meiming
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Hey gals and guys,
I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this topic. Do you think it's possible for 2 people who have been friends for years (I mean over a decade already) to transition over to thinking of each other as more? I guess why I am posing this question to you all is because I think I'm starting to have more than platonic feelings for one of my friends that I've known for 13 years.
We've never gone there with each other and I honestly don't even know how he thinks of me. Part of my problem is that I've been hurt before and rejected many times by guys that I've cared for but who haven't felt the same way and I'll be honest - I fear rejection perhaps more than anything. The other thing is that we 2 are a part of a bigger group of people who hang out on a semi-regular basis and my confession or pursuit of this would make things very public in a way. Also, at least a couple of the guys in the group have at one point confessed to me that they liked me and I rejected all of them. They all have girlfriends/fiances now but I worry about weirdness. Oh yeah and one of those guys is his best friend. Plus there's a nosy girl in the group (isn't there always) who has been bugging me since before christmas if I like him or are interested in him and part of me doesn't want to give her the satisfaction of being right because I know I'll never hear the end of it. (I know I'm petty)
To my close friend that is also part of this group, I've told her before that of any of the guys it'd probably be this guy that I could even see myself being with. But he's definitely one to shy away from relationships and has always maintained this "I'm still too young to grow up" attitude. The reason for my burgeoning attraction is that I've always felt an ease when talking to him and we've shared deep conversations in the past without hesitation. For quite a number of years we didn't really talk or just superficially in group conversations when we hang out. More recently we've bantered with each other easily and rib on each other all in good fun. I feel I can joke with him and he won't get offense and I can just generally act stupid around him without worry. Plus, I went to lunch with him a couple days ago and found that we can still talk about the serious stuff or more philosophical stuff as well.
I know this is very long winded but what do you think?
TIA and love ya all!
I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on this topic. Do you think it's possible for 2 people who have been friends for years (I mean over a decade already) to transition over to thinking of each other as more? I guess why I am posing this question to you all is because I think I'm starting to have more than platonic feelings for one of my friends that I've known for 13 years.
We've never gone there with each other and I honestly don't even know how he thinks of me. Part of my problem is that I've been hurt before and rejected many times by guys that I've cared for but who haven't felt the same way and I'll be honest - I fear rejection perhaps more than anything. The other thing is that we 2 are a part of a bigger group of people who hang out on a semi-regular basis and my confession or pursuit of this would make things very public in a way. Also, at least a couple of the guys in the group have at one point confessed to me that they liked me and I rejected all of them. They all have girlfriends/fiances now but I worry about weirdness. Oh yeah and one of those guys is his best friend. Plus there's a nosy girl in the group (isn't there always) who has been bugging me since before christmas if I like him or are interested in him and part of me doesn't want to give her the satisfaction of being right because I know I'll never hear the end of it. (I know I'm petty)
To my close friend that is also part of this group, I've told her before that of any of the guys it'd probably be this guy that I could even see myself being with. But he's definitely one to shy away from relationships and has always maintained this "I'm still too young to grow up" attitude. The reason for my burgeoning attraction is that I've always felt an ease when talking to him and we've shared deep conversations in the past without hesitation. For quite a number of years we didn't really talk or just superficially in group conversations when we hang out. More recently we've bantered with each other easily and rib on each other all in good fun. I feel I can joke with him and he won't get offense and I can just generally act stupid around him without worry. Plus, I went to lunch with him a couple days ago and found that we can still talk about the serious stuff or more philosophical stuff as well.
I know this is very long winded but what do you think?
TIA and love ya all!