eastsidesunset
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I recently got engaged, and so far, it's been more of a pain in the ass than it needs to be. He doesn't want to tell anyone until after my birthday (which is in Feb.) because he thinks the family will take it better if they're told when I'm closer to being done with college (I'm in my fifth year, going on 23, so it's not like I'm super young and it's a concern). In a way, I understand, but for goodness sake, I want to wear the amazingly perfect ring already because it's lonely in it's box, haha.
Today we were talking, and I brought up the idea of a small reception (we don't want to do a ceremony really, while the appropriate papers will be filled). He freaked out. He is absolutely dead set against doing something with anyone more than our parents. Now, I come from a huge Latin family, who are always down for a party (haha), and will be expecting something if I announce I'm getting married. I'm the first born in my family, too, and not having a wedding will devistate my mom (and me, I'm not going to lie). I've already agreed to do away with a ceremony, but is it wrong of me to not want to budge on a reception. I know the wedding isn't completely about the bride, but I would hope that we could come to some sort of compromise. He says no, he doesn't want a reception at all, and that I can wait a few (10) years to have what I'd like. It's not like I want something huge and expensive, but I want to be able to show everyone I know (well, not everyone) how much I love him, and want them to share in such an important day with me.
Am I wrong or something? He says I'm being difficult, I say he's a jerk.
His solution: spend the money we would have spent on a wedding on a honeymoon, and do something small with our family somewhere (Vegas??). He says I can still wear a pretty dress and play princess for a day. I say screw the dress the only thing he's getting with a Vegas wedding is jeans and a tshirt. The only thing in this world getting me into a dress is a wedding....I'm have strong hatred towards dresses, haha.
Sorry for the rant, I just need some advice!
Today we were talking, and I brought up the idea of a small reception (we don't want to do a ceremony really, while the appropriate papers will be filled). He freaked out. He is absolutely dead set against doing something with anyone more than our parents. Now, I come from a huge Latin family, who are always down for a party (haha), and will be expecting something if I announce I'm getting married. I'm the first born in my family, too, and not having a wedding will devistate my mom (and me, I'm not going to lie). I've already agreed to do away with a ceremony, but is it wrong of me to not want to budge on a reception. I know the wedding isn't completely about the bride, but I would hope that we could come to some sort of compromise. He says no, he doesn't want a reception at all, and that I can wait a few (10) years to have what I'd like. It's not like I want something huge and expensive, but I want to be able to show everyone I know (well, not everyone) how much I love him, and want them to share in such an important day with me.
Am I wrong or something? He says I'm being difficult, I say he's a jerk.
His solution: spend the money we would have spent on a wedding on a honeymoon, and do something small with our family somewhere (Vegas??). He says I can still wear a pretty dress and play princess for a day. I say screw the dress the only thing he's getting with a Vegas wedding is jeans and a tshirt. The only thing in this world getting me into a dress is a wedding....I'm have strong hatred towards dresses, haha.
Sorry for the rant, I just need some advice!
