NicksWifey
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I'm sure everyone knows how I feel about my fiance's family. I have talked about them on here before. If not, here's a thread when I first started noticing all of their problems: http://specktra.net/f262/fiances-family-long-post-102207/
If y'all read my posts, you know that I have a lot going on health wise. I work 2 jobs and go to school full time so most of the time, I stay stressed. With all of the added shit going on about my upcoming thyroid surgery, I just feel like I'm at the end of my rope. Before you read this, I'd appreciate if no nasty, snide comments were made. I come here for advice, not to be judged. So if you want to read, continue...
Nick and I have been doing pretty well lately. However, whenever his family gets involved, is when the shit hits the fan. I honestly feel like I'm going to slaughter these people, they drive me up the fucking wall. They are the biggest MOOCHERS I've ever met in my entire life and I've known many freeloaders, but his family is the worst. I love Nick, but I don't love his family. His mom and I are getting along better, but she still has her annoying moments. It's mostly his brother and sister that I'd like to dropkick in the face. His dad is an asshole too. To make a long story short, the whole family is constantly coming over here and in different trips, cause they can't get along. Sundays are our only day off together and it would be nice to have one damn Sunday that didn't involve his family coming over, blowing up our TV and internet. But that NEVER happens, cause they just can't stay at their house, they are always over here. Thursday evenings are supposed to be nice, cause we supposedly have them to ourselves, but his freeloading brother is always showing up to download songs and play online and always says he will only be here for 10 minutes but it's usually 90 minutes. Then Nick and him will get into a big argument about how long he's been here and he'll finally leave.
Last Sunday, I had been working on my accounting exam, which is very important. It was due this past Monday and I was busting my ass to finish it up. Nick alerted me that his dad and sister were coming over to watch Prison Break. Ok, I DO NOT understand why in the hell they come here to watch it when they have DVR at their house too. The sister DVRs each episode and watches it obsessively. Knowing his sister and her behavior in the past, I knew she would be throwing a temper tantrum to get on the computer and play on her MySpace, download songs and watch videos on You Tube. I told Nick that I needed to work my exam and he said that was fine. I shut the door to our 2nd bedroom where our computer is and had been working on my exam. The dad and sister showed up and I heard his sister say "I want online to download songs" and Nick replied, telling her no, because I was taking a timed test. She immediately started bitching, whining, throwing this big ass temper tantrum. I was sitting in here, grinding my teeth, seriously about to go out there and whip her ass cause it's obvious she has never had it whipped before. You just don't come to someone else's house and act like that, that is sooooo uncalled for and very immature and disrespectful. I don't care if she's 15 or not, that's how most kids act when they are 6, not teenagers. She acts like this everytime the come over and she can't get her way. If she can't get on the computer, she takes the remote and starts flipping through the channels like a mad woman. They finally calmed her down and they all sat down to watch Prison Break for probably the 10th time. Before they left, she started blowing up and throwing an even bigger tantrum about getting online. Just because we have high speed internet and they only have dial-up, I mean seriously, you would think it was the end of the world. Nick and his dad put her in her place and they finally left.
Later that night, I confronted Nick about his sister's behavior and I was getting tired of her coming over here, always acting like a spoiled brat when she can't have something. We got into a huge ass argument over it. I know in my heart, that if my family conducted themselves in the same manner, he would be all over my ass about it. So no, I do not feel bad for telling him his family needs to chill the fuck out and stop coming over here. These people are always blowing up his cell phone and our house phone to come over. Half of the time when they come over, Nick fights with them. OMG, big surprise, the phone is ringing now and they are on the caller ID!!
Not joking here
It's like these people think this is their home away from home and they are allowed to come here and act however they want. Maybe because I was raised with manners and to act like a civil human being when I go to someone else's house to visit (whether it's family or not), is the reason I can't fathom their behavior.
Nick refuses to do anything about his family and them coming over all the time. You know, I live here too and pay my half of the bills so I believe I have a big say-so in this. I don't understand why he won't side with me over his family, in the aspect that his sister needs her ass beat for coming over to someone else's house and acting like that and because in general, his family constantly freeloads off of him. Nick's mom and dad are always calling here, asking him for money. Nick's brother has been involved in a lot of shady shit lately and to be honest, I do not want him here in my house. He is a sneaky bitch. I got super pissed yesterday morning because I found a text message on Nick's phone from his sister on Friday saying, "Can we come over Sunday? Or will the computer be occupied?" Like this is some kind of fucking dew drop inn/internet cafe where she has the right to be on our computer!
I wonder what it will take for Nick to realize I'm not joking about this shit and that something needs to be done, will it take me blasting his family verbally and a huge fight ensuing? Quite a few times, Nick will tell me that his family is coming over and suggests I leave and go spend time with my parents since I always get annoyed when they come over. Are you kidding me? This is my house and I'm not going to be ran up out of here like some kind of wussy, because his family thinks they are entitled to constantly come over here.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried so many times, both in a civil and angry manner to get my point across to Nick about his family, but he won't buy it. It's like "They're my family, let me deal with them, it's not your business." Well it is my business because I live here too. No, I do not want to end my relationship over it, but these people are driving me up the wall. Oh god, thank you for reading this if you made it all the way through.
