~LadyLocks~
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So my b/f parents really piss me off when it comes to my daughter...ARGH! Sorry...just really need to vent!
Sometimes we have my b/f's father watch my daughter to try and save money on baby sitting. Don't get me wrong, he's a really good person. Him and his wife always watch my b/f's niece so he is well aware of how to look after a baby/ toddler and has done a great job before but for some reason he never listens to me whenever it comes to my daughter.
One time I dropped her off there and of course I explained to him her eating schedule. That day he ended up taking my daughter and the niece to the park so by the time I came to pick her up at 5 something she was asleep in her car seat. I noticed the unopened baby food jar there on the counter so I thought to myself...if she didn't eat this then what did she eat? I checked her bag and saw all the unopened food still there in the bag which means she didn't eat for about 6-7 hours. Then, after noticing the food I noticed all the diapers I had packed for her which meant not only did he NOT feed her but he didn't change her either!! At that point I was furious!! I right away woke her up and changed her diaper and poor baby had a rash all over. I was so heated that as soon as I left the house I broke into tears. How can someone who knows damn well what it takes to take care of a child, "forget" to do all the things needed? I kept trying to come up with excuses for him...maybe the girls were playing so hard that he forgot to feed or change her. Maybe he's to old (he's 65)to remember what she needs. I just couldn't come up with a good enough reason as to why he didn't do what he needed to. From that point on I told my b/f that he was never gonna watch her again! I would rather pay a sitter to look after her and do all the necessary things then have her starve all day and get a rash from not being changed.
A few months later the baby sitter had an appointment so she couldn't watch her one day and we had no other choice then to let him watch her. What a suprise...she ended up with another rash and a bad one, worse then the first time. Again, I was pissed off!!
There were a few more times when he had to watch her again and I know what you guys are thinking...why would you let him watch your daughter again after neglecting her? Believe me when I say that we had no other choice to leave her there cause if we did then I would not have left her there. I had my b/f call his dad every few hours to remind him to change her and feed her and that worked out just fine but at the same time ridiculous. Why should you have to remind someone who has raised kids of his own to feed and change his own granddaughter? Doesn't make sense but if that's what we needed to do to make sure our daughter was ok then so be it.
Now the incident that happened today...UGH. We are now staying at my b/f parents house till the end of the year to save money since we want to move out of state. Since we've been staying here and my daughter has gotten used to her grandparents, I feel alittle bit more comfortable leaving him to care for Saezha while were at work. Plus, she's older now and doesn't require as much attention as she needed when she was a baby. Right now were on a contract with the sitter. Even though she may not watch my daughter the whole week, we still have to pay her as if she did watch her the whole week. This week has been very slow for my b/f at work and he has come home early everyday since Monday. This morning my b/f calls me again to let me know that he's coming home ealry so I didn't need to take my daughter to the sitter since she lives way on the other side of town and my house is right by my job. He asked his dad if he can watch her for about an hour until he gets home from work and he said that was fine but he was leaving for a bit and had no problem taking my daughter as well as the niece with him. So I changed her and sent her off with her grandpa. Saezha was so excited to go since her cousin was also going, whom she loves spending time with. Since they weren't going to be gone that long I only sent her two diapers that were already in her bag form the day before, and her juice cup. I again had to remind him that she had not eaten breakfast since she just woke up and she needed to eat. Well, I get home and she's still not home which made me feel uneasy knowing that she only had 2 diapers in her bag and no food to munch on. My b/f said she was still out with the grandfather at his sisters house (which was fine since her cousins were there for her to play with). We have a meeting to go to at 8 tonight and since we needed a sitter for the hour that will be gone since his dad is going to the gym and can't watch her, his sister said she would watch my daughter which meant the grandfather was gonna leave her there and go straight to the gym from there which meant we wouldn't see her until around 9 at night. I wasn't having that! I asked my b/f to call his father and have him bring my daughter home and we would drop her off at the sisters house before our meeting. We hadn't seen her all day long and I wanted to spend some time with her before we left to the meeting. Not to mention she needed to be changed and fed cause who knows when the last time she ate was. The father had to come home to get his gym stuff anyway so he brought her home just like we asked. I was anticipating a rash but thank god she didn't have one and the father had said she's been eating all day...wheww! My daughter walked in with good spirits and looked like she was in one peace and then I wondered to myself...am I over reacting? I still couldn't understand why he didn't tell me they were gonna be gone all day so I can pack her more diapers and food.
Anyway, the reason for posting this is to vent out my frustration, get advice on how to handle these kinds of situations in dealing with the in laws. Or, am I over reacting? Should I not worry as much when she's with her grandfather and just let things be and shut my mouth about things?
