She's baaaaaaaccckkk...

[MAC_Pixie04]

GAH! Why don't exes understand that they're exes for a reason??

My boyfriend's ex has been calling him and texting him nonstop, and I can't take it anymore. And I call him out on it and all he can say to me is "I'm not gonna ignore her, that's rude." It's RUDE of her to call you while you're at the movies, and then ask who you're with instead of saying "oh okay sorry." Bitch, what difference does it make who he's with? IT'S NOT YOU.

I've never even met the girl and I can't wait to throttle her. The next time she calls or texts, I'm gonna answer it and let her know what's up. They had a dysfunctional relationship, she needs to let it go.

 

[Indigowaters]

Yeah, he needs to nip that in the bud. Have you two talked about it other than when a situation pops up?

 

[MxAxC-_ATTACK]

arrgg!!! that sucks. Exs trying to sneak back in the picture :thumbsdown:

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

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Originally Posted by Indigowaters Yeah, he needs to nip that in the bud. Have you two talked about it other than when a situation pops up?

No because it hadn't been on my mind. It would be like a text every once in a while, like one of those stupid forwarded texts, or a joke, or "hey how are you?" but now she's trying to engage in like full on conversation, and she does it even moreso when I'm around.

Example.
Her text: "What are you doing right now?"
Him: "I'm at Island's"
her: "Cool, with who?"
Him: "My girlfriend."

so then 5 minutes later she calls. he says "I thought I told you I was out at dinner." She says "Oh sorry! I just wanted to ask you something real quick..."

Real quick turns into a 15 minute conversation, and i lose my appetite and my patience.

I can't take it anymore. And she's so snide. When he says he's out she's like "oh with your girlfriend or whatever?" Whatever? No, there's no whatever. i AM his girlfriend, you WERE his girlfriend. she broke up with him, so there's no reason for her to feel like she needs to get back in his good graces, she ended it, she needs to leave it alone.

 

[Indigowaters]

I know this is not right:
But…has he ever become jealous of anything you’ve done before? I’d say chat it up with a friend when he comes around (preferably male). Maybe he’ll have to be in the situation to understand how it feels. Guys just like to shrug things off and pretend we’re making a big deal when sometimes they’re enjoying the thrill of being "chased" after. And he doesn’t realize that once she gets him again (hypothetically, because he’d be a moron to leave you) she won’t want him. Some females are just in it for the "game" and want to see if they’ve still got it or can they steal someone away from their woman. What she doesn’t realize is that she’s sowing a seed for herself, because what goes around comes around and someone’s going to do it to her.

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

No, he's not the jealous type. I always joke to him that i have another boyfriend, which has become a funny thing between us, like when he goes "Do you wanna go to a movie tomorrow?" and he knows my answer will be yes, i say "no, i have a date with my other boyfriend."

I dont really wanna fight fire with fire, because we dont fight much, and I'd like to keep it that way.


I think i'm just gonna have to go off on her until she gets it.

 

[Raerae]

Just take the phone from him, and introduce yourself, be polite (your the better girl

) And explain to her your BOYFRIEND is busy eatting dinner, and hang up the phone.

Dont give the phone back to him. If she calls back, answer the phone for him. When she asks to talk to him, tell her no, and hang up again.

Dont bitch her out though, as much as we ALL want to. Thats just giving her more motivation. Just keep your cool, and control the conversations.

 

[~LadyLocks~]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Raerae Just take the phone from him, and introduce yourself, be polite (your the better girl ) And explain to her your BOYFRIEND is busy eatting dinner, and hang up the phone. Dont give the phone back to him. If she calls back, answer the phone for him. When she asks to talk to him, tell her no, and hang up again. Dont bitch her out though, as much as we ALL want to. Thats just giving her more motivation. Just keep your cool, and control the conversations.

Yes...I totally agree! This will so get on her nerves...good LOL.

 

[mzcelaneous]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Raerae Just take the phone from him, and introduce yourself, be polite (your the better girl ) And explain to her your BOYFRIEND is busy eatting dinner, and hang up the phone. Dont give the phone back to him. If she calls back, answer the phone for him. When she asks to talk to him, tell her no, and hang up again. Dont bitch her out though, as much as we ALL want to. Thats just giving her more motivation. Just keep your cool, and control the conversations.

totally agree. I've been in a similar situation. Being "nice" cools it down. Being "bitchy" just adds more flames to the fire.

 

[IslandGirl77]

Man, I've had this problem too. My b/f's exes try and contact him, after he dumped them like 2 yrs ago. He ignores them and doesn't even respond. One time I acutally got into a e-fight(via IM) with this chick, because I told her to stop IM'ing him and calling. I just got tired of it. I mean if somebody doesn't respond to you, why would you keep trying. Some chicks are just crazy. It used to bother me, but I just realized they are just mad that they lost something that they can't have anymore. But, your man needs to either ignore that heffa or just tell her it's not cool for her to be calling him. Unless they got some baybays together, she doesn't need be in contact with him.