If y'all read my posts, you know that I have a lot going on health wise. I work 2 jobs and go to school full time so most of the time, I stay stressed. With all of the added shit going on about my upcoming thyroid surgery, I just feel like I'm at the end of my rope. Before you read this, I'd appreciate if no nasty, snide comments were made. I come here for advice, not to be judged. So if you want to read, continue...
Nick and I have been doing pretty well lately. However, whenever his family gets involved, is when the shit hits the fan. I honestly feel like I'm going to slaughter these people, they drive me up the fucking wall. They are the biggest MOOCHERS I've ever met in my entire life and I've known many freeloaders, but his family is the worst. I love Nick, but I don't love his family. His mom and I are getting along better, but she still has her annoying moments. It's mostly his brother and sister that I'd like to dropkick in the face. His dad is an asshole too. To make a long story short, the whole family is constantly coming over here and in different trips, cause they can't get along. Sundays are our only day off together and it would be nice to have one damn Sunday that didn't involve his family coming over, blowing up our TV and internet. But that NEVER happens, cause they just can't stay at their house, they are always over here. Thursday evenings are supposed to be nice, cause we supposedly have them to ourselves, but his freeloading brother is always showing up to download songs and play online and always says he will only be here for 10 minutes but it's usually 90 minutes. Then Nick and him will get into a big argument about how long he's been here and he'll finally leave.
Last Sunday, I had been working on my accounting exam, which is very important. It was due this past Monday and I was busting my ass to finish it up. Nick alerted me that his dad and sister were coming over to watch Prison Break. Ok, I DO NOT understand why in the hell they come here to watch it when they have DVR at their house too. The sister DVRs each episode and watches it obsessively. Knowing his sister and her behavior in the past, I knew she would be throwing a temper tantrum to get on the computer and play on her MySpace, download songs and watch videos on You Tube. I told Nick that I needed to work my exam and he said that was fine. I shut the door to our 2nd bedroom where our computer is and had been working on my exam. The dad and sister showed up and I heard his sister say "I want online to download songs" and Nick replied, telling her no, because I was taking a timed test. She immediately started bitching, whining, throwing this big ass temper tantrum. I was sitting in here, grinding my teeth, seriously about to go out there and whip her ass cause it's obvious she has never had it whipped before. You just don't come to someone else's house and act like that, that is sooooo uncalled for and very immature and disrespectful. I don't care if she's 15 or not, that's how most kids act when they are 6, not teenagers. She acts like this everytime the come over and she can't get her way. If she can't get on the computer, she takes the remote and starts flipping through the channels like a mad woman. They finally calmed her down and they all sat down to watch Prison Break for probably the 10th time. Before they left, she started blowing up and throwing an even bigger tantrum about getting online. Just because we have high speed internet and they only have dial-up, I mean seriously, you would think it was the end of the world. Nick and his dad put her in her place and they finally left.
Later that night, I confronted Nick about his sister's behavior and I was getting tired of her coming over here, always acting like a spoiled brat when she can't have something. We got into a huge ass argument over it. I know in my heart, that if my family conducted themselves in the same manner, he would be all over my ass about it. So no, I do not feel bad for telling him his family needs to chill the fuck out and stop coming over here. These people are always blowing up his cell phone and our house phone to come over. Half of the time when they come over, Nick fights with them. OMG, big surprise, the phone is ringing now and they are on the caller ID!!
Nick refuses to do anything about his family and them coming over all the time. You know, I live here too and pay my half of the bills so I believe I have a big say-so in this. I don't understand why he won't side with me over his family, in the aspect that his sister needs her ass beat for coming over to someone else's house and acting like that and because in general, his family constantly freeloads off of him. Nick's mom and dad are always calling here, asking him for money. Nick's brother has been involved in a lot of shady shit lately and to be honest, I do not want him here in my house. He is a sneaky bitch. I got super pissed yesterday morning because I found a text message on Nick's phone from his sister on Friday saying, "Can we come over Sunday? Or will the computer be occupied?" Like this is some kind of fucking dew drop inn/internet cafe where she has the right to be on our computer!
I wonder what it will take for Nick to realize I'm not joking about this shit and that something needs to be done, will it take me blasting his family verbally and a huge fight ensuing? Quite a few times, Nick will tell me that his family is coming over and suggests I leave and go spend time with my parents since I always get annoyed when they come over. Are you kidding me? This is my house and I'm not going to be ran up out of here like some kind of wussy, because his family thinks they are entitled to constantly come over here.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I have tried so many times, both in a civil and angry manner to get my point across to Nick about his family, but he won't buy it. It's like "They're my family, let me deal with them, it's not your business." Well it is my business because I live here too. No, I do not want to end my relationship over it, but these people are driving me up the wall. Oh god, thank you for reading this if you made it all the way through.
