Bianca
Well-known member
Hi everyone,
Maybe some of you remember that I posted a couple of topics about me being depressed. For a while I was feeling better but it's getting worse now, sometimes I feel I don't even want to live anymore. While this is happening, a friend decided to "dump" me.
She and I used to be colleagues and became friends while working together. We both don't work at this company anymore but we decided to keep in touch. We used to sent each other a couple of emails every week. A year ago my boyfriend and I moved in together. We kept on emailing and she promised to come and see my house. After a few months, she still didn't come and see my house altough we agreed on a date. The dates kept changing and soon she didn't even bring the subject up anymore. In the meanwhile (I didn't have a job) she called me for the first time. I was very enthusiast because she asked me how I was doing etc. but I found out she only called because she needed something. She wanted me to work as a receptionist at the company she was working now because she couldn't find anyone and another person took off. I said yes altough bf and I didn't really need the money (it was only a week working) so I stayed with my parents for a week (they live there, I live further away now) just to help her out. After working we went shopping and such and she said: I'm coming to your house soon! When I got back home, she didn't bring the subject up anymore just like last time. When I read her emails, she was always with other friends having fun etc. I started to get pissed. In the meanwhile she was looking for another job (she always mailed at work). I sent her an email saying that I wasn't pleased that, after a year, she still didn't visit me. She sent me an email back that she was very shocked after all the things she had done for me that I was sending her an email like that. She also said that she wasn't sure she wanted to keep contact with me and that she needed time. She said she was not saying she never wanted to talk to me or see me again, but she had lots on her mind and needed time for that. I was like, ok, I will hear from her again (she said she sees me as a little sister and cares for me).
A month later I still hadn't heard from her and it was my birthday. She didn't send me a card, didn't call. I sent her a message on her cellphone, saying that I found it very weird she forgot my birthday. No reply. A month later (it was april, last contact had been in February) it was her birthday and I didn't sent her a birthday card either because I was pissed. When after a long period I still hadn't heard from her (she changed to another job and I don't have her email address) I sent her another message on her cellphone. I told her I was very sad that I didn't hear anything from her and if she wanted to sent me a message if she still wanted contact with me yes or no. No reply.
Up to this day I still haven't heard anything. She was the only friend I had and I cry a lot about it. Sometimes I cry with my cellphone in my hand and I don't know what to do. I already have a lot on my mind because I'm very depressed and now I also have to deal with this. My parents and my boyfriend say I should let it go but I can't. How can someone who is saying she sees me as a sister and cares about me treat me like this. I feel very lonely and depressed and I think a lot about that maybe I'm better of dead. I'm fat, I don't have a job, don't have any real friends...I don't know anymore...what am I doing wrong here? Please give me some advice. Thanks for reading.
Maybe some of you remember that I posted a couple of topics about me being depressed. For a while I was feeling better but it's getting worse now, sometimes I feel I don't even want to live anymore. While this is happening, a friend decided to "dump" me.
She and I used to be colleagues and became friends while working together. We both don't work at this company anymore but we decided to keep in touch. We used to sent each other a couple of emails every week. A year ago my boyfriend and I moved in together. We kept on emailing and she promised to come and see my house. After a few months, she still didn't come and see my house altough we agreed on a date. The dates kept changing and soon she didn't even bring the subject up anymore. In the meanwhile (I didn't have a job) she called me for the first time. I was very enthusiast because she asked me how I was doing etc. but I found out she only called because she needed something. She wanted me to work as a receptionist at the company she was working now because she couldn't find anyone and another person took off. I said yes altough bf and I didn't really need the money (it was only a week working) so I stayed with my parents for a week (they live there, I live further away now) just to help her out. After working we went shopping and such and she said: I'm coming to your house soon! When I got back home, she didn't bring the subject up anymore just like last time. When I read her emails, she was always with other friends having fun etc. I started to get pissed. In the meanwhile she was looking for another job (she always mailed at work). I sent her an email saying that I wasn't pleased that, after a year, she still didn't visit me. She sent me an email back that she was very shocked after all the things she had done for me that I was sending her an email like that. She also said that she wasn't sure she wanted to keep contact with me and that she needed time. She said she was not saying she never wanted to talk to me or see me again, but she had lots on her mind and needed time for that. I was like, ok, I will hear from her again (she said she sees me as a little sister and cares for me).
A month later I still hadn't heard from her and it was my birthday. She didn't send me a card, didn't call. I sent her a message on her cellphone, saying that I found it very weird she forgot my birthday. No reply. A month later (it was april, last contact had been in February) it was her birthday and I didn't sent her a birthday card either because I was pissed. When after a long period I still hadn't heard from her (she changed to another job and I don't have her email address) I sent her another message on her cellphone. I told her I was very sad that I didn't hear anything from her and if she wanted to sent me a message if she still wanted contact with me yes or no. No reply.
Up to this day I still haven't heard anything. She was the only friend I had and I cry a lot about it. Sometimes I cry with my cellphone in my hand and I don't know what to do. I already have a lot on my mind because I'm very depressed and now I also have to deal with this. My parents and my boyfriend say I should let it go but I can't. How can someone who is saying she sees me as a sister and cares about me treat me like this. I feel very lonely and depressed and I think a lot about that maybe I'm better of dead. I'm fat, I don't have a job, don't have any real friends...I don't know anymore...what am I doing wrong here? Please give me some advice. Thanks for reading.