Robby_Raynebow
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When I began this job in June, the management of the shop knew full well of my sexuality and the fact that I wore make-up and was more than compliant when asked if I could look more like a woman when coming to work, for the customers.
But
My manager who I hang out with at work when there are no customers, is far from straight-laced, but she has this idea that when you are gay or cross-dresser, or transgender that you have to be a certain way. She is not understanding that I have no wishes to become a woman, I am first and foremost a gay man, who looks like a woman. I told her I am a drag queen (which is closest to what I am), but then shes like "Drag queens don't act that way". She is constantly telling me that women don't act that way, or It seems like I'm trying too hard to be like a woman. And when I try to tell her that, I am not interested in having to act a certain way, because I am not trying to fool anybody. If anyone wants to know, they can ask me and I will tell them flat out, that I am gay and not a woman. As much as I respect transgender men and women, that is not my lifestyle.
Well throughout all my rambling, I'm sure you're all looking for a point. What I'm wondering, Is there a way i can kindly tell her that I appreciate that she cares enough to "try to make me more of a woman", but I would much rather she focus on her and I focus on me, because she is not comprehending what I say to her.
On another note, am I wrong in referring to myself as a drag queen, I know it's not really important what I call myself, but I get asked questions about what I am too much to not have a quick answer. I used to say I am androgynous, but I don't look enough like a man for that to make sense to most people.
But
My manager who I hang out with at work when there are no customers, is far from straight-laced, but she has this idea that when you are gay or cross-dresser, or transgender that you have to be a certain way. She is not understanding that I have no wishes to become a woman, I am first and foremost a gay man, who looks like a woman. I told her I am a drag queen (which is closest to what I am), but then shes like "Drag queens don't act that way". She is constantly telling me that women don't act that way, or It seems like I'm trying too hard to be like a woman. And when I try to tell her that, I am not interested in having to act a certain way, because I am not trying to fool anybody. If anyone wants to know, they can ask me and I will tell them flat out, that I am gay and not a woman. As much as I respect transgender men and women, that is not my lifestyle.
Well throughout all my rambling, I'm sure you're all looking for a point. What I'm wondering, Is there a way i can kindly tell her that I appreciate that she cares enough to "try to make me more of a woman", but I would much rather she focus on her and I focus on me, because she is not comprehending what I say to her.
On another note, am I wrong in referring to myself as a drag queen, I know it's not really important what I call myself, but I get asked questions about what I am too much to not have a quick answer. I used to say I am androgynous, but I don't look enough like a man for that to make sense to most people.
