joytheobscure
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I wasn't quite sure which forum to place this in, I considered chatter, or where self image is discussed. Anyways....
I'm a cross between disturbed, flattered and insulted. I went to get my taxes (*I'm a bit late on filing*) this week from the accountant, who is a pretty nice looking, clean cut, charming man (early 40s).who was desperate for help and asked me if I'd be interested in helping out the rest of the week... well I'm pretty darn broke and thought I cant' miss the chance to make some extra cash. While I've never experienced this and it was a temporary situation its as shocking as entertaining...
So I went in the next morning, dressed conservatively to the point of baggy - peach nails, nude makeup , and he put me to work filing *in his office- but he liked to "talk" --so he asks me all these questions about hobbies etc..I said "I like to spend money" and then he goes into "I know a job that pays lots of money" etc.. *guess what that is, stripping* then he continues on into the topic of women and how his ex cheated etc and all women would cheat, blah, blah, blah, (I don't agree being married 10 years and still very much love my husband). I'm also 29 and starting to feel old and not as attractive as I did a few years back.... so then this guy starts in on most women would take their tops off for $20 - and then of course he asks me if I would.. "NO" - he goes up to $100 then $100, then $1,000,000 - I answered yes and said because thats not gonna happen, he says heasks this to all women that he's around apparently.... (and his full time secretary said he did) anyways I had like Three hours of hearing him ask me about taking my shirt off - comments about me bending over the filing cabinet HA... well... I told him to get a movie, magazine and look away - but my husband is the only one who sees mine *** I suppose had the guy looked like Homer Simpson I'd ran out the door screaming, LOL--- at the end of Day 1 I told him that it was insulting and degrading to talk to women that way to which he said take it as a compliment and how beautiful I was, and my skin was(etc.. which I give mac the credit) my figure etc... he also went into how this was between himself and me...The guy never touched me if he had I'd have been out the door after I kneed him.
So I go home tell hubby, tell best friend, tell someone that used to go to his church, ha ha... Spend an immense amount of time giggling about being harrassed...lol... Hubby wasn't "mad" about it or anything.. he was probably flattered in that male kind of way..
Day two, he didnt' go into any sexual related conversation until the last hour, but by then he'd talked "nice guy " all day long, interesting nice conversations that werent' threatening.... then he asks "how big are they" - (the twins) - UM.. and I told him it wasnt his business - talked about his sex life , exwife and loneliness, its like he had no filter on is conversations, and spent a lot of time bragging about his money that he made I said a couple of things - etc.. that were in a nature that I wouldn't normally but you know he was going on about his desires and I told him that he could take care of himself while he was away from his girlfriend - wrong thing to say... argh.Then he goes on about how he hopes to marry his girlfriend but he's open for anything, omg... about 10 mins before leaving I said - "By the way I told my husband about our conversations and he wasnt upset or anything, if he had been he'd have been up there" then he shuts up--- what kind of IDIOT would think he could be a pervert and talk to me knowing I'm married ALL DAMN day and then can't believe I'd tell my own husband what he said!!! AND the dick says "well what about what you've said" - I said "I'd tell my husband what I'd say he knows I have a dirty mind," - ARGH... well his full time secretary just happens to be my husbands coworkers wife. Oh and get this, he's open with other people too - he told my mother when she picked up her taxes that "He's off women and all women want to do is jump his bones" - YEAHHHH............
Anyways.... It was interesting couple of days with which I have mixed feelings...I have a friend who had been married to a doctor and said that men that have money seem to think they are entitled to whatever they want I kind of thought that she was exaggerating on some of that, but I've come around. Overall I kind of feel sorry for that guy, he's got some insecurity issues I'm sure - I mean he had good qualities, and was intelligent and way too open with anything he thought. My trouble is I'm too damn open if people start questioning me and I am not a good liar.
I'm the person that I've never had men approach me... and keep my distance from a lot of people and worked with teachers etc. and never ran into anyone quite like that. I am still debating how deep this thought is... I'm wondering how wrong I was to be flattered by being complimented and insulted at the same time... I think I'm just at the point that I'd always thought it was something that happens to other people or is on the movies etc. I think working with perverted teenagers whose minds are always in the gutter and the emotionally disturbed made my tolerance for the weird higher. :::Shrugs:::: comments --similar situations??