If no one reads this then it's fine, at least I got to vent.
Sometimes we have my b/f's father watch my daughter to try and save money on baby sitting. Don't get me wrong, he's a really good person. Him and his wife always watch my b/f's niece so he is well aware of how to look after a baby/ toddler and has done a great job before but for some reason he never listens to me whenever it comes to my daughter.
One time I dropped her off there and of course I explained to him her eating schedule. That day he ended up taking my daughter and the niece to the park so by the time I came to pick her up at 5 something she was asleep in her car seat. I noticed the unopened baby food jar there on the counter so I thought to myself...if she didn't eat this then what did she eat? I checked her bag and saw all the unopened food still there in the bag which means she didn't eat for about 6-7 hours. Then, after noticing the food I noticed all the diapers I had packed for her which meant not only did he NOT feed her but he didn't change her either!! At that point I was furious!! I right away woke her up and changed her diaper and poor baby had a rash all over. I was so heated that as soon as I left the house I broke into tears. How can someone who knows damn well what it takes to take care of a child, "forget" to do all the things needed? I kept trying to come up with excuses for him...maybe the girls were playing so hard that he forgot to feed or change her. Maybe he's to old (he's 65)to remember what she needs. I just couldn't come up with a good enough reason as to why he didn't do what he needed to. From that point on I told my b/f that he was never gonna watch her again! I would rather pay a sitter to look after her and do all the necessary things then have her starve all day and get a rash from not being changed.
A few months later the baby sitter had an appointment so she couldn't watch her one day and we had no other choice then to let him watch her. What a suprise...she ended up with another rash and a bad one, worse then the first time. Again, I was pissed off!!
There were a few more times when he had to watch her again and I know what you guys are thinking...why would you let him watch your daughter again after neglecting her? Believe me when I say that we had no other choice to leave her there cause if we did then I would not have left her there. I had my b/f call his dad every few hours to remind him to change her and feed her and that worked out just fine but at the same time ridiculous. Why should you have to remind someone who has raised kids of his own to feed and change his own granddaughter? Doesn't make sense but if that's what we needed to do to make sure our daughter was ok then so be it.
Now the incident that happened today...UGH. We are now staying at my b/f parents house till the end of the year to save money since we want to move out of state. Since we've been staying here and my daughter has gotten used to her grandparents, I feel alittle bit more comfortable leaving him to care for Saezha while were at work. Plus, she's older now and doesn't require as much attention as she needed when she was a baby. Right now were on a contract with the sitter. Even though she may not watch my daughter the whole week, we still have to pay her as if she did watch her the whole week. This week has been very slow for my b/f at work and he has come home early everyday since Monday. This morning my b/f calls me again to let me know that he's coming home ealry so I didn't need to take my daughter to the sitter since she lives way on the other side of town and my house is right by my job. He asked his dad if he can watch her for about an hour until he gets home from work and he said that was fine but he was leaving for a bit and had no problem taking my daughter as well as the niece with him. So I changed her and sent her off with her grandpa. Saezha was so excited to go since her cousin was also going, whom she loves spending time with. Since they weren't going to be gone that long I only sent her two diapers that were already in her bag form the day before, and her juice cup. I again had to remind him that she had not eaten breakfast since she just woke up and she needed to eat. Well, I get home and she's still not home which made me feel uneasy knowing that she only had 2 diapers in her bag and no food to munch on. My b/f said she was still out with the grandfather at his sisters house (which was fine since her cousins were there for her to play with). We have a meeting to go to at 8 tonight and since we needed a sitter for the hour that will be gone since his dad is going to the gym and can't watch her, his sister said she would watch my daughter which meant the grandfather was gonna leave her there and go straight to the gym from there which meant we wouldn't see her until around 9 at night. I wasn't having that! I asked my b/f to call his father and have him bring my daughter home and we would drop her off at the sisters house before our meeting. We hadn't seen her all day long and I wanted to spend some time with her before we left to the meeting. Not to mention she needed to be changed and fed cause who knows when the last time she ate was. The father had to come home to get his gym stuff anyway so he brought her home just like we asked. I was anticipating a rash but thank god she didn't have one and the father had said she's been eating all day...wheww! My daughter walked in with good spirits and looked like she was in one peace and then I wondered to myself...am I over reacting? I still couldn't understand why he didn't tell me they were gonna be gone all day so I can pack her more diapers and food.
Anyway, the reason for posting this is to vent out my frustration, get advice on how to handle these kinds of situations in dealing with the in laws. Or, am I over reacting? Should I not worry as much when she's with her grandfather and just let things be and shut my mouth about things?
If no one reads this then it's fine, at least I got to vent.