****Internet relationships and matches????****

[LittleDevil]

Ok, So I met this guy I dont even remember how, but we talk online on MSN messenger and he's really nice. He lives in New York and I'm in Arizona. We talk every so often or whatever, but last night we had a really nice chat. Anyway, we were on webcams so we could see eachother (we had exchanged pics before) and I dont know I just thought he was attractive. TOTALLY NOT MY TYPE......I like the bad boy, tattoos, skater, punk, looking guys and this guy is SO far from looking like that....he has short hair, wears polo shirts, no tattoos (and doesnt ever plan on getting any), basically just the complete opposite of what I would typically find attractive. He's actually nerdy looking. If I brought him home to my family they would think it was a joke or something. but I dont know, there was something about him that I found really attractive. He is planning a trip here sometime at the end of the year. I am nervous about meeting him for so many reasons, and then really excited. Am I like super retarded or what? Have any of you met someone off the internet? What do u think this whole thing is about me finding someone attractive that is not usually my type? I figured you ladies here on specktra would give me some insight as to what the hell is wrong with me.

oh I hope this makes sense, its too long to go back over and read so im just submitting it anyway!

 

[fafinette21]

Well I've never been in this situation before but I would say you're attracted to him even though you don't think he is your type because of his personality. You've spent time talking to him and have gotten to know him and obviously like the conversations you've had so that's probably where your attraction is coming from.
If you want to meet him then that's great that you are confident to take that step, just always be careful when meeting people for the first time. Although you should always be careful, not just when meeting people you know from the internet!
Good luck, and I hope your meeting with him goes well!

 

[_Ella_]

Take the shot. Be carefull and don´t do strange things, but there could be that little spark. You never know.

 

[laperle]

I use to that a lot in the past.

The first one, I was in love with him... The guy was russian, living in Latvia and he travelled half the world to Rio to meet me. It was a dream and there was no such thing as webcam or skype back then.

Just make sure it's safe, the guy is not a psycho.

 

[yodagirl]

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Originally Posted by fafinette21 Well I've never been in this situation before but I would say you're attracted to him even though you don't think he is your type because of his personality. You've spent time talking to him and have gotten to know him and obviously like the conversations you've had so that's probably where your attraction is coming from. If you want to meet him then that's great that you are confident to take that step, just always be careful when meeting people for the first time. Although you should always be careful, not just when meeting people you know from the internet! Good luck, and I hope your meeting with him goes well!

I completely agree with what she said....Just from the conversations you have had, it sounds like there might be something there. I also agree with always being careful....You should be cautious in any dating situation. You can meet a serial killer/axe murder at the grocery store, club, etc. just as easily as you can on the internet. Good luck with your meeting!

 

[Divinity]

Man this takes me back. My first boyfriend in college was a guy from the net and I actually never saw him over webcams. He did send a pic and I was like 'eh okay.' So, my roommate and I agreed to meet him and his friends at the student center for our first real meeting. Everything turned out great and I was head over heels even before seeing this stunner. So, you never know.... I was glad to do a group meet up like we did for the first time, though - that's a MUST for safety reasons.

 

[NicksWifey]

I have no experience in internet dating, but I agree totally with fafinette21, I think that maybe you like this guy so much is because you like his personality. I love my fiance, not because he was my type at the time when we first met, but because his personality was what I was looking for at the time and am lucky to still have. I prefer the preppy jock, but my fiance is more of a thuggish ruggish type (LOL) but his personality is amazing.
I think that's where you are in this case, you are attracted to this guy because he sounds like a good person. Obviously something got you attracted to him

I would say go for the meeting, honestly, what do you have to lose in this situation? It sounds like you have already gained a friend in this guy. If he's coming to your area in the near future, why not meet up with him? Just take things the way you've been taking them (obviously it's been getting you somewhere

) and see what happens when he plans his trip in the future.

Good luck and keep us posted!

 

[LittleDevil]

Thanks ladies, I knew you guys would give great advice. I completely agree with meeting in a safe location first. I think maybe going out for dinner and drinks with my sister and friends when he first gets here so I can feel him out right away. If we still hit it off then cool, he can stay at my place. If not, then maybe he should get a hotel. Its still just SUPER weird to me how different he is than the guys I am normally attracted to.

 

[laperle]

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Originally Posted by LittleDevil Thanks ladies, I knew you guys would give great advice. I completely agree with meeting in a safe location first. I think maybe going out for dinner and drinks with my sister and friends when he first gets here so I can feel him out right away. If we still hit it off then cool, he can stay at my place. If not, then maybe he should get a hotel. Its still just SUPER weird to me how different he is than the guys I am normally attracted to.

Some people say we only know what we really like by trying other types.

Good luck!

 

[Corvs Queen]

I met my now husband on an old Billy Corgan forum. We've been married four years and have an 8 month old son. He was in Austria and I was in North Carolina. I moved here to be with him because financially it makes more sense. Hope it works out. All the best.

 

[Shaquille]

That makes sense.. my best friend just met someone over the internet (well, they hang out with the same friends, but still they have never met) and he told me, "I am getting married in 2 years.. she's everything I've ever wanted.."

So yes, take the shot, but don't expect too much and be careful.. take your time to get to know him better..

Anyways.. Before I got married, I had a crush on handsome tall guys, romantic.. like the Hollywood type.. but now I'm married with someone totally the opposite.. and I love him so much.. I thought, "ah the type of guy I used to like are really only to be looked at"..

Good luck

 

[Corvs Queen]

Here's a time line of how my story played out.
February 25th- "Met" on the forum and started emailing each other.
March 11th- We promised ourselves to each other. We already knew we belonged to each other.
April 20th- He asked me to marry him over the phone. I said YES!!!!
April 26th- I got my engagement ring in the mail.
July 4th- I moved to Austria and met him in person for the first time at the airport when he picked me up.
August 25th- Got married.