I'm a cross between disturbed, flattered and insulted. I went to get my taxes (*I'm a bit late on filing*) this week from the accountant, who is a pretty nice looking, clean cut, charming man (early 40s).who was desperate for help and asked me if I'd be interested in helping out the rest of the week... well I'm pretty darn broke and thought I cant' miss the chance to make some extra cash. While I've never experienced this and it was a temporary situation its as shocking as entertaining...
So I went in the next morning, dressed conservatively to the point of baggy - peach nails, nude makeup , and he put me to work filing *in his office- but he liked to "talk" --so he asks me all these questions about hobbies etc..I said "I like to spend money" and then he goes into "I know a job that pays lots of money" etc.. *guess what that is, stripping* then he continues on into the topic of women and how his ex cheated etc and all women would cheat, blah, blah, blah, (I don't agree being married 10 years and still very much love my husband). I'm also 29 and starting to feel old and not as attractive as I did a few years back.... so then this guy starts in on most women would take their tops off for $20 - and then of course he asks me if I would.. "NO" - he goes up to $100 then $100, then $1,000,000 - I answered yes and said because thats not gonna happen, he says heasks this to all women that he's around apparently.... (and his full time secretary said he did) anyways I had like Three hours of hearing him ask me about taking my shirt off - comments about me bending over the filing cabinet HA... well... I told him to get a movie, magazine and look away - but my husband is the only one who sees mine *** I suppose had the guy looked like Homer Simpson I'd ran out the door screaming, LOL--- at the end of Day 1 I told him that it was insulting and degrading to talk to women that way to which he said take it as a compliment and how beautiful I was, and my skin was(etc.. which I give mac the credit) my figure etc... he also went into how this was between himself and me...The guy never touched me if he had I'd have been out the door after I kneed him.
So I go home tell hubby, tell best friend, tell someone that used to go to his church, ha ha... Spend an immense amount of time giggling about being harrassed...lol... Hubby wasn't "mad" about it or anything.. he was probably flattered in that male kind of way..
Day two, he didnt' go into any sexual related conversation until the last hour, but by then he'd talked "nice guy " all day long, interesting nice conversations that werent' threatening.... then he asks "how big are they" - (the twins) - UM.. and I told him it wasnt his business - talked about his sex life , exwife and loneliness, its like he had no filter on is conversations, and spent a lot of time bragging about his money that he made I said a couple of things - etc.. that were in a nature that I wouldn't normally but you know he was going on about his desires and I told him that he could take care of himself while he was away from his girlfriend - wrong thing to say... argh.Then he goes on about how he hopes to marry his girlfriend but he's open for anything, omg... about 10 mins before leaving I said - "By the way I told my husband about our conversations and he wasnt upset or anything, if he had been he'd have been up there" then he shuts up--- what kind of IDIOT would think he could be a pervert and talk to me knowing I'm married ALL DAMN day and then can't believe I'd tell my own husband what he said!!! AND the dick says "well what about what you've said" - I said "I'd tell my husband what I'd say he knows I have a dirty mind," - ARGH... well his full time secretary just happens to be my husbands coworkers wife. Oh and get this, he's open with other people too - he told my mother when she picked up her taxes that "He's off women and all women want to do is jump his bones" - YEAHHHH............
Anyways.... It was interesting couple of days with which I have mixed feelings...I have a friend who had been married to a doctor and said that men that have money seem to think they are entitled to whatever they want I kind of thought that she was exaggerating on some of that, but I've come around. Overall I kind of feel sorry for that guy, he's got some insecurity issues I'm sure - I mean he had good qualities, and was intelligent and way too open with anything he thought. My trouble is I'm too damn open if people start questioning me and I am not a good liar.
I'm the person that I've never had men approach me... and keep my distance from a lot of people and worked with teachers etc. and never ran into anyone quite like that. I am still debating how deep this thought is... I'm wondering how wrong I was to be flattered by being complimented and insulted at the same time... I think I'm just at the point that I'd always thought it was something that happens to other people or is on the movies etc. I think working with perverted teenagers whose minds are always in the gutter and the emotionally disturbed made my tolerance for the weird higher. :::Shrugs:::: comments --similar situations??
