shadowaddict
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Lou, I just came on here and read how you've been going through such a tough time. I am so very sorry things have been so horrible.
However you look absolutely fabulous and seem to have a positive outlook on the future. I'm so glad you have had friends to support you through the roughest times.
I've always believed that things happen for a reason also. Although sometimes it takes a long time to understand why. My mother used to always say the phrase "This too shall pass" when life takes a sharp turn. She used to tell me to say that to myself as I was going through my divorce many years ago. I've told you my story. Hubby and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary in June. My son and I have been blessed that he came into our lives. That's not to say we haven't had our own bumps in the road, but we are very happy together.
Sadly I'm going through probably the worst time in my life. My son is in one of his angry manic states right now. He won't allow me to see my grandson. I used to watch him all day at least once sometimes twice a week and I saw him for about 15 min on Aug 6th and haven't seen him since. My son has blasted me with emails, texts, and at first calls. The things he has said to me I don't think I could describe. The words evil, mean, and vile doesn't even come close and the profanity was insane. I would gladly go through all the beatings from his biological father again. Bruises, cuts, and such aren't near as painful.
This all started when one day I was suppose to pick my grandson up from daycare he attends twice a week. The night before I had car trouble so that car wasn't an option. I moved his carseat in an extra car we have. I went to leave and it wouldn't start. It was getting very close to 3:00 which he had to be picked up by then. I ran inside told my daughter to grab her purse that we had to take her car. I talked to my son at 2:52 and told him the car situation and that his sister was driving, we moved the carseat to her car and reminded him her air conditioner was broken but the windows would be down. He said whatever, thats fine just get over there cause they charge a ton for every minute past 3.
My husband cleaned the battery cables and got the extra car fixed. I was to watch my grandson the next day. We only have one extra key to that car. I had laid it down when I had ran in the day before to get my daughter. That morning I couldn't find it. When I did I had to speed to get to their house which I was still 10 minutes late and of course caused my daughter-in-law to be late for work. My son gets home before she does so I left before she got home. I got a call from her that evening blasting me. We have always had a very close relationship, like freinds so I was shocked and I started to cry but tried to hide it. She said she had been sick to her stomach since the day before when she thought of her son in that hot car. She told me anyone with any common sense would not put a child in a car without air conditioning. She told me she should have been notified. I explained that I had talked to my son before we left my house and he ok'd it. And yes it was hot but the windows were down and with the air flowing through was ok and that cars didn't used to even have air conditioning in them, which she ignored.
And then of course came the part about me being late that morning. And that she was just handed a huge new account and could get fired for being late (I don't think you would get fired because your sitter was late once, but I didn't say that) She then told me that she didn't like what I feed him while watching him. I reminded her that I watch him at their house and feed him what she has set aside and tells me to feed him. She eventually hung up on me. I got a call about an hour later from my son screaming and cursing me telling me I wasn't welcome in their home and to stay away from them and I wan't allowed to see my grandson. She sent me an email a few days later with even more crap and mocked me because I became upset during the call from her. I did not remind her the countless times she has called me or come to me crying and asking me what to do because my son had one of his explosions and has taken it out on her, so far not physically. She ended with telling me that I am not to call, text, or email her, that she would delete them without reading.
The last time there was any contact was the horrible email from my son a couple of weeks ago. He ended it with Happy F*cking 50th Birthday, have a nice life. My birthday was last Sunday the 9th and of course I never heard from him.
I cannot make any sense of this. My husband says you can't be rational about things or people that are irrational.
I have worked in pre-scools and with children many times over the years and I can say that is one area that I am good at. I have low self esteem and never think I am good at anything but I've always been good with children and have had salary bumps and awarded a bonus before because I was chosen the top person.
Sorry I took over this thread with my troubles and vomited my life at y'all. And I'm sorry Lou that I turned this into my issues.
On topic, I can't wait to see ven more about this collection. It looks way more exciting than last year. I hope there are great reviews about the products. I need to search for more info since I haven't been on much lately. I was excited when I saw the holiday collection thread.