Married six months to the day that we first started talking. It can happen and I don't regret any bit of it. It was right for us and I wouldn't want things any other way. My only wish it to move back to the states sometime but if that never happens I'll still be the happiest woman ever because of him. I know that he loves me and that's the first time that I have known that someone loves me. If it feels right to you then you should definitely follow your heart. Hope you find what you're looking for and all the best.

 

[laperle]

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Originally Posted by Corvs Queen Here's a time line of how my story played out. February 25th- "Met" on the forum and started emailing each other. March 11th- We promised ourselves to each other. We already knew we belonged to each other. April 20th- He asked me to marry him over the phone. I said YES!!!! April 26th- I got my engagement ring in the mail. July 4th- I moved to Austria and met him in person for the first time at the airport when he picked me up. August 25th- Got married. Married six months to the day that we first started talking. It can happen and I don't regret any bit of it. It was right for us and I wouldn't want things any other way. My only wish it to move back to the states sometime but if that never happens I'll still be the happiest woman ever because of him. I know that he loves me and that's the first time that I have known that someone loves me. If it feels right to you then you should definitely follow your heart. Hope you find what you're looking for and all the best.

WOW and YAY!
I love it when a story goes to a happy ending

 

[VeXedPiNk]

Aw Corvs Queen, that is such a great story!!!

Sure, everyone has their "types". But you just can't control who you fall for

 

[prettybaby]

well, we obviously have some catching up to do. pls be carefull letting strangers stay at your place, and we can discuss further, privately.
i have met plenty of ppl online.... and its usually ok, but sometimes its just really hard to tell!

 

[FiestyFemme]

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Originally Posted by Corvs Queen Here's a time line of how my story played out. February 25th- "Met" on the forum and started emailing each other. March 11th- We promised ourselves to each other. We already knew we belonged to each other. April 20th- He asked me to marry him over the phone. I said YES!!!! April 26th- I got my engagement ring in the mail. July 4th- I moved to Austria and met him in person for the first time at the airport when he picked me up. August 25th- Got married. Married six months to the day that we first started talking. It can happen and I don't regret any bit of it. It was right for us and I wouldn't want things any other way. My only wish it to move back to the states sometime but if that never happens I'll still be the happiest woman ever because of him. I know that he loves me and that's the first time that I have known that someone loves me. If it feels right to you then you should definitely follow your heart. Hope you find what you're looking for and all the best.

Aw, that's a great story.

 

[sweetbabyblue]

I remet my current boyfriend online (we went to the same primary school then lost contact for 6 years).
I started liking him before we saw each other again in person. I think meeting online was easier for us both because we're shy people normally and if we hadn't known each other from talking online we might not have spoken to each other in person.
We became close friends after two years and now we've been going out for two years

He's not the type of guy I thought I would fall for, and honestly I dont think we would've noticed each other in normal day to day situations as strangers.
But meeting someone online meant that I saw his personality before his physical features and that's what I love the most about him

 

[User93]

Corvs Queen, thats amazing! I'm really happy for you SO MUCH.

Laperle... OMG. That looks SO MUCH like my story, im even scared girl! I met my bf on the internet girls, we were playing a video game together and met in the voice program while "taking over axis base*go go go*enemy spotted!*. We've been talking online and in cam every single day, had you ups and downs, we are really far away. He hooked with a girl there for 3 days cause he thought we wont even meet and thought he gotta get over me, but came back in that 3 days. I love him SO MUCH. But we were really wondering if we will ever meet even.. Guess what, i live in Russia, Moscow as you may know already, and this summer he took 3 planes to come here from Brasil and hang with me.. Took 3 planes omg.. Im working now, hoping for the best and hoping for some nice vacations in his house in 4 months, his Mom invited me officially.

I think you should definitely give it a try, just really, make sure is is not a pshycho and you are safe. Dont hope for much, so you wont be disppointed - just meet him as a friend, gonna be fun. I wasnt scared at all because i knew my bf more than for 1 year before he came here. So please be safe and have fun!

 

[laperle]

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Originally Posted by Alibi Corvs Queen, thats amazing! I'm really happy for you SO MUCH. Laperle... OMG. That looks SO MUCH like my story, im even scared girl! I met my bf on the internet girls, we were playing a vide game together and met in the voice program while "taking over axis base*go go go*enemy spotted!*. We've been talking online and in cam every single day, had you ups and downs, we are really far away. He hooked with a girl there for 3 days cause he thought we wont even meet and thought he gotta get over me, but came back in that 3 days. I love him SO MUCH. But we were really wondering if we will ever meet even.. Guess what, i live in Russia, Moscow as you may know already, and this summer he took 3 planes to come here from Brasil and hang with me.. Took 3 planes omg.. Im working now, hoping for the best and hoping for some nice vacations in his house in 4 months, his Mom invited me officially. I think you should definitely give it a try, just really, make sure is is not a pshycho and you are safe. Dont hope for much, so you wont be disppointed - just meet him as a friend, gonna be fun. I wasnt scared at all because i knew my bf more than for 1 year before he came here. So please be safe and have fun!

That's sweet! I hope you like it here. If it's his mom inviting, I'm sure they'll make all their efforts to make you feel welcome. Brazilian people are usually very warm and interested to meet people from around the world.

My story was 10 years ago. He's now married, with a kid, but we're still friends. I wish him the best 'cos he's a very sweet guy. I was too young back then to try something more, I wasn't even in college yet.

I don't regret anything, 'cos I met my real love 3 years later. We're not together anymore, but I know life won't let me down!

 

[laperle]

Alibi, if there's anything I can do to help, I'm here!