MxAxC-_ATTACK
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And I am not getting it from anyone else! I figured here is a good place, with sooo many people here, Someone has to have some sound advice.
Heres my story, Im sorry if this turns out really long.
I am 24, I live with my mom because I had my own place, but My boyfriend and I decided to move back with our parents until his business gets off the ground, that we we could save money, not have to worry about expenses.
Ok on with my problem.
My mom is engaged, which is great but her Fiance lives in Wales (UK) .Shes is planning on moving over there, which would be fine with me , except, my moms sister (my aunt) is handicapped, she is paralyzed from the waist down, she has no use of her fingers, so she can't do a whole lot, She lives (and has lived) with my grandma and grandpa her whole life. They take care of her. Now there is A LOT of drama involved with that side of the family because they expect EVERYTHING from EVERYONE. My mom is basically moving to escape them, and leaving me behind to pick up the pieces. When she leaves , its gonna be all up to me to take care of everyone because although they can afford to, They refuse to hire any kind of help. They say that everyone is "untrustworthy" I am 25 years old! I still have my entire life ahead of me, I don't feel its fair that I should have to drop everything to constantly be there. All of my other aunts and uncles are no help at all. One moved north, the other leeches off my grandmother, yet does nothing to ever help them out what so ever.
My boyfriend has an established business here in town, and we can't really re-locate like the rest. I can go by myself to live with my dad, find a job in his city, and get my own apartment there, He lives in the California desert (per say) and land is much cheaper out there, so I could afford to live in an apartment on my own. My problem is , having a long distance relationship would be extremely difficult on me.
My complete issue, Do I stay here, to remain at my family's every beck and call, so that I can stay close to my boyfriend, OR do I move away, to escape all the drama I don't need in my life, by then adding another case of having a difficult time not being able to see my boyfriend of 6 years. ?
also I wanted to add, am I being selfish ? Its not that I don't want to Help out with my family, but this is more than helping out, Its basically not being able to have a steady job because I get screamed at if I am not able to be somewhere at a certain time.
someone Help!!
Heres my story, Im sorry if this turns out really long.
I am 24, I live with my mom because I had my own place, but My boyfriend and I decided to move back with our parents until his business gets off the ground, that we we could save money, not have to worry about expenses.
Ok on with my problem.
My mom is engaged, which is great but her Fiance lives in Wales (UK) .Shes is planning on moving over there, which would be fine with me , except, my moms sister (my aunt) is handicapped, she is paralyzed from the waist down, she has no use of her fingers, so she can't do a whole lot, She lives (and has lived) with my grandma and grandpa her whole life. They take care of her. Now there is A LOT of drama involved with that side of the family because they expect EVERYTHING from EVERYONE. My mom is basically moving to escape them, and leaving me behind to pick up the pieces. When she leaves , its gonna be all up to me to take care of everyone because although they can afford to, They refuse to hire any kind of help. They say that everyone is "untrustworthy" I am 25 years old! I still have my entire life ahead of me, I don't feel its fair that I should have to drop everything to constantly be there. All of my other aunts and uncles are no help at all. One moved north, the other leeches off my grandmother, yet does nothing to ever help them out what so ever.
My boyfriend has an established business here in town, and we can't really re-locate like the rest. I can go by myself to live with my dad, find a job in his city, and get my own apartment there, He lives in the California desert (per say) and land is much cheaper out there, so I could afford to live in an apartment on my own. My problem is , having a long distance relationship would be extremely difficult on me.
My complete issue, Do I stay here, to remain at my family's every beck and call, so that I can stay close to my boyfriend, OR do I move away, to escape all the drama I don't need in my life, by then adding another case of having a difficult time not being able to see my boyfriend of 6 years. ?
also I wanted to add, am I being selfish ? Its not that I don't want to Help out with my family, but this is more than helping out, Its basically not being able to have a steady job because I get screamed at if I am not able to be somewhere at a certain time.