However you look absolutely fabulous and seem to have a positive outlook on the future. I'm so glad you have had friends to support you through the roughest times.
I've always believed that things happen for a reason also. Although sometimes it takes a long time to understand why. My mother used to always say the phrase "This too shall pass" when life takes a sharp turn. She used to tell me to say that to myself as I was going through my divorce many years ago. I've told you my story. Hubby and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary in June. My son and I have been blessed that he came into our lives. That's not to say we haven't had our own bumps in the road, but we are very happy together.
Sadly I'm going through probably the worst time in my life. My son is in one of his angry manic states right now. He won't allow me to see my grandson. I used to watch him all day at least once sometimes twice a week and I saw him for about 15 min on Aug 6th and haven't seen him since. My son has blasted me with emails, texts, and at first calls. The things he has said to me I don't think I could describe. The words evil, mean, and vile doesn't even come close and the profanity was insane. I would gladly go through all the beatings from his biological father again. Bruises, cuts, and such aren't near as painful.
This all started when one day I was suppose to pick my grandson up from daycare he attends twice a week. The night before I had car trouble so that car wasn't an option. I moved his carseat in an extra car we have. I went to leave and it wouldn't start. It was getting very close to 3:00 which he had to be picked up by then. I ran inside told my daughter to grab her purse that we had to take her car. I talked to my son at 2:52 and told him the car situation and that his sister was driving, we moved the carseat to her car and reminded him her air conditioner was broken but the windows would be down. He said whatever, thats fine just get over there cause they charge a ton for every minute past 3.
My husband cleaned the battery cables and got the extra car fixed. I was to watch my grandson the next day. We only have one extra key to that car. I had laid it down when I had ran in the day before to get my daughter. That morning I couldn't find it. When I did I had to speed to get to their house which I was still 10 minutes late and of course caused my daughter-in-law to be late for work. My son gets home before she does so I left before she got home. I got a call from her that evening blasting me. We have always had a very close relationship, like freinds so I was shocked and I started to cry but tried to hide it. She said she had been sick to her stomach since the day before when she thought of her son in that hot car. She told me anyone with any common sense would not put a child in a car without air conditioning. She told me she should have been notified. I explained that I had talked to my son before we left my house and he ok'd it. And yes it was hot but the windows were down and with the air flowing through was ok and that cars didn't used to even have air conditioning in them, which she ignored.
And then of course came the part about me being late that morning. And that she was just handed a huge new account and could get fired for being late (I don't think you would get fired because your sitter was late once, but I didn't say that) She then told me that she didn't like what I feed him while watching him. I reminded her that I watch him at their house and feed him what she has set aside and tells me to feed him. She eventually hung up on me. I got a call about an hour later from my son screaming and cursing me telling me I wasn't welcome in their home and to stay away from them and I wan't allowed to see my grandson. She sent me an email a few days later with even more crap and mocked me because I became upset during the call from her. I did not remind her the countless times she has called me or come to me crying and asking me what to do because my son had one of his explosions and has taken it out on her, so far not physically. She ended with telling me that I am not to call, text, or email her, that she would delete them without reading.
The last time there was any contact was the horrible email from my son a couple of weeks ago. He ended it with Happy F*cking 50th Birthday, have a nice life. My birthday was last Sunday the 9th and of course I never heard from him.
I cannot make any sense of this. My husband says you can't be rational about things or people that are irrational.
I have worked in pre-scools and with children many times over the years and I can say that is one area that I am good at. I have low self esteem and never think I am good at anything but I've always been good with children and have had salary bumps and awarded a bonus before because I was chosen the top person.
Sorry I took over this thread with my troubles and vomited my life at y'all. And I'm sorry Lou that I turned this into my issues.
On topic, I can't wait to see ven more about this collection. It looks way more exciting than last year. I hope there are great reviews about the products. I need to search for more info since I haven't been on much lately. I was excited when I saw the holiday collection thread.
