hasnt slept with you / taken it to that level.
 

Rebellefleur

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It sounds like he cares about you.. and respects you enough not to cross the line. However I do think its best to talk to him you dont have to shell out any of your feelings toward him just ask him what hes looking for right now..
 

karmachameleon

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Maybe he is attracted but just wants to keep it casual for now. He might think that having sex will take things to another level. Then again there could be heaps of other reasons too like he is involved with someone else. It sounds like you do get on well though. So, watch your heart and have that conversation when you can.
 
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