And for the record...I was nice at first, but homegirl is crazy...and then I got pissed. I know it's not the right way.

 

[lara]

We got around this by changing our numbers to new, unlisted digits. :roll:

Trying to get her to stop calling was like talking to a brick wall, plus she had a habit of specifically calling around Christmas and saying 'remember when...'
Bitch, you ran up $50,000 in debt on his credit cards whilst he was deployed overseas, then dumped his ass and tried to get him dishonourably discharged. Anything that starts with 'remember when...' will not be good for you.

I totally agree with Raerae. Quash that tart with manners and poise.

 

[amoona]

omg! when i first started dating my boyfriend he had this stalker ... seriously ... he never dated this chick but he had messed around with her. she is psycho n swore up and down he was gonna marry her. she also lives in vegas n we live in san francisco. she would call nonstop ... once she called him 23 times in a row!!!! he always ignored her but he never picked up the phone and told her to leave him alone. he thought she'd get the point by him not answering ... she didn't.

i drew the line when she e-mailed him pictures of herself naked, as well as a video of herself "playing" with herself. he's very honest and showed me all this, and always told me when she called. so when him and i went to vegas for the first time we bumped into her!! i went off on her and called her out at the bellagio in front of everyone haha. i'll admit i got a lil ghetto. then i threatened to send her pics n video to her family ... she doesn't call anymore.

my advice ... sometimes u jus gotta get a lil ghetto abou it. guys are stupid, my boyfriend was, he thought he was doing the right thing by not answering. your boyfriend thinks he's doing the right thing by being friends with his ex instead of enemies. you take charge n u check that bitch! haha sorry my anger comes out in this subject.

 

[MiCHiE]

I think the fact that he's entertaining her is fueling the fire. Some women respect the fact that you have a new SO, take a hint and go on their merry way. Others figure, "It must be 'OK' if you haven't hung up yet..." I'm guessing she's the latter. He thinks it's "rude" to ignore her, but he can talk to her on the phone while he's on a date with you and that's not "rude" to you? I wouldn't get in the middle of it (yet) because it doesn't sound like he's made you the priority 1) by answering the phone and 2) continuing the convo. When he lets her know it ain't all about her and she continues to call, I would step in with Raerae's advice.

 

[kimmy]

you know, i really never got the ex's calling/messaging to see how things are. my boyfriend's ex did that soon after we started dating and i was horribly pissed. she tore him apart and screwed him over big time, and then left him alone for 3 years and then she hears he found someone he might be serious about, and she comes back? uhh...no.

i told my dad what was up, and asked him if i was right to be upset. he said i had every right to because it looks like she's trying to push her way in front of me, or at least get back in his life. he said also that her asking about me, she's probably hoping to catch it as soon as we start fighting so she can get back in.

i talked to her about it. i wasn't rude, i didn't call her any names or anything. and it all turned out fine, she hasn't bothered him since. she and i talk a little sometimes usually only via MySpace, but she's backed off of HIM and that was the important part.

good luck

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

Well, he deleted her from his phone (It bugged me that he still had her in there) and hasn't answered anymore of her texts. But I think by doing that, she's just gonna start calling more and doing that "Why are you ignoring me?" shit.

If that happens I would LOVE to take the phone and let her know that it's not okay, but he's a Nazi about his cell phone, which makes me even more concerned about wtf he's got in there.

I dunno, hopefully she'll get the hint and just leave us alone. I just hate that little whore. Especially after everything she did to him (lying, cheating, abrupt and inconsiderate EMAIL break up) she has the nerve to try and be friends and he's oblivious enough to let her.

 

[Bianca]

Looks a little like stalking to me! He needs to talk to her and ask her to stop. I don't know if she will listen to you, I think your bf has to talk to her. You know what I mean? Perhaps if you talk to her, it's getting worse (just to bug you).

 

[Miss Pumpkin]

Oh man how do I hate bitches who get in the middle of a relationship... They know he's with someone else now and he's serious about it, and still they can't leave them alone! And the saddest thing is that most of the times they dont even give a shit about the boy, they just want to cause trouble!!!! :shedevil:

 

[MiCHiE]

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Originally Posted by MAC_Pixie04 Well, he deleted her from his phone (It bugged me that he still had her in there) and hasn't answered anymore of her texts. But I think by doing that, she's just gonna start calling more and doing that "Why are you ignoring me?" shit. If that happens I would LOVE to take the phone and let her know that it's not okay, but he's a Nazi about his cell phone, which makes me even more concerned about wtf he's got in there. I dunno, hopefully she'll get the hint and just leave us alone. I just hate that little whore. Especially after everything she did to him (lying, cheating, abrupt and inconsiderate EMAIL break up) she has the nerve to try and be friends and he's oblivious enough to let her.

That's good that he did that and if she keeps calling, make it do what it do

 

[MAC_Pixie04]

yeah that or i'll just beat her ass lol she'll get it then

 

[Raerae]

drop his phone in the toilet by accident... Then make him get a new number =P